What do you notice people who love themselves? I’m not talking about narcissistic behaviour but people who genuinely love who they are and find joy with how their lives are. I bet when you witness them they seem happier, and those who associate with them are happier too.
If you find it hard to see that in you, perhaps it’s time to turn off the inner critic and try this simple journaling exercise.
Be prepared for resistance from your inner critic. Your inner critic may not have been talked back to for years. It usually has the run of things so be aware of that. Flood him or her with love and get your pen to the ready…
101 things I love about myself is a wonderfully simple, yet powerful exercise.
All you need is a set of index cards, some coloured pens and a glass of water.
The water is for you to sip as you ponder…
Get comfortable, take three big deep breaths and let each go with a big sigh. Plant your feet on the ground and imagine roots flowing into Mother Earth. Connect your breath to your heart and flood it with love.
When you are ready write one thing that you love about yourself on each card.
When you have completed the exercise you can shuffle the cards and intuitively pick one for today.
I love that I allow myself to express my emotions
Is the one that I picked for the video below.
When you have chosen the card for the day, think about how you will connect that sentiment and feeling with your heart and embody it through the day.
Journal about what comes up for you as you start your day and at the end of the day reflect on what happened and what you learned about yourself.
If you love to journal I have a range of journaling books that are designed to help you to focus on what you what to create in your life. Each covers four subjects spread over 28 days. These subjects are designed to help you to create a stronger connection with your heart and wisdom.
Back in 2005, Dr Cliff Arnall came up with a formula for calculating the most depressing day in the year. Blue Monday is supposed to be on the third Monday of January.
So… How do you feel today?
I woke up with a spring in my step and feeling rather good. So no blue Monday for me here.
Maybe we perceive it as a melancholy day because most peoples resolutions are down the pan and motivation might not be going in the right direction.
I hope you are not feeling down and you are looking at blue Monday as a way to get re-connected to your plans and thinking about what you want to create.
I find that writing helps to keep me on track, no matter what. When you write, you make an unconscious connection to your inner wisdom. So ok, sometimes things may feel like they are off key, but with a bit of writing and reflection, you can get back on track. Blue Monday is a perfect day to review how far you have home and if your plans need tweaking.
I know mine do.
When this year started I was full of excitement about what I wanted to create. Everything was set up and ready to roll.
Well, like many illness struck.
I was super naffed off, but heeded the words of my mum and wise coach to practice instead some radical self-care.
And you know what?
I’ve tweaked my plans and I am even more excited. One of my journaling books – Heal Your Heart is coming along very nicely.
Smart marketing aside, what’s not to love about blue. Dark, light, powder, bright, royal, mystical and calming. The colour of the sky or the deepest sea and a colour to lose yourself in. A colour which symbolises:-
Blue to wrap it’s arms around you to create inner peace and outer confidence. Use blue to connect to your throat chakra and learn to speak your truth, communicate and spread your inspirational message.
I’m bringing the energy of blue to my day. For me, blue corresponds is the place where I can voice my message and for a writer it is very important.
When I write I connect to my heart and when I express myself I connect with the throat chakra. Blue strengthens this and brings clarity.
When you think about honesty and integrity you think – true blue.
When something unexplained happens it comes – out of the blue – that feels very magical to me
Blue energy is soothing, calming, and healing. There is something to listening to the stillness within and expressing your inner wisdom.
Imagine yourself looking up on a beautiful day and gazing in to the blue sky. How do you feel? I always feel full of promise and content. It’s a shame that today it is pouring with rain.
Forget blue Monday and create a fabulous week of colour.
Take some time to think about what you want to create and then reading it aloud and get comfortable with it. Put on some music, get in the zone.
If a book is on your mind take a look at Twelve essential rules for getting your book written
Visualise it and frame it in blue. Eat blueberries with ice cream to celebrate.
Orange is one of my happy colours. Today smile at strangers, even if they scowl at you, in fact especially if they frown at you. Do something creative, like pen a short story. Soak some oranges in something yummy and eat them with ice cream and chocolate.
“Some think love can be measured by the amount of butterflies in their tummy. Others think love can be measured in bunches of flowers, or by using the words ‘for ever.’ But love can only truly be measured by actions. It can be a small thing, such as peeling an orange for a person you love because you know they don’t like doing it.” Marian Keyes
What do you have planned for orange Tuesday? Reflect how much happier you feel at the end of orange Tuesday, rather than Blue Monday.
In this Love to Journal, journal, smiling is one of the four key elements.
What a glorious colour. The fire of red and the calm of blue. Put some lavender in a diffuser and enjoy the relaxing, calming smell as you work.
What about kicking off your day by reading this brilliant poem by Jenny Joseph.
When I am an old woman I shall wear purple
With a red hat which doesn’t go, and doesn’t suit me.
And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves
And satin sandals, and say we’ve no money for butter.
I shall sit down on the pavement when I’m tired
And gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells
And run my stick along the public railings
And make up for the sobriety of my youth.
I shall go out in my slippers in the rain
And pick flowers in other people’s gardens
And learn to spit.
You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat
And eat three pounds of sausages at a go
Or only bread and pickle for a week
And hoard pens and pencils and beermats and things in boxes.
But now we must have clothes that keep us dry
And pay our rent and not swear in the street
And set a good example for the children.
We must have friends to dinner and read the papers.
But maybe I ought to practice a little now?
So people who know me are not too shocked and surprised
When suddenly I am old and start to wear purple.
Don’t forget to go out in your purple hat today. Reflect at the end of the day, how many conversations or strange looks you got in your purple hat.
Get out in Mother Nature and spend some time reveling in the beauty of the day. Think about something you would like to grow and sew the seeds of your idea now. What have you been thinking about birthing? Today is the day to take action. Try this journal if you need some inspiration.
Today is the day to wear your lucky pink pants today. Superpants equals super protection. Feel tickled pink all day and that everything is going your way, even if things go slightly bonkers. Bring your inner child out to play and have some fun. What tickled you pink today?
Your choice for Saturday and Sunday? What do you fancy for the weekend? What activities go with your colours.
Over to you… How was your week? When you started writing on Blue Monday, what came up and then as the week progress and you gained clarity, how did you feel.
You see when you look at Blue Monday through a different lens with a pen and journal by your side, perspectives change.
I’ve talked before about people who pants it when writing a book and those that outline and what the benefits are. So you will know that I love to create a book outline before I write a book. There are too many benefits for me not to do it.
My mum, on the other hand, is a pantser. In fairness, she writes fiction and loves to see the story evolve. I tried that when writing fiction and it didn’t work for me.
I think that the reason I like a book outline is that I can see the ‘story’ or plot of the book come alive.
I am very visual and I like a picture of what is going to unfold. I want to see the journey and I want it to make sense.
Over to you…
Think of a learning style in this context as someone who is either visual, auditory, kinesthetic or in combination with each other. Some people are also big picture and some detail.
I know when I work with clients and I present them with my book outline structure some squeal in delight and others say nooooooo.
The squealers get on with it. They love to dive in and work out, for example, the why, what, how and what if. They love uncovering questions and knowing the key messages.
They also love that once they have done this that they can allow their writing to flow.
Because it’s easy. They have done the hard work, now all that needs to happen is to trust that their muse is with them.
The ‘others’ need gentle coaxing. No document, no obvious structure. Although they love doing the bits, it just has to be in little chunks.
Either way, we get a book outline.
When you try to outline without considering how you like to do things you can sometimes come a cropper. Which basically means none of it will make sense to you. So, find out what works best for you.
When I outline, despite being visual and would like nothing better than lots of post its and coloured pens, I flex my style and follow a process that sees me starting with the scribble and then formalising it. So whole braining it – which we are doing all of the time, it just feels right and left at the time.
This one sounds easy, but often people write a book which is not the right book. Ask the 5 whys. Get clear on this and the outline will flow from it, because it will make sense and marry with your message.
Here we want to discover the essence of the book. What does your reader get from reading this book? I find writing a blurb (the bit on the back) helps me to get clarity.
Think of this like you might have a plot in a fiction book. Create a timeline so that you can clearly see the journey you want them to take. Remember to meet your reader at the start of their journey and think of the outcome you want for them.
Remember that although you want an outcome – they will get whatever they need from this book.
Keep the process short, sweet and simple. You can write other books.
You must always write for one ideal reader so that you make an emotional connection. It makes for a better book.
This is not what do you think they are asking. It’s what are they really asking.
When I look in the osteoporosis forums I see the same questions. You will too when you look in the right places.
Write a big list of questions and put them on your timeline in an order that makes sense.
You have a timeline and questions. Next, brainstorm chapter titles and write a short synopsis in the style of – this chapter is about. This is not about detail, it’s more that you want to explore your first thoughts.
I always keep 3 questions I am answering per chapter in my outline synopsis when I am planning and writing. They keep me on track.
Just as you have the list of potential chapters, you will need a list of which snippets of your story go where. It doesn’t need to be much. Map it to the chapter titles and/or questions.
This is what I call a knowledge audit. But rather go through all of your content, jot down what you think you already have and do a gap analysis.
Once you have mapped these steps out, write up a more detailed synopsis. The most important part is to leave it until you are ready to properly create a book outline.
Ok, I haven’t shared all of book outline secrets, but there’s enough there to get you going. This is designed to get you thinking without going into masses of depth – that comes later…
When you want more:
The reason this works as a brilliant first book outline is that once you get it out, your unconscious mind will start to make connections. This makes your complete book outline process much more powerful.
What you might also want to try is a test write. Pick a chapter and see how it goes. What do you learn about your writing process?
Writing a book is a big undertaking and something that I think people often shy away from because it feels too big. When you look at what is involved, it can seem like it is a big undertaking, however, when you look at each part as a chunk, it does and will start to feel manageable. This blog has been designed for you to assess each part of your book journey so that you can become really clear.
I liken writing a book to a bar of chocolate, although that does depend on how you devour your chocolate. Imagine if you will a large bar of unwrapped chocolate.
As you look at it, you will see it is generally made up of lots of little squares. Each square is an element of writing your book. The key is to take your book a chunk at a time. Just as I have put all of the questions into chunks.
Grab your journal and take a deep dive into your motivation for writing a book. These journaling prompts are not designed for you to tackle in one go. No, you need to chunk these too. Start with each part and explore, remembering to reflect.
My goal is that at the end of this process, you will see that writing a book is achievable and that you can see a way to make this a part of your day to day business.
If you look at these and start to feel faint book in for a book discovery session and we will nail the right book for you and look at how you will get it written.
You will, of course, have noticed that books don’t write themselves, you do need that all-important ingredient called motivation. Motivation starts, I believe with getting your head around the why of your book and getting to the heart of your book.
Success means different things to different people. You may write a book and never publish it, yet it is a success because it has helped you to heal. Success could be that your book has helped to raise your visibility and attract new clients. You may have more speaking engagements. It could be that you want to become a bestseller and sell thousands each week. You have to decide what success means to you and embrace it.
What does success mean to you and how do you define success?
Writing a book starts a long way before you start to plan it. People often tell me that they have had a book inside of them for years. Some tell me that they have written many words but have never felt compelled to publish. When it comes to books, my observation is that sometimes books are written to help us to heal, and these may well have served a purpose, and sometimes books are waiting for the right time to emerge.
When you know why this book, how it aligns with your brand and business and what you want to create in the world, things start to fall into place. Your business is about creating and delivering value, and a book is a vehicle to help you to do that. Get clear on where you want to go and what you want to create first.
A personal brand is all about what you want to be known for and seen as. A brand, in the corporate sense, is the image etched in the mind of the public through the culmination of all communications and experiences with the organization. A personal brand isn’t much different. Every interaction you have with others, what you wear, what you say, what you don’t say, how you react facially or through body language all create an image of you. Everything you do either builds or detracts from your personal brand.
Personal branding is the process by which we understand who we are, what our message for the world is, and how we then ‘market’ ourselves to others. The key to your success is to find your message and calling (aka purpose) and get compensated for it.
Understanding your Personal Brand is the key to planning the direction of your life, business or career and enable you to create a unique position for you in the world. It will help you to focus on how you create value and experiences for your clients while staying true to your values.
You already have a personal brand whether you want one or not – simply by being you, you have a brand. What you do with it is up to you. If it needs bringing into alignment, then you make a choice to do that. Life is always about choices and while it may be tempting to say I don’t care what others think, or they can take me or leave me, the reality is, your personal brand is how others perceive you. Writing a book supports that perception.
You will have many ideas for books; I know that I do. The key is choosing the right idea. This comes back to the earlier question of asking what do you want to create, but also looking at what book is the right book for right now? If you choose your best idea, it will be easier and more enjoyable to write.
Having a book plan is important as it will keep you on track and focused. Yet so many people don’t have one. I like to create a plan which has my book journey set out in stages. I like to reflect often and celebrate when I have completed each stage.
A book outline lends itself very nicely to becoming a product blueprint from where you can create a roadmap for the development of your products and services. From the book blueprint, you can define a 24-month development plan that includes e-books, journals, planners, courses, workshops, retreats and signature programs.
Market research is all about making sure that there is a gap for your book. One of the best places to undertake research is on Amazon and particularly the book reviews. Also, make sure that you check out your competitors and learn from them
When you are writing a book, it is vital that you have a picture of who you are writing it for in your mind. Many people struggle with ideal client avatars but get this right, and your ideal reader profile will emerge. Make sure when you are writing, you are focused on the needs of that one person, and you will create a better book. You need to think carefully about the category your book is in so that your reader can find it.
Not everyone wants to write a memoir or personal story, although everyone does have stories to tell. Consider if your story will add value to your reader and this and if so, which slice of life is relevant. If you are sharing anecdotes, what are they and how to they add to the learning that your reader will get?
Writing your story can be emotional, and for me, there is the aspect of writing it to heal, in which case do you want to publish and if you do, how does it add value to your reader’s life and learning?
Often people who are writing personal stories find that at the end of the process they don’t want to publish because the purpose of the book has been fulfilled. When this happens, I would encourage you to think about how else you could use the content/
Let’s get good old writer’s block out of the way. Writer’s block is always about what lies beneath your resistance, not the blank page. One of my favourite activities is to explore writer’s block and to come up with ideas for moving past it and getting a book completed. When you understand what stands in your way, you can make choices about how to change these things.
Having a book title even if it’s only the working title will bring your book alive. In the ‘my book exercise,’ one of the first jobs is to write the book title and get used to telling others that this is your book. I find that my titles change often and that’s ok because eventually, you will find the one that resonates with you.
When you have a title, it’s like an umbrella for the rest of the journey. When your umbrella is up the outline seems to flow. The outline is the journey that your ideal reader will take towards a good result or outcome. Use these questions to have a go at brainstorming your book idea. Grab a big sheet of paper, some coloured pens and have fun.
The phrase making time always amuses me. We all have 24 hours and so the idea that we can make more time seems odd. However, there are many ways in which we can waste time or not use our time productively. Right now, if writing a book is a priority considering how to become a more productive writer is a must.
What works for me is to write first thing in the morning before my doggie walk. On the walk, I have time to reflect. Later in the day, when the working day is over, the last walk done, I put my computer on my lap, leave the TV on in the background and edit. The key is to find a routine that works for you.
I’ve known clients say that they will miss their morning writing time when the book is over. They have cultivated this great habit and seen their books come alive, and now they are left with a hole to fill.
There are many ways to write a book. You can write it; you can blog it, you can use transcriptions from videos and podcasts, you can talk it, ask someone to co-write or hire a ghost-writer.
The pleasure for me is to write the book myself. I adore writing and love the feeling of the words flowing from me onto the page. But this is not true of everyone, and this comes back to your motivations for writing a book. If this is an exercise in raising your visibility and you have the budget, perhaps hiring a ghost-writer is the best option.
One of my favourite and sometimes frustrating tasks is deciding on what the book cover will look like. Sometimes I can wander down many rabbit holes researching on Amazon and looking endlessly at images and fonts. What I have learned is that you need a good cover design specification and cover designer. My cover designer gets me and usually comes up with ideas that need hardly any tweaks. You need to spend time getting to know your designer and trusting that if you are open and positive in your communications, you will get a great cover.
Self-publishing is a wonderful way to get your book onto the shelves quickly. It has become a hugely popular route for many writers. You have total control of the process, even if you do have to share your profits with your publishing platform (Amazon). However, for some, it is important to be traditionally published. This will take longer, and you have less control of your book. To ensure that you sell your book to a potential agent or publisher, you will need to write a book proposal. Be prepared for rejections and when you do find the right publisher check out how to make the relationship work for you both.
Marketing is something that many leave to the last minute. I always recommend that you should start marketing your book before you start writing. A launch plan will help you to focus your mind and the tasks. If you start it early, then it won’t be a mad rush when you hit publish. Then, of course, there is the all-important question what goes into your marketing plan. You need to look at the overall marketing plan and goals of the business and align your plans. They are not separate, yet many see them as so.
Planning and writing a book with a proven system also helps. Ready to make an impact? Book in a call and let’s explore how you can create an impact with your book (or blog).
I recently stated that I was not going to write a book that was not one of my journaling books for a long time to come. It seems I lied to myself. Because I found myself with an outline and 12,000 words written.
I’d spent the summer and autumn creating a number of journaling books, one is still in the cooker and a mandala and affirmations book ready to pop, when unbidden a book idea flew in.
Noooooo I cried, no, I do not want to write a big book. No, you can’t make me. Yet amidst my protestations, my fingers walked across the keyboard in delight.
I had one problem with this download of words – why on earth would I want to write this book? How did what I was being drawn to going to support the work that I was doing?
When I work with my clients I ask a simple but powerful question – what do you want to create in this world?
Then we work together to find the right book (or books) to support that vision.
I knew what I was creating – a writing community, where people write to heal and then write to heal the world, in whatever way you resonate with the word heal.
For weeks I found myself writing and journaling and I couldn’t see how this book that I was enjoying writing and bringing to life supported my vision.
So I let go. I let go of the reason and said the why will find me. And it did.
So often I think we try to force why. It has been drummed into us, you must start with why. And to a certain degree, I think that you need to know why something is motivating you, otherwise what is the point?
But I also think that sometimes that we need to let go and let why find us.
That’s not to say you don’t need to know why, more that if an idea comes to you, invite it in and play with it. If you feel like writing, then write and journal. Here’s the important part, when you have done your creative download, sit back and reflect.
In the spaces will come clarity.
When you have clarity, you can define where you are heading with your writing. In finding out about ourselves, we start to gain clarity of purpose.
Your readers will have expectations. Your role as a writer is to make sure those expectations are met, while at the same time fulfilling the purpose of your writing. Getting clear on your “why” will help you to gain this clarity.
Today a business book adds an extra dimension to your credibility as an expert. It allows you to demonstrate your expertise, skills, knowledge, experiences, and wisdom.
A book can support your other products and services and be used as a highly effective marketing tool.
In fact, a book is a blueprint for other products and services.
The business benefits to you could include a raised profile, more speaking engagements, opportunities to collaborate with others and options for you to productise your book into online programs.
Imagine seeing your wisdom, voice, thoughts, ideas, concepts and words in print.
When you are writing a book, you will tap into parts of yourself that you may not have considered.
So when the call comes to write a book, connect with your inner wisdom and allow what needs to surface to come up.
It might be that you need to write this content to get it out of the way or it is valuable content for your book. Either way put your inner critic to one side and play.
There are no shoulds. There is simply write.
Start writing – anything. By writing you will connect to your inner wisdom. The layers of doubt will soak away. Your inner critic will move on as the layers of what needs to be revealed peel away. And you don’t need to write much, you just have to write.
Experiment with your writing. There is no need to write endlessly, perhaps write less but more often? Experiment with subjects that seem unrelated and then allow the dots to join.
Let go and allow. Let your inner wisdom share what it has to say to you. You never know where it will take you.
Ok, this is the harder stuff…
Ask yourself why five times. Each time you answer, ask why again. Link the why questions to your previous answer. Then ask so what?
Here goes. The key to this is once again to simply have a go, you can always come back and refine it later.
So what? Ask this final question.
People are constantly searching for ways to find answers to their questions. Imagine if they could know where to start their enquiry and where to go to find the answers and their resources in a simple intuitive way.
Ok, so you get the idea. Ask your why questions and finish with a so what. These do not need to be perfect, simply a start that you can refine.
The WRITE! program has been designed to help you to give you all of the support that makes writing a book – simple, stress-free and fun.
This morning I was up early and feeling like a very motivated and annoyingly energetic creature. Motivation I have found is a rather curious creature. What motivates me won’t necessarily float your boat and why should it?
Some days like today it seems I woke up with the motivation bug firmly placed in a place we won’t discuss and I feel irrationally happy.
The reason is this…
There are days when I make a personal discovery and my life changes. These discoveries do not need to be big, but they are always hiding in plain sight. Gone are the days when I could kick myself for not realising. Instead, I jump up and down and give the dogs extra kisses for their support and encouragement.
The past cannot be changed. The future is yet in your power.
I was on a group call recently about limiting beliefs, you know those niggly things we have, that we feel and disrupt us. But which sometimes we can’t see or can but can’t get to the root cause. A comment was made that sparked something in me, and as usual, I put it in my journal. As is also the way I left it overnight so that I could reflect.
Last night I was on scribbling in my journal and I was full of great ideas and I was thinking about how to use them to boost my motivation and understanding.
I wrote something. It was a throwaway comment about how I had done something. In those few words, I made a connection between a limiting belief and something that was niggling me. I knew straight away how I would use the power of my motivation to solve the problem.
Ok so far?
You see the answer is always within, especially once you get a nudge from somewhere else…
I made the greatest discovery when I was journaling this morning – see tip 8. But before I share here are a few motivation tips that work for me.
Journaling, connecting to your inner muse and inner leader is one of the most powerful ways I know to unlock the secrets to becoming a better human. Alchemy is made in the connection between our hearts and the paper.
Write, reflect and write some more. You will if you are open to discovering clues and answers.
I always start my quarter doing 45 goals, desires and intentions. It’s just a big list of stuff which contains the frivolous to the very important. At the beginning of each month (and at a full moon), I review my list and create a short what shall I focus on this month list. I then have one thing to do. Now that might be one thing for my business, one thing for my writing and one for my health, but there is never more than one thing in a category.
Choose three areas and select your one thing for each. Focus on these and put together an action plan.
You choose which it is time or pages. What matters is that each day you read something. Why? Well, you will learn something, and you will relax. When I was reading John Marrs book, The One, and I wanted to do nothing but read, but I forced myself to close my Kindle after my allotted time and carried on with my day. The killer was when I was almost at the end, and I wanted to know…
Choose something that will take you away from business and your day to day life. Many argue that you should read self-help books every day. I find it hard to do that as I want to be taken to a world of fiction and lose myself in stories.
What are you reading, do please share?
Your new word can be in any language. My new word is Spanish. I’ve started a new journal just for this, and it starts today.
My word is frondoso. Apparently, it means lush and abundant for vegetation and leafy for a tree. I will check with my teacher tomorrow.
By learning just one word it doesn’t seem such a mammoth task of adding to your vocabulary.
In fact, just doing one small thing every day is massively motivational when you see the end result.
What is your word for today? I’m already wondering at how I shall slip this into the conversation.
Me days are so important. Thursday is a me day, I’m meeting a friend for tea and cake in the mountains. Me days are usually Saturdays when I only do what pleases me.
By letting go and creating space you will find solutions to things and create energy for what is to come.
What will you do for you me day?
I started meditating for a minute at the beginning of the year and slowly I have been increasing the minutes. Starting with just a minute gets you into the habit.
Start small and make it easy works for me. I love my meditations now.
Get the Insight Timer App and start your day with a minute just for you.
Get stuff off your list. Mine was cleaning the terrace. The rat invasion made a mess of it. It needed a good sorting out so that when I am eating breakfast and lunch, I feel that I am in a beautiful space. Next on the list is sorting out the filler around the doors…
Go do it. What is your one thing?
Sounds so simple, doesn’t it? Ask your inner leader what is the next step for today. Listen and watch because the answer is not always obvious, but the answer will come when you trust and have faith.
Hold that thought that you have a very powerful leader lurking in your heart and today he/she will speak to you.
What is your massive goal? Chances you have a big life goal or dream. Imagine it’s the week after something has come to fruition.
What does it feel like? What can you see and hear? What do you know about how you achieved that goal?
That’s it for November. Winter will be here soon. For me right now, the day is coming alive, and there are three dogs who don’t care about my writing, they just want a walk.
My this months journal is this one. You can grab your copy from Amazon.
Soon I’ll start a new journal for a new month. I like to start each month with a new journal to help me focus on my goals, desires, intentions and vision.
It’s like having a fresh start and a new perspective.
I’ve been thinking a lot about legacy. I am pondering what if I died today what would I want others to know about me? What would I leave behind that has any relevance in the whole scheme of things? Is my legacy even something I want to leave behind when I am dead or does it live in the everyday moments when I have touched others lives in some way?
Will you or I be remembered at all? Does it even matter?
When everyday words come up I like to go and research them to see if there is any new light for me to muse on. I read this and rather liked it:-
Legacy late 14c.,
legacie, “body of persons sent on a mission,” from Medieval Latin legatia, from Latin legatus” ambassador, envoy, deputy,” noun use of past participle of legare“send with a commission, appoint as deputy, appoint by a lastwill”
How lovely, I thought to be here on a mission and to be sent to Earth with a commission. Rather than think morbidly about what you leave behind when you are completely gone.
Many people want to write books because they want to leave a legacy, I’d like to reframe that to be a living legacy.
To share their mission while they are still here and to impact others with their written words.
I have no children, no partner or lover. There are friends I don’t see often enough. There are books and blogs that I publish and journal entries that I write will probably have burned long before they are possibly read. Most likely on a full moon when it’s a good time for letter go. Perhaps my books and blogs will be simply consigned to the rubbish when I am gone, without anyone to keep them going.
Who will own my content and who will want to keep it going or preserve my website and musings when I am returned to dust? With no one to pay for my hosting or to complete my Amazon non-resident tax form, how long will my books remain available? (I will find out and let you know.)
But why would anyone want to keep my content alive? Why would I care? Surely there is someone else to pick up the baton – the commission?
My 59th birthday is around the corner and while I don’t feel that this is the end of the line, life can end abruptly.
I have no particular bucket list, places I want to visit, sights to behold, my journey is within. That’s partly why I write. I also write to leave a living legacy because I want to inspire others to write, heal and to inspire others to heal and grow.
How many times in just the last year have you been interacting with someone online who seemed so full of life to hear that they are now gone? Just like that. I feel like I want to touch the screen and for my hand to be able to feel their warm skin. We have so many friends because of the Internet. There are people all over the world that we meet because of this web of technology. Their stories stored (and possibly preserved) in some corner of a hard drive or on some not so divine cloud.
When friends pass, their Facebook pages stay around to remind us of the stuff we might have done together and I admit that although that makes me sad it also fills my heart. They are not gone, not really, they came on a commission, they had a mission, and now it’s fulfilled. Everyone leaves behind some of their essence in some way.
Part of my legacy is how well I have lived my life. How well I have served my commission on Earth. I feel it is how well I have served as a human – my kindness and compassion.
I wanted once to write a novel and for it to be made into a film. It was a delightful dream and I enjoyed the fun of visualising it and fantasising what dress I’d wear to the Oscars. The only way I’d have a chance of this being my legacy is if I get my finger out and write that book. Phew!
After writing about legacy today, I’ve changed my mind about writing a book for when you are gone. I’d like you to consider writing a book so that it is your living legacy and a part of your mission – now.
What if you could take your lessons, challenges and gifts and turn them into a book that would help others to ‘survive’ current stormy waters. How would that be?
Not everyone wants to write a book to help them heal or to heal the world. But I do believe that many people have inspiring messages that are very relevant for where humanity finds itself.
I’m interested in how you have grown from your experience and how that learning can support the rest of us, while you are here.
This year might have been as Elvis Costello once sang – a bad year for the roses. But our legacy is how we raised our vibration to meet our challenges and how we go on to impact those around us.
One of the reasons I love words and helping others to shape their words into books is that the process of writing helps us to heal our wounds and when our words reach others hearts, they too can begin to heal or heal some more.
This is my legacy. Not what I leave behind when I am dust and stars, but the trail I leave behind when I am alive.
My mission, my legacy, my life’s commission is to support you on this journey to turn your gifts and challenges, your life and lessons into neat packages of love (called books) that you leave for others to consume and find something of what they are looking for.
What do you do each day that leaves a trail? What is your mission? What is your life’s commission?
What should anyone do? Only you will know if writing a book is for you and what kind of book. You can write a book to heal that no one ever sees, one that you publish for family and friends, one that you use to share your story so that you can inspire others and one that does all of these things and around which you build a business – the business of helping others to heal, change and grow.
Legacy is not about being famous, it is about being ordinary, yet extraordinary. That legacy and your mission might be that you are a leadership coach, a therapist, CEO, engineer, bookkeeper, cleaner, consultant, mechanic, mum, dad, carer, dog groomer or a million and one roles we play. The label is not important, what you do, how you do it and the lives you touch is.
Everyone has a story, but not everyone thinks that their story is worthy of a book. I hear stories every day and some will be driven to create change, write a book and impact others.
Others will show me their work and never believe in themselves enough publish. Too often I have seen handwritten scripts that never go further than the journal they are scribbled in. That saddens me, but I understand.
For the ones who know their mission, are driven to put their words down, to speak to others hearts through a book then yes, write your book and make sure that those that need your words can read them, not when you are dead, but now while you are living your legacy.
When you want more:
When something is important to you, you will find time in your schedule, no matter what. Or you’d like to think so until creative constipation blocks you up.
I often start the day with a huge raft of ideas coming at my brain like a runaway bus. They zoom in, I whizz them around, and quickly write them, before they disappear.
Sometimes the speed of this means that, should my dogs demand a cuddle, my thoughts get lost. Like waking from a dream, just the slightest disruption and those last gripping moments slip ghost-like into the mist.
Creative kapow then nothing, blank, zip, zilch.
Other times I can be sat at my computer with a vague idea, or I have a plan to write something, but for some reason, nothing comes.
I was writing something relatively simple recently when a massive block to my creativity flew in and stopped me in my tracks. It took a few days for the flow to return.
I know it was tiredness. This summer was too hot and too long. It simply stripped me of energy and my brains response was ‘computer says no.’
In knowledgeable writers circles, this is called writer’s block. Personally I prefer creative constipation because it feels temporary. Pop in the right ingredients and the words will slip gently out.
But it can be so frustrating!
The problem is that people like me like to have an idea and write and write and write.
So what’s a gal to do?
Envision your perfect day. Instead of writing for your book or blog, writing in your journal. The perfect day exercise is a wonderful way to start the envisioning process. Connect to your muse and ask what would your best day look like? What would your best day look like if your writing flowed effortlessly each day? The perfect day exercise is one of the exercises in my Love To Journal – Monthly Life Journals.
Remove the shoulds, and ought and consider your can do’s. “Should-dos” are often those beliefs, habits, and ideas that are given to us by other people. “Can-dos” on the other hand are the beliefs, habits, and ideas that you know you can and want to do to become the best version of yourself in the best version of your life — as decided by you. What can you do to support your writing that could become a daily habit that you enjoy?
Pick one. Pick one change or habit to incorporate into your life right now which will help you to get your writing done. You only need to make one change.
Get clear on next steps. Get clear on how you can incorporate this one change or habit into your life. What are the next steps that will help you start to make this change? Then take action.
Here are a few more quick tips:-
Accept that it is just temporary and let it go. I usually head off for a cup of tea and do something mundane like washing the dishes. These just bring some normality back and take my mind off things.
If you get something and even if it feels like nothing connected to what you want to write, scribble the nonsense down in your journal and maybe just maybe you can make something of it later – when you are more relaxed. The act of journaling will set you free. Freewriting is one of my most favourite activities which lets me, through the act of letting go either write out the rubbish or find that one thing that is worth writing about.
Get some fresh air. I find that walking the dogs grounds me. Usually, by the time I get home I either put pen to paper and it becomes something or I just let it go. And I tell myself that it wasn’t important, another idea will come.
Chat some of your writing ideas through. This usually occurs on the walk above, if I ring my mum or a friend. As we walk, we chat and that puts things in perspective and the clutter clears. Talking is great for sorting ideas, including writing ideas out.
It really is about just stopping, let it go and find something to release your stuckness in whatever way works for you. I hope some of my suggestions work.
Over to you, what works for you?
Do you sometimes, perhaps when tired, wonder ‘why am I doing this?
I know that I have.
About 5 years ago I packed up my life and drove away from a cruel nasty man. I can see in retrospect just how he had treated me – I was bullied every day and it was insidious – I allowed it to happen – it had affected everything, including my thinking.
I had a passion for what I did. That has never left me, but I found it hard because I hadn’t found me. I was an emotional mess.
He was a gift. A big fat shitty gift.
He, in getting discovered (he was living a double and curious life) gave me the key to me.
When I left I took the two dogs and later found another abandoned in the rambla.
Their love supported my journey.
So did my writing.
I wrote a book called The Journey To Self-Love but couldn’t publish – in the end, I wrote it for me, but I did create a journaling book from the lessons and I loved creating that.
My home was a gift. It was a bit of a mess, just like me. But it gave me the right environment to find me. Having the right environment to live in and write in is vital.
But then as I thought I was getting back on top of things my spine fractured.
It freaking hurt.
What hurt more was not being able to move. I felt trapped.
I took drugs for a whole four days and then got a journal and started to write. Two weeks later I started a book on how to heal osteoporosis naturally.
But here’s the thing. When I support my clients to write their books they have usually done the thing that they are writing about.
But here I was with no clue (I say that but we always know) about how to do this.
In my pain I practically did a medical degree, I devoured books on physiology, nutrition, and osteoporosis.
Previously, I’d studied (for two years) crystal therapy with an amazing woman and course colleagues, reiki, angelic reiki, omni healing, naturopathic nutrition and read mountains of books on all things related.
I’d turned around an overactive thyroid in 6 weeks.
I poured myself into natural healing. I went back through time looking for the emotion hooks to the falling apart of my foundations and like the bionic woman, I believed that I could ‘rebuild’ myself.
In that year, because it took me a long time as there were other complications that affected my mental and emotional state, I learned to trust and listen.
Thank goodness for the Earth Angels who supported me. You are always in my heart.
I listened to spirit. I listened to my heart and my soul.
Then came the day when I had to get back to work.
Question after question after question.
So I trusted.
I had the experience, bloody hell I also had qualifications coming out of my ears…I had books, courses, content and my inner wisdom.
Then they arrived blessing after blessing, people who have a message far greater than even they realised.
I trusted that spirit sent me to them and I trusted that they would trust me with their precious words.
I could go on, but I’ll stop here.
That book Healing Osteoporosis Naturally, unlike any other book I have written has taken me almost two years because I wanted to get it out of my head and then I wanted to stop the craziness of my research and healing to bring balance and normality back to my life.
I had to put it to one side and write other things. I needed to be me not this mad woman healing osteoporosis and a fractured spine.
I hereby commit. To publish this book in May 2020. It is not your conventional osteoporosis book – there are some amazing women out there who have done that – this is my version of natural healing and how I did what I did.
You see it doesn’t matter if you write a book in 30,60,90,180, 760, 1099, 2087 or whatever days.
Every book is a lifetime of learning. You just need to write it when the time is right for you.
And in the meantime journal.
Thank you to all of the precious souls who are on a mission to save planet humanity in whatever way they do.
Please share – why do you do what you do?
“We are stardust, we are golden
We are billion year old carbon
And we got to get ourselves back to the garden”
Recently I had a great conversation with someone who said they wanted to write a book. The problem as they saw it was despite wanting to write a book, they felt that they were being pulled in many other directions.
What about a shorter e-book, an online course, a membership or a retreat?
I asked why not all of them from the book as your blueprint?
This is a common problem. Many people want to write a book, but most never will. The reason is that a book is not essential to them right now.
There is a question I ask everyone who comes on a call with me and that is ‘what you want to create in the world?’
What do I mean by that?
I want to create a writing community where people come to write to discover themselves, to grow and become their best selves and to use that learning to write books which impact lives.
I have a dream, goals and a set of actions that I take to make sure that little by little that’s what I am doing. All of my products and services align with that:-
To create any community, you have to identify your ideal client, who they are, where they are and what they want. This is easier said than done, but if you create your ideal client profile, and have a clear picture of the outcome or result from your book will give them you are at least one step closer. And of course, this is something that can be constantly tweaked.
Next is having the confidence in your message, the thing you are here to do. We are often plagued by underlying beliefs and demons that stop us from getting what we want. We can be saying one thing but projecting quite another. We need to work on our inner game and change limiting beliefs into can do’s.
We also need content, and by that, I mean not only products and services but words and stuff that we put out there to raise our visibility. A book is one of the best ways I know for raising your visibility and attracting new clients. A book brings a slice of your wisdom into a neat package for your ideal reader to consume and to get RESULTS from.
Let’s first explore why you ‘should’ write a book and then explore what you can do if this is not feasible or desirable or maybe just not yet.
Let’s explore why you shouldn’t write a book
I adore product development, and the reason I start with a book is that it helps me to become clear about my ideas and process. But using those same principles, I can create all kinds of products and services. What I get from a book is a blueprint.
You still need to know:-
Let’s assume you know what you want to create and who for. Let’s look at what other products and services you could market and sell.
This is a process. Start with what you want to create and then pick one idea that you would like to focus on that will bring you joy for the next 24-36 months.
What questions are my ideal client asking? What can’t they do? What do they want to do? What outcome do they need?
You may be a health coach and you work with menopausal women who are finding it hard to maintain their weight and fight off the hot flushes.
Make a list of 30 questions your ideal client might be asking you.
Create an outline based on the questions and journey you are taking them on.
I’d take the 30 questions, pick 10 which would make great statements and therefore good section, module or chapter headings. Then put three questions under each heading. These are the questions that this chapter answers.
Write a synopsis of each step in the outline.
This gives you clarity. Start with this chapter is about. Follow with why would my client need to know this and then think about how you engage and motivate them. Also, think about what they would get from following your advice and what they wouldn’t get if they didn’t.
Design an e-book based on the synopsis
Now you can create a checklist or 10 rules for [insert your idea]. This then is what people download from your website in return for an email.
Create a mini-course based on the e-book
This can be a cut down version that delivers value and provides a taste of what is to come. It also needs to be designed so that it whets their appetite to dive deeper with a big course or program. A 5 or 7-day challenge is great for this.
Design a 30-day challenge around your course
Now that you have a mini-course, you could tie a 30-day challenge around this or your bigger course. The idea here is that you sell the course which anyone can take as a self-paced product and you can run a live challenge alongside it a few times a year.
Make your big online course
This is your full-on signature course which provides lots of content, a process and support via a Facebook Group. You can tie this in with your live challenges. There is some validity to not creating the course until people are signed up. Then when you know what questions are being asked you can create better content, which you drip feed as you go along.
Extend your course to create a 90-day program
Once you have the course this can easily be translated into a group coaching program, where your clients have live access to you for 12 weeks. You will have group support and my offer some 121 coaching.
Offer your program as a group event or as one to one coaching
Once the group program has been created this can be offered in many different ways.
Your membership group
Now that you have lots of content you can create a portal to keep it all in and a place for your members to know what is going on. This will give you a regular income.
Forgive me for a moment, you now have enough content written and recorded to write a book. You do… When you get your videos captioned you will also have the transcripts. Transcripts are a pain to edit but you do now have content in a process which you could turn into a book, a journal or planner.
You will have templates and other content to weave in that you can repurpose.
I think the key is to choose the one idea, map out the product roadmap and blueprint and then ask what makes sense for you to create first. Only you will know what that is.
So, what’s it to be, write a book or something else?