How to Use Positive Affirmations to Change Your Life - Dale Darley
How to Use Positive Affirmations to Change Your Life

How to Use Positive Affirmations to Change Your Life

I love affirmations, don’t you?

Positive affirmations are the language of self-talk designed to reprogram your subconscious and boost your vibrational frequency. It might seem strange to do. However, think about the fact that you probably currently use negative self-talk all the time without noticing.

Right now I have been playing with affirmations around my vision. I’ve been getting clarity on my vision, mission and values to that I can set the direction of my life and business.

When I started on my vision it was long and rambling. Over several iterations, I got it right down to…

To inspire my community to heal through writing and write to heal the world.

I’m still working on it and I’ve been adding in some positive affirmations to bring it alive.

However, things keep popping into my mind to derail me. How does the mind do that? How very dare it!

I’m not saying anything like calling myself stupid, but all the same there is my gremlin Gregor nibbling away at me.

It’s easy though to let the Gregors do this, because that is how we are wired. Perhaps Gregor is trying to keep me safe?

How many times have you done something and called yourself stupid or looked in the mirror and allowed negative thoughts coming to mind?

I know when my spine fractured I found it oh so hard to say anything nice to myself.

Negative self-talk affects your confidence, lowers your vibration, and places the focus of your life on the wrong things.

To change yourself, you can use positive affirmations about any issue you want to change. Using the fracture as an example I started to say I am healed, healthy and happy and my bones are healthy and healed. What a difference that made. Naturally, I did more than just chant affirmations, but these played a powerful part in my healing.

With my vision, I am going one step further and making up little ditties. Please don’t laugh…

I joyfully enjoy the fruits of my biz. It’s healthy, wealthy and full of whizz.

What about this one? Every day in every way. My business shines like a sunshine ray.

Ok, so I won’t win a prize for literature, the point is to make them memorable.

To use positive affirmations to help you bring about change I have these tips.

Identify Negative Self-Talk Habits

When you start to write what it is that you want, or in my case my vision, notice what comes up. Before you start using positive affirmations, be more mindful about when and how you’re using negative self-talk. Note these in your journal, very soon you will start to see a pattern which you can then choose to consciously change.

Create Positive Affirmations from Negative Self-Talk

After you write down those negative things, you might see that there are some that fall into like categories. Note what these categories are and perhaps you can choose a priority and notice what happens when you focus on changing these.

For example, if when you are getting ready in the morning, you see yourself in the mirror and say something not so great to yourself – you’ll know that it is in the category of self-esteem. Likewise, when you have those doh moments, these too could fall into the same category, especially if you catch yourself using not so useful language.

You can then create positive affirmations that will raise your self-esteem. “I’m grateful to my body, for everything she does and helping me to be happy, healthy and healed.” Even if you have problems, when you do this, you’ll likely make better choices during the day, and will remember to treat yourself with loving-kindness.

It works, I am proof.

Write Your Affirmations Down

Write down your positive affirmations. You could write your affirmations on small slips of paper and put them in a jar and grab one when you need it. Write them on pretty note cards or post-it notes and stick them where you can see them. For example, you can put one of your affirmations on the bathroom mirror, or on your door so you see it as you’re leaving.

When I was going through my big healing I would write love me notes on post-its and pop them on the fridge before bed. They worked a treat. I always forgot that I had written them and then smiled in delight in the morning.

Say Your Affirmations Aloud

When you are saying your affirmations in private, say them aloud. When you say them aloud, not only do you hear the vibration in your voice, you are sending this out to the Universe who is waiting to support you.

It’s a good job no one can see me when I am walking the dogs. Not only am I saying them aloud, but I also practise tapping on certain points.

Choose To Change

Saying positive affirmations is great, but you need to choose to make changes. Writing in your journal will open your mind to what is going on in your life and from there you can make conscious choices.

Reflect

As you practice using positive affirmations you will change. Saying your affirmations combined with good action changes your perceptions and this is what we want to make a note of.

When you reflect at the end of the week or month you can join the dots backwards and see how far you have grown and how your life has changed.

Questions for your journal

  • What is one thing that you want to change today?
  • What would your positive affirmation be?
  • What will you see when this has become a part of your life?

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Dale Darley

Writing coach, Executive Soul Coach and Author. Helping conscious, heart-led women manifest magic, discover who they are on the way to getting what they want. Additionally helping you to write an awesome book and rock your brand. Mum to three dogs and a family of swallows. Life without cake is a life unlived.

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