February 5, 2023
February 5, 2023

It’s the second full moon of 2023, and for the second time this year, I have been reminded to think about what I want to need to let go of. And, more importantly, who do I need to let go of?

This full moon is called the Snow Moon, symbolising self-expression, creativity, and embracing our individuality.

It’s time to connect with our hearts, let our inner light shine and embrace our unique talents and gifts.

What this also says to me is about being confident, brave, and creative. What can you do to feel more confident and assertive during this time? How can you let your creativity in and flow?

Something that has come up for me is relationships. Like me, you may need to take a step back and assess whether your relationships support your self-expression or hold you back. If you feel like your relationships are not fulfilling, it may be time to let go of toxic ones and limit your growth.

On Friday evening, I did a number of self-love meditations. In one, I saw lots of winged things leaving my heart. While it means nothing to you that 100 bats from hell flew off into the far yonder. For me, it was quite profound as that morning, I had started to read Perfect Daughters: Adult Daughters of Alcoholics and found myself sobbing most of the day as I realised how much of this part of my life I had hidden from myself.

It’s curious how things remind you of what needs to be dealt with.

To find out who we want to become, it may be necessary to let go of certain people, habits, or beliefs holding us back. This can be a difficult and emotional process but can also bring about positive growth and transformation.

It’s also very relevant as I start to write my first novel, which is part of healing the relationship with dad despite the fact that he is no longer here.

I need the push for more creativity and self-expression to motivate me to pursue my passion for writing this first novel. This is a great time to focus on your creative projects and tap into your inner artist. Whether writing, painting, music or any other creative expression, allow yourself to let your imagination run wild and embrace your individuality.

All full moons invite us to let go of the old and embrace new opportunities for growth and self-discovery. It invites us to shed the old, embrace the new, and trust in the guidance of our hearts as we embark on a journey of transformation and growth.

For this full moon in Leo, I will be letting go of relationships of me that no longer serve me or identify me.

These parts are all connected with growing up in a home where a parent (my dad) was an alcoholic.

It doesn’t matter how healed you think you are. We are all on a constant journey of self-discovery. Unfortunately, we encounter many people along the way; some of these relationships are toxic. They are holding us back from becoming the person we want to be. These, as you know, often start in childhood and can be with people who are no longer physically a part of our lives.

It’s important to take a step back and assess the people affecting us. Holding onto toxic relationships is not just harmful to our mental and emotional well-being, but it can also keep us from reaching our full potential.

So, Who Do You Need To Let Go Of To Find Who You Want To Become?

  • Negative Naysayers

We all have that one person in our lives who always seems to find something wrong with everything we do. They bring us down, criticise our dreams and discourage us from pursuing what we truly want. It’s time to distance yourself from these people, or better yet, cut them out of your life completely. Instead, surround yourself with positive people who uplift and support you.

I have had to let go of the voice of a certain person from the past who criticised me for my desire to write a novel. What about you? Whose voice do you hear saying you can’t?

  • The Drainer

These are the people who constantly drain your energy and bring you down. For example, they may constantly complain about their life or constantly seek attention and validation from you. If you’re feeling drained and exhausted after spending time with someone, it’s time to limit your interactions with them.

What can I say? Stay away.

  • The Negative Influencer

These are the people who negatively influence us. They may encourage us to make unhealthy choices or engage in toxic behaviours. You may find yourself slipping into old patterns you’ve worked so hard to break if you’re around these people. So limiting your interactions with these people or even cutting them out of your life altogether is important.

This is sometimes easier said than done. These could be work colleagues who are always complaining about the company and stirring up feelings of insecurity for you. Or people who criticise your choices so that you feel unsure about what to do next.

  • The Enabler

These are the people who enable us to engage in toxic behaviours. They may support us when we make bad decisions, and we may find ourselves relying on them to make us feel better. But in reality, they’re only making things worse. If you’re around these people, it’s time to find new ways to cope with your problems without relying on them.

These are friends in sheep’s clothing.

Letting go of toxic relationships or anything toxic is never easy. However, it’s essential for your (and my) personal growth and well-being. If you’re ready to let go of the people who are holding you back, take the time to reflect on the relationships in your life and make the tough but necessary decisions to cut ties with those who are toxic. You’ll find that you will become a better, happier and more confident person as a result.

The Full Moon In Leo Is A Time For Stepping Into Your Personal Power

Leo is a fire sign in the chakra system that belongs to the Solar Plexus – Identity and the right to act.

This chakra is about personal power, confidence, assertiveness, boundaries, leadership, self-control, and self-esteem. Remember when as a child or young person, you wanted to express your individuality and how that might have felt?

This is where you first experience exerting your will and the right to be you. This chakra right means acting confidently, honouring your values, and bravely taking steps towards goals and intentions.

As your centre of personal power, self-image and self-esteem, this is a beautiful space to allow the warrior or goddess inside you to shine. At this chakra, you are called to listen to your intuition (gut feelings) rather than listening to outside voices and using your will to achieve what you desire. It’s also about taking responsibility for choosing how you want to live your life.

Sun in Aquarius

In the chakra system, Aquarius belongs to the heart chakra. How perfect is that?

This chakra is about love, self-love, compassion, forgiveness, understanding, generosity, empathy, kindness and connections to others’ hearts. This is the centre of love and is connected to your relationships with family, lovers, friends, and animals. This is where the physical and spiritual chakras meet and is the gateway between them.

As you work to heal and balance the chakras below the heart, the hurts held here will also be healed. By learning to let go of the pain and grief, you will be able to open your heart to new experiences and love.

This a reminder to get into your heart and be kind and compassionate when you are not feeling enough and starting to do more self-love activities.

A wonderful self-love activity is heart notes. Write yourself a note on a post-it before going to bed. Then, pop it on the kettle or fridge. The following morning you will be greeted by a wonderful note from yourself.

Who Do You Need To Let Go Of?

This brings me nicely to the point. Who do you need to let go of? Not other people, but parts of you.

There will be many parts of you hidden from view that your heart now wants you to reveal and observe. Yes, it can be painful bringing up memories, but these are simply pages in the book of your life. Read the page, ask what you can learn from it, and let it go.

What are the gifts? When I look back, I look at the story. I don’t go into it. I merely want to look at what the story is telling me. That might be a good idea for you, or not. Only you can judge.

I want to let go of the girl who feels not good enough. I admit it’s not a major problem, but it’s come up because of what I am reading in the book Perfect Daughters and because I am embarking on my first novel adventure. So that means there are a few things that need dealing with.

My way of dealing with this is to write in my journal – who do I want to let go of? Followed by this affirmation

I am enough, I have always been enough, and I will always be enough.

The most delicious part of this will be the letter I write to let go of the parts of me that need to move on and then burn it.

Full Moon Letter Exercise

Dear Me,

Tonight is a full moon, and it’s time to let go of the parts of myself that no longer serve me. I’ve realised that certain behaviours, attitudes, and thought patterns are holding me back from being my best self, and it’s time to let them go.

I want to express my gratitude for the lessons and what they’ve taught me. The burning of this letter under the light of the full moon symbolises releasing these unhelpful aspects from my life.

Thank you for being a part of my life and teaching me valuable lessons. However, it’s time for us to part ways. I’ve learned all I can from you, and it’s time to move on to a more positive and fulfilling future. So, I release you now, under the light of this full moon, and choose to embrace the positive aspects of myself.

With love and gratitude, [Your Name]

Write your letter. Acknowledge the specific traits, behaviours, or thoughts you want to release, express gratitude for the lessons they have taught you, and make a clear intention to let them go.

Chuck the letter on fire and watch it burn, visualising the release of these unhelpful things from your life. Feel a sense of liberation and renewal.

Say to yourself I’m ready to embrace the positive aspects of myself and live my life with a new level of self-awareness and empowerment.

Thank you, full moon, for this powerful ritual of release.

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