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Episode one: Feeling safe, grounded and connected with your root chakra

Listen in to episode one – Feeling safe, grounded and connected with your root chakra

I always feel safe and protected in the world

The bodies natural call is to keep you safe, and this is fundamental to your wellbeing. You will have heard of flight, fright or freeze. This is where your brain decides what the best course of action is when it is faced with a perceived threat. For example, you may get triggered to use one of these responses when you feel unsafe or rejected, your finances are not stable, you are in a caught in a conflict, or when old feelings are surfaced when you face a similar situation from the past. What is important is to know what feeling safe means to you, and to know when you are heading for an emotional hijacking. Then understanding what you can do about it. Notice what happens in your body and work to ground and centre yourself.

You may not be able to stop your emotions flaring up and from reacting to a perceived threat, but you can be aware of your physical state, your internal thoughts and respond productively. One way is to consider your own unproductive response from a past situation and replace it with a productive one. You’ll become more aware of these through journaling and reflective writing. Think of the tree and how, when it has strong roots, it is unlikely to be ripped up from the ground and toppled over.

Journal it: What is the one thing that will make you feel safe and secure right now. Set a timer for 10 minutes and explore

Days Of Gratitude – Music

Gratitude for the power of music

Where do you find your memories? Music is one of the most evocative ways, at least for me. I can often find myself in floods of tears or up dancing as soon as I hear something that pulls me back through time.

Recently I started to listen to music before I work again. This is something I haven’t done in a long time because I like to write to silence, a clean desk and some nice smells. But right now it is energising me. I also put music on before a Zoom call to give me energy and put me in a great place.

Music touches us emotionally, where words alone can’t – Johnney Depp

Music has the power to take you on amazing trips, along lanes, roads, highways and byways to destinations once lived and now forgotten.

I remember sitting in class many aeons ago, and the teacher played music from the Grand Canyon Suite. In the far right corner of the room were pictures of the Grand Canyon and we were invited to write stories about what we saw, felt and heard. I don’t know what I wrote, but in that moment I was lost, and it became a dream to visit this wondrous place.

One Christmas my then partner and I went to Las Vegas for a relatives 60th birthday, and on Christmas Day I flew over the Grand Canyon in an epic and exhilarating helicopter flight with music blaring. The music this time was more rock than classic all designed to fire up your emotions and connect you to the movement of the helicopter, the vast ocean of red rock, floors of bobbly green brush and striated skies of turquoise and pale blue. A veritable feast of pleasure.

By contrast in my party days, my most gorgeous friend and DJ Leroy would play my favourite songs – he would know, it was always Wonderland first, then during the night Whole Lotta Rosie, Come Up and See Me and Carwash. Sadly, he committed suicide and they played Imagine at his grave. In my memory, he is forever in Wonderland. Both Wonderland and Imagine and make me cry. I am sad that he took his life, but also they are tears of gratitude to have known him.

Silly songs like Haircut One Hundred – Fantastic day remind me of my first husband. He thought it was hilarious to come back into the bedroom to find me lying in bed somehow dancing to this, under the sheets.

What about throwing the curtains wide to Elbow – One day like this, whilst singing

“So throw those curtains wide
One day like this a year would see me right
Throw those curtains wide
One day like this a year would see me right”

And anyone who knows me knows that Nirvana and licking Kurt Cobain all over while he strums The Man Who Sold The World gets me every time.

How I wish I could sing and be on stage rocking my stuff out. Words and music really do have the power to move us.

If you are looking for inspiration for your writing and journaling and want to be taken back to another time period, compile a playlist, get up and dance, scribble down whatever words come into your head, have fun, laugh, cry, scream,  but most of all capture what it was like to be you then.  Please do share your golden musical memories with us.

Be inspired and have a beautiful day.

Journal Gratitude and Music Prompts

Listen to one of your favourite songs before you start to write. One of mine is Nirvana and the David Bowie classic – The man who sold the world. When you get your journal write 3 things that you feel gratitude for which are inspired by the song. Ask the following questions and finally, say thank you for what you have…

  • Where does this song take you?
  • What feelings does it evoke?
  • Who does it remind you of?

I hope this brings some joy to your say. Music takes me to some incredible places.

If you love writing and journaling come and join me in Writing To Heal pathway.

New Moon In Sagittarius: Who Do I Want To Become?

I awoke this morning to a flooded kitchen. My labour saving reverse osmosis water machine had sprung a leak. I left it last night with a slow drip, a towel and a bowl to catch the water.

Of course, sense would dictate that I should have turned the water off. But as I hadn’t slept well the night before and was completely exhausted, this was the best I could do.

It was while I was mopping and thinking about tonights writing retreat that the words who do you want to become came to me. I had been thinking about the title of the blog and how Sagittarius was linked to the Solar Plexus in the chakra system. Which part of that I asked myself resonated?

Before I go on, look at these four words:

  • Confidence
  • Assertiveness
  • Personal Power
  • Identity
who do you want to become?

These are Solar Plexus keywords. Which one resonates with you?

Let’s imagine it is confidence. My question who do you want to become would tell me that there are aspects of confidence that would support what you want to experience that would support who you want to become. A more confident something… What is that?

This seems quite simple, but it’s far from that when you start to explore in your journal. Chances are it will surface all kinds of things. This is a great opportunity to explore the roots of your confidence thing.

Mine in case you are wondering is. Asserting my personal power around people who cut me off mid-sentence, do not listen to me and fight to be right.

While mopping up the mess, I vowed to no longer let these people bother me. Breathe and let go.

The emotions that come up are old friends and it is about time that these old friends left…

Ok, yeah, easier said than done, but I have set my intention, and if you know me, I am pretty bloody-minded and will stick to my promises.

In this case, letting these people bother me only hurts me. Doh!

Let me ask you again:

  • Who do you want to become?
  • What do you want to experience more of going forward?

New Moon In Sagittarius – What does this mean to you?

This is the last month of 2020 and to be honest, 2020 wasn’t my favourite year, but I have had worse. Lying in bed with a fractured spine wasn’t much fun. But odd years teach us about courage and resilience. They force us out of our comfort zones and to declutter what does not serve us. Oh, don’t they just! They also ask us what we really want is? (Cue the Spice Girls)

The Sagittarius new moon on Monday, December 14, 2020, is a total solar eclipse. Which makes it a powerful time to be thinking about what you want to manifest for the future.

  • What dreams do you have that you didn’t realise in 2020?
  • How can you let in your future hearts desires?

Dreams tell us a lot about who we are. My invitation is for you is to connect to your wild inner child. The one that has no filters on his or her imagination and ask what are my three wildest dreams.

what are your wildest dreams

Here are mine:

  • To write a brilliant, first, bestselling novel which gets turned into a film and helps me to become rich beyond my wildest dreams.
  • To fly in a spaceship around the Earth, so that I could witness it from all angles and perspectives.
  • To sing on stage at Wembley, clad in rock chick leather gear, wowing the audience with the power and meaning of my songs.

I can see all three really clearly in my mind’s eye. Even if you are not visual, use your main communications style and be in the experience.

Now in case, you are thinking I so shallow wanting to be rich beyond my wildest dreams. Or crazy to think that I could fly around Earth and I know you are laughing at the rock chick because you heard me singing in the shower. Let me explain…

All of these dreams mean something else. Yes, I am starting work on my first novel soon, and yes, the person I want to become is more of a creative writer. But the rest is about how I can be of more service in the world. There is something that says to me, with more cash, I can help more people.

I am truly saddened by what I have seen this year. People who can no longer sustain their business or job. People who now have no money or benefits to put food on the table and to pay the bills. I could go on, I have two rescue dogs, what about the lack of funds for the extra abandoned animals? There’s more, you know there is.

Flying around the Earth that is me wanting to become the person who does see more than one perspective. I think I do, but I want to be a better person.

And Wembley. I want my words to touch the hearts of others and inspire them.

So let your inner child letting rip…

Try it. Write down 3 of your wildest dreams, leave them and then look deeper. Go out your journal and explore.

The new moon in Sagittarius and the solar eclipse

This new moon in Sagittarius combined with a total solar eclipse, is bringing in big changes. A  solar eclipse is when the new moon passes directly between the sun and the Earth, blocking out the sun’s light completely.

This is your call to block what you don’t want, what is no longer part of who you are or want to become. To stop, look and listen and to then act on what you intuitively know is who you want to become – as you step into the new, fresh light of the sun – your sun.

Let’s start to say goodbye to 2020

Whatever you have experienced in 2020 it is now time to start to say goodbye, au revoir or adios.

You may be ready for a new beginning, which is what I am asking you to think about, but to truly do that you have to let go, which will do on the next full moon.

Emotions could be strong this week, so practice radical self-love and self-care.

Join me on my end of year writing retreat – let in the new and let go of the old.

Making Sense Of Your Communication Style

When you are developing your intuition and listening skills, a good place to start is understanding what the main way that you communicate is.

Lots of misunderstandings could be avoided if we listened in a different way. Listening requires you to concentrate and use your other senses in addition to simply hearing the words spoken. 

I often find it difficult if people go into too much detail and drone on in a communication style that doesn’t match mine. This is when my journal or pen and paper is my best friend. I can scribble and create mindmaps to capture the key points.

I, for example, am highly visual, followed by auditory and kinesthetic. That means I see things and receive information in images. When I get messages (from spirit) they are often in songs and I also get strong feelings.

The same goes for learning. Everyone has an optimum way of learning new information.  A person’s learning style is a combination of how they perceive, then organise and process information. When you’re familiar with your learning and communication style, you can take important steps to help yourself learn faster and more easily. Plus, learning how to decipher the learning and communication styles of others – like your colleagues, clients, family and friends – can help you strengthen your rapport and influence with them.

I also use this when I am writing books. I’m not rigid, but I am aware if I use too many visual words. This is something you can do at the edit stage.

What is your preferred communication style?

Each of us has a preferred communication style (visual, auditory, kinesthetic or auditory digital).  There are two more which are gustatory and olfactory. There’s also your intuitive communication style, but well talk about that another day.

Despite having one preferred system you may combine two.  E.g. you may be listening to a piece of music which sparks your imagination and you see pictures in your mind, or you may see a picture of a cake and begin to imagine what it tastes like. Yum… I think I might do this too…

People use language based mainly on their 5 senses. By matching their sensory words, you can establish a deep level of trust and rapport. We also listen and make sense in the same way.

Understanding these will help you to frame or ask questions in a more relevant way and of course, help you to understand your preferences and why you may find it difficult communicating or working with others who do not communicate in the same way as you.

One style is not better than another, it is simply your preferred way.  However, if you can develop your language so that you can cover each, you will find it more effective when working and being with others.

Communication Style – Visual

  • Your thinking process involves creating pictures in your mind.
  • You understand things best when you can ‘get the picture’ in your mind’s eye.
  • You represent ideas and memories as mental images so you learn best when there are diagrams that represent ideas.
  • Your note-taking can be made more effective by using colours and shapes
  • Mind-mapping can be helpful in organising your thoughts.
  • You talk rather fast and because you’ve got the picture in your head of what you’re talking about,
  • You may skim over the details.
  • Other people may notice your tendency to use your hands a lot when talking; that’s your way of describing the pictures in your mind.

Example of language to use

You have shown me of a way to proceed that looks good and I would like to see more of it

Thinking Points

  • You pay attention to how you, your surroundings and others look.
  • You need space to see your internal pictures – you can interrupt your thinking by being in your “picture place”.
  • You can also find it difficult to concentrate with lots of visual activity.
  • You talk quickly, breathe higher and often develop upper body tension. There is a lot more information in a picture than a verbal description.
  • You use visual information for planning, remembering and decision-making.
  • Need to see a picture of what you are saying.
  • You are better at remembering faces than names.
  • You prefer to meet you to see your facial reactions rather than use the phone to understand what you are saying.

Communication Style –Auditory

  • You process your thinking with sounds.
  • You learn best when you can talk things over with someone or listen to what someone has to say.
  • You may be more aware of the sound of a person’s voice, than what they are saying.
  • You can be convinced more by what someone says to you than by what you read in a book.
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What’s In Your Circle Of Confidence?

No one is full of confidence all the time, and everyone has times of low self-esteem and low self-worth. It’s a bummer when it happens. One minute you are full of the joys of whatever season it is and the next wham!

And it’s a sneaky one…

This confidence review and circle exercise have been there to support me when I knew something was coming up. I used this yesterday with a client and I am waiting to hear how things went!

Let’s start with a confidence review

The lack of trust in our own abilities can be damaging to our potential, as it can stop us from doing the things that we are really capable of doing.

Grab your journal, a cuppa and some cake…

What does confidence mean to you?

Take this quick confidence review, it will, I promise, be quite revealing.  

Complete the following sentences:

CONFIDENCE to me means…

When I see someone who has LOW CONFIDENCE levels they:

  • Talk like
  • Use words like
  • Walk like
  • Their body language is

When I see someone who has HIGH CONFIDENCE levels they:

  • Talk like
  • Use words like
  • Walk like
  • Their body language is
  1. I want to specifically improve my confidence because…
  2. When it comes to my confidence I want to be able to…
  3. Having more confidence will mean…

My confident self:-

  • Talks like
  • Use words like
  • Walks like
  • My body language is
  • Thinks like

When other people see me, they see….

When faced with problems this person (your new confident self) thinks….

Now sit and visualise yourself with all of the new confident traits and abilities that you have.  Guess what you had them all the time, you just kept them hidden.

What’s in your circle of confidence?

This time we are going to create a tool that we can use anywhere…

Step one

  • Grab your journal
  • Bring to mind something that is coming up
  • Draw a big circle and into it write:-
  • All of the words that tell you that you are confident
  • All of the other resources that you need for what’s coming up
  • Reflect
  • And at the end
  • What do you learn?
  • What one action will you take to change how you feel?

Step two

  • Grab your journal with the circle in it for guidance
  • Draw an imaginary circle on the floor
  • Throw all the words you need into the circle
  • Step into the circle
  • Let the words wash over you
  • Really feel, sense and know that these are now a part of you

Step three

  • Next, you need a confidence boost
  • Throw your circle down and step into it

The beauty of this is that you can throw down a circle anywhere. So let’s say you have been called for an emergency meeting. One the way to the meeting throw down the circle walk into it as you head to the meeting and voila!

So simple, and yet so powerful…

If this resonates and you want to work with an intuitive coach who will help you to traverse the heady world of being human, clearing blocks on the way to knowing what you want and who you want to be with the magic of the chakras and journaling, please book a call.

Full Moon In Gemini – Who Do You Need To Let Go Of?

It’s curious how things synchronistically come to remind you of what needs to be dealt with. On Friday a lovely friend was talking about not feeling good enough, which reminded me of an affirmation –

I am enough, I have always been enough, and I will always be enough and a journaling prompt – I deserve.

On Saturday night I did a wonderful full moon releasing ceremony with Yasmin Boland (Moonology fame). But strangely on Sunday although I felt ok-ish something was not right. I was soon to be triggered back into that feeling of not feeling good enough. Although I didn’t realise this until this morning.

I was doing a meditation sending love and good feelings to a loved one. This was to be followed by sending the same goodwill to myself. It was then it struck me that I still held feelings of not being good enough. It was palpable. And so enlightening.

Then it struck me that what I needed to do for this full moon in Gemini was to let go of parts of me that no longer served me. As a highly visual person, I was presented with a series of images of my younger self.

There was the girl who won the esteemed packet of felt pens for coming first in a small competition. I remember I was on the last question, I found the book with the answer and raced to claim first place. But it was a hollow victory, it seemed to me that not one of my fellow students was happy for me. Standing on the stage was horrible.

It was the same school who didn’t pick me for the choir… Well, I don’t blame them, I couldn’t sing. But my dreams of being a rock star were smashed against the rocks that day.

Later there was the man who walked up to me in my Paradise Garage leopard print dress to tell me nice body, shame about the face. What he didn’t know was I had abandoned my normal jeans and baggy top to take my courage in my hands to go out like this. Yes, he certainly helped my self-esteem.

leopard print dress

These are, of course, just a few examples. You, like me, will have had a lifetime of stuff coming up despite years of personal growth work. I confess my recovery time from a snide comment is pretty quick. And of course, my journal and energy work sort me out.

The full moon in Gemini a time for more self-love

What I love about this coming up on a full moon in Gemini is that it reminds me of our duality. How our inner world is often hidden from our outer world, but that it is always being reflected and does change the way we see things. It’s like constantly trying to balance our humanness with just being rather than always doing.

Gemini is an air sign, which rules the mind and in the chakra system belongs to the heart chakra. How perfect is that? A reminder to get out of your head and be kind and compassionate when we are feeling not enough and to start to do more self-love activities.

A wonderful self-love activity is love me notes. Write yourself a note on a post-it before going to bed. Pop it on the kettle or fridge. The following morning you will be greeted by a wonderful note from yourself.

Bring in mighty Sagitarrius

We are also in the sun sign of Sagittarius, which is fire, and in the chakra system, this is represented by the solar plexus. The solar plexus is personal power, confidence, being assertive and our identity.

This then leads me to ask – who am I? Or more importantly – who am I when I am my best self?

Another ta-da!

Who do you need to let go of?

Which brings me nicely to the point. Who do you need to let go of? Not what, but who (or is that whom???).

There will be many parts of you hidden from view which your twin now wants you to reveal and observe. Yes, it can be painful bringing up memories, but these are simply pages in the book of your life. Read the page and ask what you can learn from this? What are the gifts?

I want to let go of the girl who feels not good enough. I admit it’s not a major problem, but its come up and that means it needs dealing with.

My way of dealing with this is to write in my journal – who do I want to let go of? Followed by the affirmation that I started with

I am enough, I have always been enough, and I will always be enough and a journaling prompt – I deserve…

Who or what am I giving my power away to?

When you step into not good enough, you are essentially giving away your power. Try these questions:

  • In what ways do I give my power away?
  • What part of my story is this connected to?
  • Where are you telling yourself that you “should” or “must” or “have to” do something?
  • How could I set clearer boundaries?
  • In what ways could I hold more assertive conversations?
  • Why am I doing this?
  • What will I gain from it?
  • What won’t I gain?
  • What can I do differently?

Who do I want to be?

What I have come to believe is who I want to be is about qualities and values. I want to be kind, loving, lovable, nonjudgmental, funny, perspicacious, discerning and extraordinary in an ordinary way. I just want to be the kind of person that others trust and respect. That others know that they can rely on when they need some love or a doggy lick (from the girls, not me).

As ever there will be more that I want to become as I learn and traverse this life. I am like you a work in progress and the never-finished article, and I guess I will only know what the finished article is when I go home to the soul place.

What I know is that the me that I desire to be now, will not be the who I want to be later in my life and I like that. I like the idea that I am forever evolving and becoming, and this is what I believe to be part of the magic of life and being human and just being.

This full moon in Gemini – heart chakra is a call for more self-love and compassion and combined with Sun in Sagitarrius – solar plexus chakra says check-in with your identity, call in your confident self and be all that you can, by letting go of who you don’t want to be.

If this resonates and you want to work with an intuitive coach who will help you to traverse the heady world of being human through the chakras and journaling, please book a call.

The Sun Moves Into Sagittarius. Time To Light The Fire In Your Belly

It’s the final stretch of 2020 as the sun moves into Sagittarius – my sign. It’s been a long and tiring year for many, and I guess one which we all wish had been a little different.

Journaling and walking the furry ones have kept me sane. While I love my own company, I now have cabin fever big time and need to get out more. My moon in Cancer likes to keep me in my shell – but no more! My Sagittarius sun, which loves freedom and change, pulled me out of my comfort zone and dragged me off to Sunday lunch with friends which was not only delicious but food for the soul.

A time to let go

I felt that it was time to let go of being isolated up in the hills. Sun in Sagittarius is a great time to let go of what is not serving you – that might be people or things – only you will know.

I believe that we can use letting go to create change, which means if we can get rid of the toxins in our life, it can help us to heal, improve communications and find that all-important inner peace. Letting go also creates space for something more beautiful to enter your life.

There is so much that we can let go of to create space. What about letting go of the rubbish that your body doesn’t need, that will certainly help you with better sleep and less stress?

What about decluttering your home? If you were to look around your house, what stuff could you give to charity? Or what stuff could you sell on eBay?

What about who is in your life that are not good people for you? I know it’s difficult to get rid of people from your life but think about how you can spend more time with the people that nourish you. I talk about reason season, lifetime people. Who is in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime? Who are those people that you want to hold on to, and the people that you don’t want because they’re toxic?

Letting go doesn’t mean just dumping stuff or washing your hands of something or someone, it means forgiving and letting go of your attachment to something or someone so that you can release them, and heal yourself.

What’s on your decluttering and letting go agenda? Visualise what you want that will bring you more joy, inner peace and contentment.

Ignite the fire in your belly with Sagittarius and the solar plexus

When you have let go of what you don’t want, you have more space to create and invite in the things that you do.

Sagittarius links with the solar plexus in the chakra system, which is also associated with Jupiter the planet of opportunities and expansion. This is a wonderful time to consider who you want to become and expanding into your best self.

Think about igniting the fire in your belly, or setting fire to your desires. What images does the idea of fire conjure up for you? Fire has the power of transforming quickly. However, it can be destructive. But rather than look at this in a negative way consider how you can use it to clear away the ashes and debris at the root chakra, and deal with the suppressed emotions and creativity at the sacral. Then you can set light to your desires.

What can you do to prepare yourself for the sacred fire of awakening to what you want and who you want to become? This is where visualisation is so powerful. You could write about your perfect day and hearts desires and then imagine them being set fire to at the solar plexus and the flames licking your heart and awakening the burning desire you so badly want. Just the simple act of seeing what you want in a new light will increase the fire of enthusiasm for life, what you want and the joy of living.

Get back in touch with your vision

When you have lit the fire, take time to look ahead to your future goals, reevaluate your mission and purpose, and get back in touch with your vision. This is all about getting ready for the last month of the year and wondering about the opportunities available to you in the new year.

I’m just rearranging my mini vision board for what I want from today on… Three things are on my mind:

  • Writing my first novel – it starts in earnest on January 1st
  • My health – As the weather changes it’s easy to eat comfort food and hibernate, so I am focused on continuing to eat well and get out with the furry ones and friends
  • Love to journal books – I’ve just edited the Root Chakra book and waiting eagerly for that to go live – this is perfect for kick-starting 2021 as we move into earthly Capricorn. Look out for the course and live group coaching

When I have these, I will use my journal to explore more and practice visualising them as if they have already happened.

Do you have a mini vision board and if you do – what would go on your mini vision board?

Practice visualisation

I prefer to be a dreamer among the humblest, with visions to be realised, than lord among those without dreams and desires. Khalil Gibran

There is a funny thing you may not know about your subconscious. Whether it is real or not, if you create a mental picture of something, your brain believes it to be true.

When you plant new ideas into your mind using visualisation techniques and repeatedly show these images, your subconscious believes these to be your reality. It will then work hard to continue to create the conditions to make this reality stay constant. This is why visualisation works so well.

You can plant new realities into your mind, and when you continue to practice the technique, it will start to influence your emotions, thoughts, and actions over time.

Create a mental picture, not just of what you want, but also of the person you will be when you achieve it. How will you feel? What will be different about you and your life? The more you visualise this, the more likely it is to become a reality.

Astronaut John Grunsfeld said this: “I was not really scared on my spacewalks. We practice so much and need to stay so focused that it has a calming effect on me. I do a kind of visualisation and meditation in the airlock prior to going outside, to guide my first activities once I get out in space.”

Do you use visualisation to help you to get what you want? What if you had a go, how do you think visualisation could help you focus on your vision or help you to light the fire in your belly? Perhaps the vision of what you desire has several outcomes, what about playing with each outcome and seeing how that feels? What might you learn about what you really want?

The roadmap to your magical future

A fun way to work with your vision is to draw it out. You do this by creating a visual roadmap. I use a roll of brown wrapping paper and coloured pens.

Start by drawing the road that you want to travel. At one end, write now and at the other one word that represents what you want to manifest. Design your journey to your magical destination and put whatever you want on your road in the order that feels right. Have fun!

Next, connect to your muse and go on the same journey in your mind. If you find it hard to visualise, know that you can use other senses to bring it alive, you do not need to be able to see; you could think, feel or sense for example.

  • Find somewhere comfortable to sit
  • Take 3 big deep breaths and exhale loudly
  • Close your eyes and start relaxing each part of your body. This is quite easy to do. Just imagine you are screwing up or tensing each part of your body starting at your toes and then letting them go
  • Keeping your eyes closed, imagine a road in front of you. You may see this road, or you may think it into place. (remember, it doesn’t matter if you can’t visualise in the sense of seeing something, as long as you can think it or feel it into place)
  • See yourself standing at the end of the road, with what you want to manifest in front of you.
  • Stand and look back towards the very beginning of your road. Now think, imagine, feel every step you have taken
  • Walk to the beginning of your road. Consider the significant steps that you have in front of you. You have already walked these
  • Remind yourself by going through the motions of doing each of those significant steps. We are not looking for minute detail we are merely looking for the significant steps
  • As you do each step walk towards what you desire. Step into each of the activities that enabled you to reach your destination
  • As you step into each of these, see what you see, feel what you feel and hear what you hear
  • When you get to the end of the road, breath in the magic and know that it is done
  • When you are ready, open your eyes and allow your life to flow

Get clear

Without a clear outcome, manifesting your vision will feel like a lot of wasted effort. You need to know precisely what it is you want. Including what that outcome will do to benefit your life once it is achieved

The Universe is listening… It wants to support you in achieving your dreams. It responds to clarity, and when there is clarity, it will deliver the things that you want, with greater ease. Because you will have a crystal-clear vision of what you’re calling in.

Take a moment now to reevaluate the things you want – do they really light you up? If they don’t, you will never be able to light the flames of desire or ignite the fire in your belly. Make use of the transition into Sagittarius to consider what opportunities you want to take advantage of going forward. Grab your journal and ask how you will feel when you get what you want? The start focusing on what you want and who you will be when you get it.

If you are feeling stuck, sticky or in treacle, not sure about what you really want, connect with me and let’s chat about how we can get you off the mad cosmic roundabout and back on track.

Do you have a living vision for your business? No? Yes? Maybe?

Before I left for Spain a few years ago, I had a vision. It wasn’t anything to do with my business. It was a book, a novel no less that was going to be turned into a film and the rest as they say would be history.

As I drove from Wales to my mums in Spain, I played fantasy revenge novel plot lining while thinking about the less than nice husband I’d left. This was to be my novel. As there was no radio and two bored doggies in the back of the motorhome, I was left with nothing but my vivid imagination. And it was fun.

I’d packed what I could, but there wasn’t much room for my things. One thing I kept was my vision board. If nothing else I wanted to be reminded of my yearning to write novels, funny ones with an underlying message. I still do have this vision.

The trouble is, as yet I haven’t taken much action. I have written a first draft of the above story through the eyes of a puppy that I rescued once I got here. It was incredibly cathartic, but that was all. It may resurface, who knows?

The reason that creating a vision was at the front of my mind was that last week I repurposed a planner. I’d designed it for a course and a personal branding book that I haven’t touched since leaving the shores of the UK. I was clearly a very different person as the planner is no longer recognisable.

Repurposing it was, however, a great opportunity to think about how I now like to plan. Asking what works for me and inviting a living vision into my life.

I realised that having a vision which I regularly review is important to me and I wanted this vision to live in me. I wanted a living vision. Having a vision statement feels felt stagnant and inflexible now.

Using my planner in this way and testing it so that I would actually get things done has meant that my vision has come alive. It flows and it feels like it is living.

Visions work when they are living

How does a living vision work?

At the start of every month, you take the time to write about your perfect day. I like the perfect day exercise as it allows me to play with my imagination. You may choose to write it in another way and it is important that it works for you.

I sit for a while and tap into my writing muse and allow him or her to share their thoughts around what perhaps a perfect day might look like. Then I start to write without censure.

What I wonder would be in your perfect day?

Would you be head banging to Nirvana while swigging a cheeky vino, a designer beer or perhaps a real ale at the end of your Thursday. Because of course you’d only work three days a week.

Maybe you are spending a few hours walking around your estate with your dogs and partner as you plan your next product launch. Perhaps you are discussing some other investment or early retirement and driving around Europe?

Is there a beach, a mountain, a city or maybe all three in your vision?

What about how you work and your business?

You could have only the right kind of clients who always pay on time, who love working with you. and telling all their influential friends that you are awesome.

There could be reinvention, diversification and innovation. All you have to do is let your imagination free.

I get that there could be flights of fantasy. Like the novel, I haven’t written, but the truth is just by focusing on it has meant that I am starting it on January 1st 2021.

What I found with my living vision was that with each iteration it felt more real. And I found myself being able to be realistic with priorities, timeframes and what I could and wanted to achieve.

Living visions require us to use our imagination, but also to consider how this makes us feel and what has to happen to inspire action. I have found myself far more productive and I can see products, courses and books coming alive far more than at the beginning of the year.

Stuff is getting done.

You may have a book that you want to write and it could feel like it is a long way away. You may consider that you don’t have the resources or the time. You may even be unclear what the book is really about.

A living vision will help you to envision this book, which will get you questioning if it aligns with your brand and business. The more you play and ponder the closer you will get.

A perfect day could be that you find a way to write your book while you build your brand. That might mean creating an outline and blogging your book. In your envisioning you see yourself getting fabulous feedback which allows you to refine your outline and as your ideal customer gets a feel for you, more work comes in. The perfect day is your eureka day and you have the right idea and content.

A perfect day might be further away and it’s the day a publisher says yes and later you are a bestseller.

I started a project in 2020 around the chakras. I now have a program called The Journey Of The Heart, 7 chakra journaling books (one down 6 to go) and 7 courses to go with the books (still in development).

All of these were on my living vision board that I create from my perfect day exercise.

My invitation is…

My invitation to you is to allow your imagination to feed your monthly, weekly and daily planning. Write often about your perfect day and allow yourself to dream. As you create more of a living vision the more you will live your vision.

Remember to take action appropriate action, consider your priorities and if your priorities change then one would hope that’s a move in the right direction.

If you find yourself procrastinating it may well be that this vision and subsequent action plan are not aligned.

The living vision is working for me and I hope that it does for you. I wonder what I’ll think in a years time when I look back on my first perfect day exercise.

When you have stuff on your mind please book in for a Power Hour session and let’s see if we can get you closer to what you want.

Heart Chakra – Love and the right to love and be loved

What are chakras?


The chakras are energy points or centres in our bodies in and out of which energy flows. In Sanskrit chakra means wheel so you could imagine them to be spinning wheels or vortexes of energy. Just as you have memories stored in your brain, your chakras are mini data centres where everything that has happened to you is stored. Each centre houses specific experiences. How cool is that to have your own mini you library stored in areas of your body? I also believe that they hold keys to our future selves too.

Just as we have a physical body, chakras can be likened to our spiritual body. Each one acts like a window to the soul and will feed information back to you about the state of your health and life. The health and energetic vibration of each chakra is influenced by the energies that surround you and the energy you project from your thoughts and feelings. This shows up in how you feel and experience life.

The heart chakra

Heart chakra

This chakra is located behind the breastbone in front and on the spine between the shoulder blades in back. This is about your right to love and be loved.

Colours green or pink. Element – air. Gemini, Libra and Aquarius are air element signs. Planet – Venus. The right to love and be loved. Emotion – grief. Endocrine gland – Thymus. Spine – T4 to T2. Age 22-28.


This chakra is about love, self-love, compassion, forgiveness, understanding, generosity, empathy, kindness and connections to other’s hearts. This is the centre of love and is connected to your relationships with family, lovers, friends, and animals. This is where the physical and spiritual chakras meet and is the gateway between them. As you work to heal and balance the chakras below, this enables the hurts held here to also be healed. By learning to let go of the pain and grief, you will be able to open your heart to new experiences and love.


When this chakra is balanced, you feel open, kind, receptive, giving, forgiving, accepting, and connected in a loving way to both yourself and other people. You feel sincere gratitude and appreciation for your life. You feel the love flowing through your life, you will think about how you give and receive love. And when you feel on the same wavelength with someone, it is because you have a heart connection.


In terms of manifesting what you want, the gratitude and appreciation you feel here will support you to get more of what you want.

Heart chakra – Grief

The heart chakra is blocked by grief and closes down our right to love and be loved. Releasing grief creates a balanced heart, that means we can offer acceptance and compassion to others and ourselves. It is the place that allows for vulnerability and welcomes in love. Ask what you are sad about? What are your losses? Dealing with loss is a hard thing to do indeed. Consider this, love is energy, and that lost love is reborn in the form of new love. Ask yourself what the deepest, most painful loss you ever experienced is? A loss of a job/career/business? A loss of health? A loss of a friend or a loved one? The loss of love? How did you ever get over it? Are you maybe still holding on to it? Our hearts feel and experience the pain of grief and loss physically, emotionally, energetically and spiritually. It is the gateway to unconditional love within us and to others around us.


Connect with your heart chakra by bringing to mind someone you love, let these feelings surge through your body. Now bring to mind something that you love about you and feel your heart expand with self-love. Connect your roots to Mother Earth and breathe into your heart before you write.

Inner peace

Sit quietly before you write and connect with everything that you love about you and your life. Open your heart, breath love in and out. Feel yourself connecting with a pot of loving-kindness.

Journaling prompts

  • What are ten things you love about being you?
  • In what ways do you hold back from embracing self-love, and what is one thing that you could do to love yourself today?
  • In what ways can you be kinder to yourself and others today?
  • What things have you not grieved and let go of? Think of ways to do this and when you are ready, start the letting go process.
  • When you think about forgiveness, how does it make you feel? Where do you need to forgive yourself or others? Perhaps you would like to apologise to a part of you that needs to hear these words today?
  • How can you let more love into your life?


I love, and I am love

Grab your copy of a Chakra Journaling Book here

New Moon In Scorpio 2020. Letting go of old emotions and letting in new perspectives

This new moon in Scorpio is a water moon and is connected with the sacral chakra – the chakra of emotions.

This is a time when old emotions may come and bite you on the bum. Like they did me this morning as I ventured out and there was a hunter in the rambla close to the village.

Marley was freaked, which naturally upset me.

However, we walked a different way and lo and behold the path that I thought would be awful had been cleaned up and we had a beautiful sunny walk.

Old emotions and new perspectives all in a mornings walk…

Open up your journal and write out the old stagnant emotions that you are holding onto and want to let go of. Review, reframe and let in some new perspectives on life. New moons are for new starts.

  • What do you want to create for this new moon?
  • Who will you be if you looked at life differently?
  • How will you feel?
  • What new perspectives are you inviting into your life?

Put your hand on your journal – draw around your hand and create your new moon intentions.

Watch this video for more information.

To work with me check out my coaching page. Perhaps you are at a crossroads and need a different perspective on life?

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