June 2020 - Dale Darley

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How Do You Receive Grace?

In book club, on Friday we asked the question – what does Grace mean to you? With a cross-section of people you can expect that we all have a different way of viewing this word. For me it means this:

It’s a gift we get when our prayers are answered. I feel like I am in a safe space, being hugged and supported. I also think of elegance, kindness and compassion. It also makes me think about surrendering in a gentle and humble way.

It seems that we can all find some words, but that there isn’t a definitive answer, which I love. Perhaps because Grace is a feeling? A feeling of being loved?

A phrase comes to mind when I think of something happening to another – there, but for the Grace of God go I. This conjures up feelings of being thankful and blessed.

I’m sure for many the song Amazing Grace will come to mind. For me it’s Neil Diamond – Pretty Amazing Grace

How do you receive grace?

When I asked this question of me, the only things that came were that I needed stillness, acceptance, no judgement and an open heart. I wonder how you do? I think it must be different for all of us.

I think that until you know what it means for you, it will remain difficult to know how you receive it.

How others define Grace

These are the definitions from friends – what would you add?

Mm, as an ex ballet dancer, Grace means how beautifully a body can express feelings without words in the dance, and alternatively great thankfulness.

Good question. To me, the words Grace and love are interchangeable. I think of it as a feeling of complete tranquility and calm, and knowing that you are not alone, and you are part of something wonderful. This morning, I was cuddling Luna, and all of a sudden, I felt a fusion of our energies. I was able to communicate with her, soul to soul, and assure her of my love and support always. To me, that was a true state of Grace. I still feel the vibes from it a couple of hours later.

For me, it’s the word that describes a sacred connection.

Grace would mean prayers, but I’m not very religious, so to me it means style classy elegant genteel and kind

To me, as a Christian, it is the free and unmerited will of God, e.g. in blessings and the promise of salvation.

Contentment.

To me, it means serenity and elegance.

The state of “realizing” we are connected to and in flow with the divine-sacred-whole-authentic-spiritual-beyond physical. For me all this is encompassed in my understanding of the word God, to sacred.

To some/many Grace is tied to Christianity. I don’t know about that. I know I can see something in nature and feel gratitude and remember in a flash that I am always living in a state of Grace. I think we all are but that often we forget. We get caught in the busyness of the physical world, stuck in mental or emotional stress and in physical pain.

When in a state of Grace, we move with serenity and elegance. We are able to say the words others need to heal, we are able to be present.

Grace, to me, means utter acceptance, calm and a clear feeling of being utterly loved and yes, great thankfulness.

A space to be love.

I love the question, Dale! Also the word. For me, surrender to what is (in a positive way), elegance; shades of authenticity and being one’s best self from a soul perspective; beauty, harmony, being in alignment; the opposite of ‘crass’ (could not think of a word); calm. At peace with oneself.

For me, it is a reflection of love, compassion, and kindness.

The vehicle for receiving.

Grace. I have always loved the word, the name and the experience. In a state of Grace, circumstances disappear, and I experience a limitless, totally loving support- often in the most surprising ways.

Grâce (and I love the fact that my autocorrect just put a hat on it) is a moment of the divine. Nothing to do with religion for me. It means ‘thanks to’ in French, and that’s the deep feeling. Gratitude. Being one with all that is. Release.

Peace.

When you peel away all the extra layers of stuff and what’s left is acceptance, truth and beauty. That, for me, is Grace.

For me, Grace means serenity, respect, peace, harmony, compassion, gratitude, acceptance and authenticity.

How do you receive Grace? Good question… I sometimes do ask to receive the strength and Grace to get through something, so I guess I have received it in the form of an energetic power from a source higher than myself.

Questions for your journal

  • What does Grace mean to you?
  • Where does Grace show up in your life?
  • Think of three gifts that you feel have been given from Grace and consider the impact these have made on your life
  • How can you be more open to Grace?

And that’s it a day to ponder what Grace is and how you receive it.

What Does The Heart Chakra Want You To Know?

I wonder how often we ask the heart what it has to say to us?

It’s something I do most days as I work through my chakras and balance my system before starting my day. And it is usually something I do before I start to journal in the evening.

Connecting to the heart chakra

The exercise in this video invites you to get grounded and centred and to then put pen to paper to ask your heart what it wants to say to you.

In just 10 minutes you will be amazed at what comes up.

In this video, I share what I have written to my heart, from my heart. The very act of reading aloud enables you to connect your heart to your throat chakra – the chakra that is about voice, communication and speaking your truth, among other things.

This is where the magic lies.

By speaking aloud and from the heart you will hear the energy of your words.

Think of the throat as the gateway to your imagination and intuition and if that is blocked, then how can you communicate with them?

What if the thoughts that are being processed at the crown chakra cannot be expressed at the throat?

Imagine what unexpressed thoughts (as well as emotions)  can do to your mind and body and how that might manifest in disease.

In the opposite direction lies your heart chakra, the gateway to self-love and love for others and the gateway to your spiritual and physical self.

Any words you are stuffing words down pushes them back towards the heart and onwards through the solar plexus and to the sacral.

What if your inner child has never been able to express themselves, think of how you might be either silent or speak in only harmful ways.

The power of expression is not just about words, consider how you may love to sing, but have been told you have a terrible voice or that your art is dreadful, how does that make you feel? Angry, unheard, unseen, small, unworthy, dull or uninteresting?

When we are unable to express ourselves we often feel unsafe and ungrounded.

This exercise will help you to balance and align all of your chakras and you will come to not only know yourself better, but you will also find your voice,

I’d love to know how this went for you.

Do you love to journal? The little book of journaling prompts for the heart, is perfect for keeping by your bedside.

The Little Book of Journaling Prompts For The Heart

PS: This exercise is from my book Writing To Heal – Navigating Life Through The Chakras. Sign up for the checklist below and I’ll let you know when it is being published.

Journaling Prompts For Juicy June

Juicy June has arrived and it’s hard to believe that almost half a year has whizzed by. And what a year!

My heart has cried so many times at the stories I have heard and read, I’m not quite sure how this year will be presented in the history books, but it has left me both loving and not loving the human race. I’ve shaken my head in wonder and then wondered – what can I do?

I only know how to be my best self and to always work towards being my best self. And I only know how to love.

Yes, of course I have a lot to learn about being human and to navigate this human through life, but I would like to think that I have been and am choosing faith over fear and love over hate.

A few days ago I closed my May journal and started a new month fresh with ideas and anticipation. As I look back over my lockdown months I’m (sort of) amused at what has come up.

Certainly, some old patterns have needed addressing as I have felt occasionally trapped and triggered by the silliest of things. And then there has been the utter delight of solitude and isolation. As much as anyone can be with three furry ones.

I wonder sometimes just how contrary I can be. I know that lockdown is affecting us all in so many ways. Which is why my journal and writing is once again my saviour.

I ended last months monthly journaling prompts blog with a monthly mission and there are no surprises that there is another one for this month. I love monthly missions as they keep me focused on just one area to create change. Which of course naturally flows into other areas of my life.

It will come as no surprise that I have chosen love as our mission.

What do we know about June?

In Roman mythology Juno the wife of Jupiter is the Queen of gods, so a pretty important woman. She is the goddess of marriage, childbirth, and a champion of women.

So in the theme of Juno what would you like to marry this month? Perhaps creativity with inspiration or peace with harmony, love with kindness? And in doing so what would you like to birth?

For me, it’s a book and a course. I’m completing a new Writing To Heal book and course. I’d also like to explore creativity in art some more and marry together wire and wire mesh to see what I can make. My mind is buzzing with ideas and I have a large frame waiting for something to be created within its borders. Watch this space!

Talking about space and not the James T Kirk stuff, Juno also lent her name to NASA who launched her on Aug. 5, 2011, to go on an amazing adventure to Jupiter.

In this video, scientists talk about how citizen scientists (who knew there was such a thing) have contributed to the project. I am inspired and the start of this video certainly calls out to the artist in me.

My blog got delayed because once I arrived at the NASA site, I stayed to explore. Wow!

I don’t know about you, but I would adore exploring space. Aren’t we lucky that projects like this are available for us to discover more and to be able to traipse into the furthest reaches of the galaxy from our sofas?

June brings in…

June is the sixth month, and a month for me that signals that summer is here. The two birth signs are Gemini and Cancer. Gemini always makes me think about the two sides of things and is characterised by the Twins, Castor and Pollux.

Cancer is about home and family. My mum a Cancerian cares deeply about her family and is guided by her emotion and intuition. She often says that she is an artist and not of this world.

I have my moon in Cancer and I am utterly romantic which one of the reasons our June mission is about love.

Before we move on and as a complete aside, I am currently watching Orphan Black on Netflix – it’s my latest fix. In the series (without giving too much away) there are females who are clones of Leda (female) and males who are clones of Castor (male). In mythology, Leda is Castor’s mother. And one of the clones (and I won’t tell you why) keeps seeing swans and Leda was seduced by a god in the guise of a swan. I can’t believe it’s taken me this long to discover the source of the writer’s inspiration – doh! Aside over…

June is a month for love

Your June mission is to bring more loving kindness to your life.

One of the most beautiful meditations for love is the Metta Meditation. This will get your June started in a gorgeous way and enable you to focus on your heart space.

Metta Meditation

The loving-kindness or Metta meditation is a powerful and seemingly simple meditation that enables us to foster love, affection, appreciation and kindness towards ourselves, others and the world. It also helps us to practice forgiveness and to consider the boundaries that are needed to protect our kind hearts.

With this meditation, there are no expectations, it is a process to enjoy, where you let go, let love and let flow. We start with ourselves because if we cannot love ourselves, how can we love others? I am sure that you will find it healing and calming.

The way that I use it is to focus on me first. I start with me so that I reach a place of love and appreciation for me.

When I first started this practice, I was surprised that the husband I left after discovering his double life was easy to pass loving kindness on to. However, a previous partner was a little difficult and brought up some feelings of anger. I stuck at it and slowly and believe me it was slow, I eventually let go.

When it came to people that I had a difficult time with, I chose to reframe. I didn’t need them in my life and go to lunch with them, but I could choose to see them through the lens of love and know that harbouring unkind feelings towards them was hurting me more.

Sending love to the world is far more manageable. Although I did feel helpless because I couldn’t stop all of the cruelty and injustice that I was witness to. What I could do was to send my love out and release it to a higher power who would know where to send it.

Read through the meditation and practice in a way that works for you, always starting with you.

Get ready to Metta

Find a comfortable place to sit or lie. Close your eyes. Take some deep breaths, in through the nose and out through the mouth, with a sigh. Become aware of your body from head to toe, of your weight, and of the heaviness of your limbs. Relax. Scan your body and simply notice. Become aware of any sensations or feelings, but do not judge.

I invite you to imagine that you have roots growing from your feet into Mother Earth. See them flow all the way into the centre of the Earth where there is a pot of grounding and healing energy. Drink this energy in through your roots and into your body. You are now securely anchored into the ground. Feel yourself becoming grounded.

Breathe up and into your heart. Breathe out. Do a few rounds of this.

Directed to yourself

You begin with yourself because without loving yourself, it is difficult to love others.

Metta Meditation
  • May I be filled with loving-kindness
  • May I be held in loving kindness
  • May I accept myself as I am
  • May I be happy
  • May I know the joy of being alive

Repeat this as many times as you feel you need and then move on to the next step.

Directed to someone you like/ love

When you feel you have established some stronger sense of loving-kindness for yourself, you can then expand your meditation to include others. After focusing on yourself for five or ten minutes, choose a benefactor, someone in your life who has loved and genuinely cared for you. Picture this person and carefully recite the same phrases:

  • May you be filled with loving-kindness
  • May you be held in loving kindness
  • May you accept yourself as you are
  • May you be happy
  • May you know the joy of being alive

Repeat this as many times as you feel you need and then move on to the next step.

After this, you can include others: Spend some time wishing well to a wider circle of friends.

Directed to the world and globally

Then gradually extend your meditation to picture and include community members, neighbours, people everywhere, animals, all beings, the whole earth.

  • May we be filled with loving-kindness
  • May we be held in loving kindness
  • May we accept ourselves as we are
  • May we be happy
  • May we know the joy of being alive

Repeat this as many times as you feel you need and then move on to the next step.

Directed to someone who challenges you

Finally, include the difficult people in your life, even your enemies, wishing that they too may be filled with loving-kindness and peace. This will take practice. But as your heart opens, first to loved ones and friends, you will find that in the end, you won’t want to close it anymore.

  • May you be filled with loving-kindness
  • May you be held in loving kindness
  • May you accept yourself as you are
  • May you be happy
  • May you know the joy of being alive

Repeat this as many times as you feel you need.

That’s it, one of the most powerful meditations I know and one which will I am sure will change your life as well.

Download and print this PDF, keep it by the side of your bed and near the mirror in the bathroom and chant it at least once a day for a month.

Journaling prompts for June

  • Describe what love means to you?
  • How do you know when you are in love?
  • What makes you feel loved?
  • Spell out LOVE and make each letter form a random word. Then write a short reflective piece including these words
  • How can you connect to your inner wisdom on a more regular basis?
  • Name a thing that you love about your body and then a thing you love about your personality
  • What 5 acts of kindness will you do today?
  • Ask your body and heart to talk to you.  What does it want or need?
  • How will I feel at the end of June when I have achieved all I desire for this month?

For more journaling prompts for the heart and creating a heart connection grab a copy of this journal on Amazon.

Click here to get your copy on Amazon

Love to journal? Join The Journaling Club – where you will get a monthly journaling book (PDF) and exercises to keep you motivated. This month is all about love.

Resources

https://mythopedia.com/roman-mythology/gods/juno/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Castor_and_Pollux

https://www.astrology-zodiac-signs.com/zodiac-signs/cancer/

https://www.astrology-zodiac-signs.com/zodiac-signs/gemini/

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