How To Write A Memoir – Part 1 – Getting Started - Dale Darley
How To Write A Memoir – Part 1 – Getting Started

How To Write A Memoir – Part 1 – Getting Started

I know so many people who would love to write a memoir or life story, but either don’t feel they can for personal reasons, it might be upsetting, they are not sure of what slice of life, who would read it or where to start.

In how to write a memoir, part one, I’m going to talk about where to start because I think that some of the other questions and thoughts will fall into place once we look at this.

Writing a memoir is quite an experience, I’ve written a few and not published them, but I can tell you after a period of reflection that they will be published. I wrote them for healing reasons, and this is something we’ll address another day.

When you are starting to write your memoir, you need a theme and to consider what the outcome for the reader is.

When I look at my memoirs, what I didn’t realise was that my theme was and is healing. Every book I have written is about healing some aspect of me.

Doh! How could I have not noticed?

Well, that’s not entirely true; I knew that I was writing them for healing reasons, I just didn’t realise how they were all connected. Even the book that I am writing now – Manifesting Magic – is a memoir with a healing theme.

All of my memoirs have a practical element, that is they are self-help books too. The first place to start is:

  • What kind of memoir do you want to write?
  • Why are you writing it?
  • What is the outcome you want for your ideal reader?
  • Who is that ideal reader?

Ok, four simple but very in-depth questions.

What kind of memoir do you want to write?

When I started to write Manifesting Magic, I knew that this book would be self-help and memoir, simply because that is my style and these are the kind of books I love.

Go and look at your bookshelf, Kindle or Audible and check out the books that you enjoy. Understand what you love or don’t love.

When I look at my books, what I love is the stories. Not too long, but powerful enough to move me and strongly linked to the what to do bit.

Why are you writing it?

I write to heal and to inspire others to heal or at least know that they can. Fundamentally, despite the title of coach, I am a healer. Writing is my vehicle for healing because words are so incredibly meaningful. Language can weave spells, and stories can transport you to magical places.

What is the outcome you want for your ideal reader?

This one is always easy for me. I want my reader to know that if it is possible in the world, it is possible for them.

Looking at this with more depth. Again, let’s take Manifesting Magic. I want my readers to believe in magic – their magic – to learn how to manifest (get) the life that they want. But more importantly, to discover who they are on the way to getting what they want.

Often in the pursuit of something we miss the vital ingredients of becoming our best selves.

Who is that ideal reader/customer for your memoir?

Oh dear, this age-old question, who are they? Who is my ideal reader who I’d like to become my ideal client?

Typically they are female, 40+, spiritual, heart-led, conscious, creative, intuitive, have been through trauma and want to use the gifts from this to change the world. They have a story that they feel must be told so that they can inspire others.

They want to find the magic in their story and to be able to share this, so it reaches the right hearts.

They typically have the job title – coach, therapist, counsellor, healer, entrepreneur, nutritionist.

Their location is anywhere where we are on a timeline where we can talk if they have 121 coaching. Otherwise anywhere in the world where they speak English.

The industry is usually healing, mental health, spiritual, metaphysical, personal development

Other interests would include things likes loving and respecting nature and animals, oracle cards, reading, creativity, personal development, journaling and writing and cake…

I’d find them in groups where entrepreneurs hang out, soul and spiritual groups, female-only groups.

So looking at this you would get a great idea of who I wanted to read Manifesting Magic or my journaling books. You’d also know who my soul clients are.

However… Given my background in executive coaching, personal branding and marketing, I also get clients who are male and fall into these categories. I’ve also coached young women on a mission.

What is important to me is that despite this, we click, that there is a resonance, we enjoy working together, and the story that they want to tell alongside the how-to bit resonates with my theme of healing. Conflict in leadership teams, for example, is healing.

It’s meaningful to know who your ideal customer is, and you can have more than one.

Over to you

Grab your journal and explore. This is not a sit down in one session and get it over with. This is something that I would invite you to write and reflect on over a week. To then start to envision your ideal reader coming to you for your memoir and saying what they got from your amazing story.

Here’s a little affirmation for you too…

It’s easy to see why my ideal reader looks for me.

If writing a book is on your do now list…

For private coaching I offer the following if you are unsure which you want and need, please connect with me.

  • Strategy and Intuitive Guidance Coaching Session – 45 minutes (book)
  • Insight and Clarity Session (book)
  • 3-hour plan your book call (book)
  • 121 Coaching Packages available for 3 or 6 months – contact me

Ready to Kick-Start Your Memoir or Write Your Life Story? Both of these courses are available on The Soul Writers Academy, with three levels of prices.

Dale Darley

Writing coach, Executive Soul Coach and Author. Helping conscious, heart-led women manifest magic, discover who they are on the way to getting what they want. Additionally helping you to write an awesome book and rock your brand. Mum to three dogs and a family of swallows. Life without cake is a life unlived.

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