Where do you find your memories? Music is one of the most evocative ways, at least for me. I can often find myself in floods of tears or up dancing as soon as I hear something that pulls me back through time.
Recently I started to listen to music before I work again. This is something I haven’t done in a long time because I like to write to silence, a clean desk and some nice smells. But right now it is energising me. I also put music on before a Zoom call to give me energy and put me in a great place.
Music touches us emotionally, where words alone can’t – Johnney Depp
Music has the power to take you on amazing trips, along lanes, roads, highways and byways to destinations once lived and now forgotten.
I remember sitting in class many aeons ago, and the teacher played music from the Grand Canyon Suite. In the far right corner of the room were pictures of the Grand Canyon and we were invited to write stories about what we saw, felt and heard. I don’t know what I wrote, but in that moment I was lost, and it became a dream to visit this wondrous place.
One Christmas my then partner and I went to Las Vegas for a relatives 60th birthday, and on Christmas Day I flew over the Grand Canyon in an epic and exhilarating helicopter flight with music blaring. The music this time was more rock than classic all designed to fire up your emotions and connect you to the movement of the helicopter, the vast ocean of red rock, floors of bobbly green brush and striated skies of turquoise and pale blue. A veritable feast of pleasure.
By contrast in my party days, my most gorgeous friend and DJ Leroy would play my favourite songs – he would know, it was always Wonderland first, then during the night Whole Lotta Rosie, Come Up and See Me and Carwash. Sadly, he committed suicide and they played Imagine at his grave. In my memory, he is forever in Wonderland. Both Wonderland and Imagine and make me cry. I am sad that he took his life, but also they are tears of gratitude to have known him.
Silly songs like Haircut One Hundred – Fantastic day remind me of my first husband. He thought it was hilarious to come back into the bedroom to find me lying in bed somehow dancing to this, under the sheets.
What about throwing the curtains wide to Elbow – One day like this, whilst singing
“So throw those curtains wide
One day like this a year would see me right
Throw those curtains wide
One day like this a year would see me right”
And anyone who knows me knows that Nirvana and licking Kurt Cobain all over while he strums The Man Who Sold The World gets me every time.
How I wish I could sing and be on stage rocking my stuff out. Words and music really do have the power to move us.
If you are looking for inspiration for your writing and journaling and want to be taken back to another time period, compile a playlist, get up and dance, scribble down whatever words come into your head, have fun, laugh, cry, scream, but most of all capture what it was like to be you then. Please do share your golden musical memories with us.
Be inspired and have a beautiful day.
Listen to one of your favourite songs before you start to write. One of mine is Nirvana and the David Bowie classic – The man who sold the world. When you get your journal write 3 things that you feel gratitude for which are inspired by the song. Ask the following questions and finally, say thank you for what you have…
I hope this brings some joy to your say. Music takes me to some incredible places.
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I awoke this morning to a flooded kitchen. My labour saving reverse osmosis water machine had sprung a leak. I left it last night with a slow drip, a towel and a bowl to catch the water.
Of course, sense would dictate that I should have turned the water off. But as I hadn’t slept well the night before and was completely exhausted, this was the best I could do.
It was while I was mopping and thinking about tonights writing retreat that the words who do you want to become came to me. I had been thinking about the title of the blog and how Sagittarius was linked to the Solar Plexus in the chakra system. Which part of that I asked myself resonated?
Before I go on, look at these four words:
These are Solar Plexus keywords. Which one resonates with you?
Let’s imagine it is confidence. My question who do you want to become would tell me that there are aspects of confidence that would support what you want to experience that would support who you want to become. A more confident something… What is that?
This seems quite simple, but it’s far from that when you start to explore in your journal. Chances are it will surface all kinds of things. This is a great opportunity to explore the roots of your confidence thing.
Mine in case you are wondering is. Asserting my personal power around people who cut me off mid-sentence, do not listen to me and fight to be right.
While mopping up the mess, I vowed to no longer let these people bother me. Breathe and let go.
The emotions that come up are old friends and it is about time that these old friends left…
Ok, yeah, easier said than done, but I have set my intention, and if you know me, I am pretty bloody-minded and will stick to my promises.
In this case, letting these people bother me only hurts me. Doh!
Let me ask you again:
This is the last month of 2020 and to be honest, 2020 wasn’t my favourite year, but I have had worse. Lying in bed with a fractured spine wasn’t much fun. But odd years teach us about courage and resilience. They force us out of our comfort zones and to declutter what does not serve us. Oh, don’t they just! They also ask us what we really want is? (Cue the Spice Girls)
The Sagittarius new moon on Monday, December 14, 2020, is a total solar eclipse. Which makes it a powerful time to be thinking about what you want to manifest for the future.
Dreams tell us a lot about who we are. My invitation is for you is to connect to your wild inner child. The one that has no filters on his or her imagination and ask what are my three wildest dreams.
Here are mine:
I can see all three really clearly in my mind’s eye. Even if you are not visual, use your main communications style and be in the experience.
Now in case, you are thinking I so shallow wanting to be rich beyond my wildest dreams. Or crazy to think that I could fly around Earth and I know you are laughing at the rock chick because you heard me singing in the shower. Let me explain…
All of these dreams mean something else. Yes, I am starting work on my first novel soon, and yes, the person I want to become is more of a creative writer. But the rest is about how I can be of more service in the world. There is something that says to me, with more cash, I can help more people.
I am truly saddened by what I have seen this year. People who can no longer sustain their business or job. People who now have no money or benefits to put food on the table and to pay the bills. I could go on, I have two rescue dogs, what about the lack of funds for the extra abandoned animals? There’s more, you know there is.
Flying around the Earth that is me wanting to become the person who does see more than one perspective. I think I do, but I want to be a better person.
And Wembley. I want my words to touch the hearts of others and inspire them.
So let your inner child letting rip…
Try it. Write down 3 of your wildest dreams, leave them and then look deeper. Go out your journal and explore.
This new moon in Sagittarius combined with a total solar eclipse, is bringing in big changes. A solar eclipse is when the new moon passes directly between the sun and the Earth, blocking out the sun’s light completely.
This is your call to block what you don’t want, what is no longer part of who you are or want to become. To stop, look and listen and to then act on what you intuitively know is who you want to become – as you step into the new, fresh light of the sun – your sun.
Whatever you have experienced in 2020 it is now time to start to say goodbye, au revoir or adios.
You may be ready for a new beginning, which is what I am asking you to think about, but to truly do that you have to let go, which will do on the next full moon.
Emotions could be strong this week, so practice radical self-love and self-care.
Join me on my end of year writing retreat – let in the new and let go of the old.
I don’t know about you, but I have always hated feeling vulnerable. It used to strike me as weak and being unable to help myself. Yet as the years have passed by I have come to see that being vulnerable is powerful. People who are ready to see, feel and understand you, will. And you will see, feel and understand the world in a different way. Which will open the door to greater compassion.
Brene Brown talks about the power of vulnerability, so this is nothing new. She talks about connection as an essential part of being human. To be human is also to be open to vulnerability.
Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our greatest measure of courage.Brene Brown
What we do is put up barriers to showing our vulnerability so that we are not seen, and we often feel that we are not worthy of connection.
When I think of my own vulnerability, it makes me want to cry, because I have felt unworthy of love and connection. I have believed that somewhere inside of me was something dirty, unclean and not nice.
For many years, I blocked out things that happened in my childhood, things that you would not want your daughter or any female counterpart to experience. But I did, and as I woke up and became more aware, I acknowledged that there are many women who have encountered worse than me. Learning that these were lessons, that happened for me and not to me, in the show called life helped me to deal with my stuff. These ‘things’ have helped me to become more of me if that makes any sense?
None of this stopped me making rubbish choices, and it took a sledgehammer from the Universe to finally convince me that all of my experiences are just that, experiences, lessons in my human life and part of the journey back to the light.
When I could see that the beauty was in the spaces between the experiences and that these did not define me, then I was able to share my vulnerability, because it was no longer shameful.
I believe that to feel compassion for your fellow man you have had to have had something test your courage. That of course, may not be the case for you, but for me having stood in uncomfortable shoes means, I believe that I can stand in another’s shoes in the same way.
It’s being vulnerable ourselves that helps us to know another’s vulnerability and to feel deeper kindness and compassion.
When you have allowed yourself to be vulnerable and opened up, you can begin the letting go process. That’s not to say that you have, more that for me, having been through some tough times has made me more compassionate. Or given me the gift of greater compassion.
It hasn’t been easy showing a part of me that I felt was no-one’s business, but actually, it’s been ok. When I say ok, for some things it was, and for some things, it wasn’t.
Some people have able to see into my soul and hold me, while others have chosen to use what I shared as a weapon. And that is ok too because their soul demanded that they live behind their vulnerability and empathy in this moment and maybe this lifetime. I understand this because I as have become a better witness to (an observer of) human behaviour, I accept that not everyone is the same (and divorce is a wonderful liberator…).
When I was able to lose the fear of baring my soul, it was if my compassionate side grew. I no longer cared if I cried in public when something that tore my heart in two presented itself. Compassion for things that meant something to me blossomed. Don’t get me wrong I can be pretty hard-nosed and dispassionate about many things, I’m not completely soft-centred, but I am gentle, loving and kind and I will go out of my way to make others feel safe and cared for.
There have been many times when I have needed something, and nobody has helped me. That hurts, and I still bear the scars of being deserted when I most needed others to see my pain and vulnerability. But I understand that they did not and do not feel the way that I do (or did), and therefore it’s like using a hammer to crack a nut.
I used to think, wait until they need something and see what happens when no one steps forward. Life doesn’t happen like that does it? Compassion doesn’t flow back and forth, it flows around and touches those that need love and support in that moment and from whoever wants and is able to supply it.
The energy of connection drives us closer, like a magnet or a moth to the light, we provide our open arms where and when they are needed. We cannot not.
As I write this, I feel vulnerable and emotional as I remember being alone and needing. I also smile because no matter what others do or don’t do, I will not stand by and not open my heart to someone I feel drawn to support. They may never give back to me. What they might do instead is remember a time when someone was kind and compassionate to them and pass that baton on.
If you are standing on the edge of vulnerability and wondering if you could or should let it pour forth, what is the worst that can happen? Now consider the best that can happen? And if nothing happened would it matter?
The power of showing up as you comes from within.
The more vulnerable you are, I believe the more powerful you come. This means that you use your vulnerability and personal power in a loving, kind and compassionate way.
The more powerful you become in who you are, the more compassion you can show up for others. Or I’d like to think that you would.
Today, as you consider your life, who you are and the others around you, do you feel that you can be vulnerable with all or some of them? Do you think or feel that as you have opened your heart more that you have become more compassionate? And have you accepted that not everyone feels like you do or will do what you do when called to?
I believe that some of us are deeply compassionate and some aren’t and that for us that are we have to take action when called.
This morning I was called to intuitively follow this process to uncover what needed to be dealt with.
I never normally journal in the morning, but this morning I felt compelled to delve into my chakra oracle cards. Pulling three out, (release, service and discovery)
I sat and mused over their meaning to me. After writing just one side of A4 I then felt the pull of 101 affirmations and bizarrely open it up on this affirmation…
Today I am open to discovering the root cause.
When I work with affirmations, I always turn them into questions. Today my only question was how would I find the root of what I had just unearthed? In a flash, the answer came:
Simples… Let me share with you the whole process I went through.
The timelines exercise is a perfect place to begin the journey to discover the roots of an issue. Before you start your timeline, try this breathing exercise, it will put you in a lovely space.
Get comfortable and close your eyes, take a gentle breath, feeling the air going in through your nostrils, into your body, and out of your nose. Connect your roots to Mother Earth and feel connected and grounded.
Breathe in, say, ‘Breathing in, I am calm and connected to the feelings I am experiencing now.’ Breathe out, say, ‘Breathing out, I am calm and connected to the feelings I am experiencing now.’
Allow yourself to feel the feelings; let them be there. Open your awareness to the breath going in, and the breath going out; only focus on this: breath in, breath out. Let the breath take its course, and don’t control it in any way; just notice it.
Let your in-breath and your out-breath fill your mind. That is being mindful of your breath. Keep noticing your in-breath, your out-breath and feel the breath soothing you, comforting you and nurturing you. Feel the inner peace that this brings.
Now surrender. Keep breathing, noticing your in-breath and your out-breath… When you are ready, put pen to paper.
We use timelines and turning points to help us examine the past. We are looking for clues and connection to possibilities and opportunities that might not otherwise seem obvious. Timelines help us to discover locked away thoughts, memories, skills, talents, and experiences, which go to make up your stories. Their value comes from observing and reflecting on what has been captured on your visual storyboard. When you stand back and observe your life, you will gain a lot of clarity. You also need to be prepared to keep walking away to reflect, coming back and trying to see what is missing or what needs moving around. You are looking for patterns, connections, and themes.
Timelines are powerful because they are a storyboard, a pictorial representation and humans see things in patterns. It really is as simple as that. The powerful part comes in taking time to stand back and reflect. To let your unconscious mind go into flow and make the connections. When you do this using visually using colour, your story comes alive. Even if you are a person who says I am a logical left-brainer, let me stop you. You have two sides of your brain and regardless of how you want to pigeon hole yourself as a ‘list kind of person’, your brain will do what it wants, and it will use all of its processing power, right side – the big picture, left side – detail and connections.
This exercise will enable you to uncover the book of your life, so hold that in your intention.
Once you can see the connections, you will be able to see where the connections and aha’s are. For example, things that happened in childhood may have created a lack of self-worth as an adult, which in turn has meant that you have always settled for mediocre jobs, rather than becoming an entrepreneur. Health issues could be as a direct result of emotional pain from actions or inactions. Poor relationships maybe a relentless search for someone like (or unlike) your father. Your inability to write and publish a book could be linked to self-worth around being told you were a rubbish speller.
When you have done this ask yourself what did you learn and what is your next step?
What journey of discovery are you on today?
If this resonates and you want to work with an intuitive coach who will help you to traverse the heady world of being human through the chakras and journaling, please book a call.
When you are developing your intuition and listening skills, a good place to start is understanding what the main way that you communicate is.
Lots of misunderstandings could be avoided if we listened in a different way. Listening requires you to concentrate and use your other senses in addition to simply hearing the words spoken.
I often find it difficult if people go into too much detail and drone on in a communication style that doesn’t match mine. This is when my journal or pen and paper is my best friend. I can scribble and create mindmaps to capture the key points.
I, for example, am highly visual, followed by auditory and kinesthetic. That means I see things and receive information in images. When I get messages (from spirit) they are often in songs and I also get strong feelings.
The same goes for learning. Everyone has an optimum way of learning new information. A person’s learning style is a combination of how they perceive, then organise and process information. When you’re familiar with your learning and communication style, you can take important steps to help yourself learn faster and more easily. Plus, learning how to decipher the learning and communication styles of others – like your colleagues, clients, family and friends – can help you strengthen your rapport and influence with them.
I also use this when I am writing books. I’m not rigid, but I am aware if I use too many visual words. This is something you can do at the edit stage.
Each of us has a preferred communication style (visual, auditory, kinesthetic or auditory digital). There are two more which are gustatory and olfactory. There’s also your intuitive communication style, but well talk about that another day.
Despite having one preferred system you may combine two. E.g. you may be listening to a piece of music which sparks your imagination and you see pictures in your mind, or you may see a picture of a cake and begin to imagine what it tastes like. Yum… I think I might do this too…
People use language based mainly on their 5 senses. By matching their sensory words, you can establish a deep level of trust and rapport. We also listen and make sense in the same way.
Understanding these will help you to frame or ask questions in a more relevant way and of course, help you to understand your preferences and why you may find it difficult communicating or working with others who do not communicate in the same way as you.
One style is not better than another, it is simply your preferred way. However, if you can develop your language so that you can cover each, you will find it more effective when working and being with others.
You have shown me of a way to proceed that looks good and I would like to see more of it
In the simplest terms, a vision board is a collection of images that represent a goal from your bucket list. The aim of this tool is to focus your energy on a particular goal/dream/desire you have. As you find and display the images, you hone your sense of what you want to achieve, making your goals increasingly more concrete.
Vision boards are unique to the person, making them, you can use them to represent any part of your life. There are no rules to size or how you do them. I have a mini-board which is cork one side and a blackboard on the other, and I have a bigger one, which is cork one side and a magnetic whiteboard on the other side.
Vision boarding is straightforward, and it works because you are focusing your attention on what you want. For example, suppose you want to manifest love with a specific person. In this case, your vision board might show fictional or famous couples you’d like to emulate, pictures of places you’d like to go, rings, words of love and anything that means true love to you.
Alternatively, imagine that your dream is to own a successful business. Your vision board might include images of other successful business owners who are role models to you, along with some motivational quotes and affirmations.
Now that you have a better sense of what a vision board looks like, how you make one and how it is used to facilitate particular life goals, let’s take a closer look at how and why this technique is so powerful.
Firstly, remember that the Law of Attraction tells us to focus on abundance rather than lack. In other words, it’s only when we focus on positivity, gratitude and on what we already have that we’re able to attract more goodness into our lives.
Secondly, vision boards can help you overcome limiting beliefs you have about yourself. Each time you choose an image that shows what you want to attract, you challenge that critical inner voice that says I don’t deserve that! or I could never have that. When you create a vision board, you commit to your limitless potential and nurture your sense of self-worth.
In addition, consider that having a vision board around helps to keep your mind constantly aware of the things that you want that are on your bucket list. Even when you’re not looking directly at your board, your subconscious mind will be tuned in to its presence. And the more you focus on the things you want to attract, the more likely you are to manifest them at a faster rate. Also, reviewing your vision board can reframe your mood and help you to see the things that you want in your life.
First, here’s the secret to creating an effective vision board, that to attract what you truly want, you must see it, you must feel it, and you must embody it. Just having just one of these, lessens its effectiveness. In other words, pictures alone aren’t going to move the needle.
So what does? To help you create the best vision board for getting clear on what you want and making stuff happen for the year ahead, here are the essential steps:
Maybe you’ve been daydreaming about the perfect partner, new career, writing a novel or a far-flung holiday. Light a candle and take some space for you to tune in and clarify what you really want—including all of the juicy details. You may want to start with a stream of consciousness writing just to get your initial thoughts out, and then identify the stuff that really lights you up. What about writing out the bucket list for your soul – have you done that? And when was the last time your *really* identified what you wanted?
Before you start creating your vision board, it’s vital that you get a clear sense of what you want so that you can create the right overall theme for the board. To get started ask these questions
Where can mean location, environment or where you want to be in life?
Next, consider the kinds of experiences that you want to have specifically related to your goal(s). What do you imagine doing, and what will it feel like? The perfect day exercise helps with this.
You can have vision board categories on the one board, representing a range of goals.
These may be interrelated, or they may represent different parts of your life. Remember, too, that you also have the option to create more than one vision board, so you needn’t break one board up into categories if you’d prefer to keep each one thematically tight. I have my mini one for my top goals.
Look at your bucket list and scan it closely for any themes that are showing up. For example, if you want to be a spiritual coach, select photos of inspiring people and things. If you want to be a speaker, grab images of people speaking. Or if you want to call in more abundance, photos of entrepreneurial or successful people and money might work for you. The key is to not overthink it, just go with your gut and have fun. Remember you are spending time on your intention, and giving it energy.
Do this before pining anything. Your vision board can either be completely filled up or have lots of empty space. Either way is totally fine. You can allow that empty space to inspire you, knowing that as you go about your days and weeks, you’ll uncover more parts of your dreams and goals to add to your board.
Note: use pins so that you can move your images around.
Some people like to make their vision board small to keep it at work. Others have it next to the mirror in the bathroom, so they see it when they brush their teeth. For me, seeing it on my wall in front of my desk. Walk towards your vision often.
Now that you’ve tapped into what you really want and can see it every day, allow yourself to meditate on these visions by consistently imagining them as real. The more excited you get about what you want to create, the more likely you’ll be to attract it into your life.
The power of consistent visualization comes from creating good habits that keep your vision alive. If you keep doing creative visualization exercises and keep building up your vision board, you train yourself to think about what you want in a positive way. You can think of your vision board as a constantly evolving image of your desires, rather than a static image of one day’s interpretation of those desires.
The key to a living vision board is that you will keep moving things around. What happens when you stick things down is that they stay there and you lose focus. Make sure you review it each week and move things that require focusing on that week.
If you have a vision board that is half cork and half black or whiteboard, then make sure you write your to do’s down and tick them off.
You can take snapshots of your board and put these in a folder and reflect on what happened and record your successes. This is a great reminder that the things that you have focused on are working.
That’s it, simple as….
Book in for a Power Hour and let’s delve into what would make your vision work for you and how to bring it alive.
No one is full of confidence all the time, and everyone has times of low self-esteem and low self-worth. It’s a bummer when it happens. One minute you are full of the joys of whatever season it is and the next wham!
And it’s a sneaky one…
This confidence review and circle exercise have been there to support me when I knew something was coming up. I used this yesterday with a client and I am waiting to hear how things went!
The lack of trust in our own abilities can be damaging to our potential, as it can stop us from doing the things that we are really capable of doing.
Grab your journal, a cuppa and some cake…
Take this quick confidence review, it will, I promise, be quite revealing.
Complete the following sentences:
CONFIDENCE to me means…
When I see someone who has LOW CONFIDENCE levels they:
When I see someone who has HIGH CONFIDENCE levels they:
My confident self:-
When other people see me, they see….
When faced with problems this person (your new confident self) thinks….
Now sit and visualise yourself with all of the new confident traits and abilities that you have. Guess what you had them all the time, you just kept them hidden.
This time we are going to create a tool that we can use anywhere…
The beauty of this is that you can throw down a circle anywhere. So let’s say you have been called for an emergency meeting. One the way to the meeting throw down the circle walk into it as you head to the meeting and voila!
So simple, and yet so powerful…
If this resonates and you want to work with an intuitive coach who will help you to traverse the heady world of being human, clearing blocks on the way to knowing what you want and who you want to be with the magic of the chakras and journaling, please book a call.