Inner Peace And The Importance Of Shaving Your Legs... - Dale Darley
Inner Peace And The Importance Of Shaving Your Legs...

Inner Peace And The Importance Of Shaving Your Legs…

After a weekend of doing not a lot, the desire to get out of bed and resume ‘normal’ life was not strong. I was cosily snuggled with two doglets, despite being pushed to the edge of the bed. I was craving inner peace and space to just forget what was going on in the world.

The first thing I did was reach for my journal and start my usual Monday journaling – the prompt is always – what do I want to create?

What do I want to create as a question is a powerful motivator, and it allows the imagination to roam a while. I find that I start writing rather uninteresting things, then the important things come up and then the ideas.

Today it was about finding calm in both my body and mind. I’d noticed with everything going on how my jaw was tight, my spine aches and how I had the tiniest stirrings of a headache.

As I scribbled, a few things that could restore my inner peace came to mind. One drink even more water, two go and do Terrace Time more often and three, stop and do a short meditation a few times.

Terrace Time is a new activity which started when we were quarantined following a death in a nearby village. We had been told that under no circumstances could anyone, even those with dogs, leave the house.

I headed to the terrace several times with my dogs to try to get them to run around this small area and do their thing. What happened was I was treated to the first glimpses of a new day while I did my energy routine. They spent most of their time with their noses in my foo foo.

What has happened is that Terrace Time has become a habit and such a treat. I’m really enjoying kicking off my day this way.

Back to the journaling.

On Sunday I do a declutter and dump, which was quite funny recalling the days odd moments. Like thinking that there was a helicopter flying over the village and when I looked, it was a tractor disinfecting the area. To be fair, the noise was deafening.

These Sunday evening forays into my imagination are powerful, and I got some great ideas out, which were reflected in my Monday creations.

Finding inner peace in my new normal

After journaling, I knew what I needed was a hot, calming shower, and to wash my hair. I needed to tell myself Monday’s here, and it’s time to get back to ‘normal’.

Normal, that is my new normal, which given how I live is not that different to my old normal, except I am unable to walk my dogs as often and as far as I usually do, which is one of my life-saving inner peace strategies outside of journaling. And I can’t meet friends for yummy food by the sea. However, yay for technology and being able to have tea and cake online.

When all was done, in the shower, I remembered my legs. Well, who cares about them? No one can see them. Who cares if they are hairy?

But that’s the point. If you let things go, they will continue to slide. Sitting around eating cake in your PJ’s watching Judge Rinder and Loose Women is not a strategy. Although I do love a bit of Judge Rinder.

What I have noticed is that when my inner peace feels at risk, I start to feel anxious, which is not something I have experienced for a long time.

This morning I made a decision that I must stay with my inner peace. I don’t have to do or be anything else, I simply need to make a choice that my inner peace is important to me.

What is Inner Peace?

The life of inner peace, being harmonious and without stress, is the easiest type of existence. Norman Vincent Peale

Inner peace is a state of being not doing. We don’t travel there physically, although I believe we do mentally and in our hearts.

It’s not a thing that we do, more that we practice things, like smiling, kindness, compassion, walking, yoga, meditation, and journaling which helps us to maintain the state of inner peace.

When we stop fretting about the future because let’s face it, we do not have a crystal ball and dwelling in the past, we can find a place of peace. And yes I get that we are living in strange times, but we really cannot predict what will happen next.

Which leads me to say that inner peace is about acceptance of the moment we find ourselves in. Take a moment to appreciate where you are and what you have.

Inner peace brings a level of freedom. Of course, you will feel stressed or anxious about things, but hopefully less so than someone who cannot or has not experienced inner peace.

Now more than ever, we need to remember that searching for inner peace is futile. This practice takes time and a desire to turn away from the outer world and come inside where there is a rich abundance of stillness is waiting for you.

Inner peace is like your well of in-tuition, it sits deep within in you. It can be a natural state of being if you choose to let yourself experience it.

I’ve been on a massive healing journey where I have learned to love me and to enjoy being in my company. It can be hard to express what inner peace means to me other than I know I have it, and you will too.

What I notice about people who seem peaceful is that:

  • They smile and laugh more
  • Worry less, don’t play the victim and find solutions
  • Are content and appreciate all that they have, and they probably practice gratitude too
  • They have tools to deal with fearful, and negatives thoughts so usually have less mind mush
  • When it comes to drama they most definitely reserve that for theater shows
  • They have faith and trust that all will be well
  • They appreciate the world around them, especially Mother Nature
  • They are kind to themselves and others
  • They are compassionate and supportive
  • They can sit with themselves and do not need to be entertained
  • They can sit still and simply be

How does inner peace arrive?

It doesn’t come on a pink unicorn. I did ask, but my request from The Universe was denied. It is as I have said a choice. I do understand that it isn’t always that easy. We have a lifetime of baggage to dump – beliefs, fears, judgements, doubts, anxieties, anger, frustration, denial, resentment and regrets to name but a few things.

Inner peace comes when you make choices about how you want to be and to let go of what does not serve you.

If you can find a way to accept who you are, love you and all of your foibles, you will find that you waste less time worrying about what you cannot control and enjoying more of the present moment.

When you do this, you will awaken to the delight that is inner peace and the realisation that you are worthy of this place of being and everything that this life has to offer.

All you have to remember is that the teacher is in you.

I am reminded once again of the serenity prayer.

The Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Reinhold Niebuhr

There are many things that you simply can’t change. The past, for example, is long gone. We cannot undo things that happened and the choices that we have made, but we can change how we feel about them and the lessons learned. We can also make conscious decisions about the things presented to us now. That brings inner peace.

Today I am

I love affirmations, try this one.

Today I am able to distinguish between what I can control and what I can’t, and I make a conscious decision to experience inner peace

Back to the hairy legs…

Get up and shave your legs. Keep things as normal as possible. Please be at peace with yourself, even if you cannot understand the world right now.

So here I am damp, fully shaved with a head of wet hair that needs taming, wondering ever so slightly – what is normal?

But ha! I have smooth legs.

And finally – What is the one thing that you can do right now that will bring some inner peace to your life?

Come and join The Journaling Club – where you will get a monthly journaling book (PDF) and exercises to keep you motivated. This month is all about simplicity, balance, flow and inner peace.

Dale Darley

Personal Brand Strategist and Author. I want to inspire people to get connected to their hearts, know and do what they love. For those people to become an inspiration and show others what is possible in the world. Mum to three dogs and a family of swallows. Life without cake is a life unlived.