When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around. – Willie Nelson
Reasons to be cheerful, parts 1,2,3
Are you an Ian Dury fan? If so, you might remember this little ditty.
Summer, Buddy Holly, the working folly
Good golly, Miss Molly and boats
Hammersmith Palais, the Bolshoi Ballet
Jump back in the alley and nanny goats
There’s not much about the lyrics that make sense and I think being cheerful doesn’t need to make much sense either.
It’s a choice, isn’t? You can choose to feel cheerful or you can be a misery guts.
When I was 21 a friend brought me a ticket to a concert. It was my first concert and it was to see Ian Dury and The Blockheads. I was besides myself with joy.
At the time I was not feeling loved. But this changed it all – what an amazing friend.
Was I cheerful all day as I waited for this, my very first concert?
You bet I was!
Was I incredibly annoying as I told everyone what I was doing that night?
Er, yes and I was annoying because I didn’t know what to wear – such a dilemma!
Even queuing in a cold, wintry Sophia Gardens was bliss. Being pushed and shoved into the metal bar at the front was not a problem. Even the bloke who chatted me up and suggested that we take our conversation further, because he could make me a model didn’t dampen my mood.
No. I was a very happy bunny when Ian and his merry men walked onto the stage. I stayed in bliss all night long and probably slept with a silly smile on my face.
The trouble is you can’t live in a state of permanent cheerfulness can you? Life sometimes gets in the way and not even a Razzle In My Pocket could lift your mood.
Non cheerful days
I confess there have been many times when I haven’t felt cheerful. When I couldn’t care less about cake or anything. There have been many times when I have just wanted to scream.
Not just scream, I mean really SCREAM and fill the air with expletives. I have wanted to punch the wall, stamp my foot, raise my arms in the air and wail out loud. No, go away, leave me alone. I have days when I want to curl up in a ball, put my fingers in my ears and sing lallalalalalalalallalal.
The good news is that these moments, because that is all that they are are moments in time, are perfectly normal and healthy to indulge in.
It’s all a matter of perspective and balance. By choosing to be an occasional miserable, grumpy bitch, somehow I feel so much better. What I love the most is laughing at how ridiculous I must have looked while having a hissy fit.
It takes no more time to see the good side of life than to see the bad. Jimmy Buffett
What feels good is letting it all out.
Have you spent years not screaming, bottling it all in and forgetting to be cheerful? Forgetting to savour the small moments?
Well, come on – step away from the whine of the computer – stamp your foot, now wiggle your tush, put your hands in the air, suck in a big fat breath and scream – yes you can scream whatever you like, even an arrggghhh will do, but possibly something like ‘tosser’. What a lovely word, try it ‘tosser, tosser, tosser’.
Now with any luck you won’t be arranging to have me carried away, you will have had a bloody good scream, be laughing at yourself and considering ‘reasons to be cheerful’ instead.
We can’t possibly hold ourselves in a state of war for long, can we? I would much rather be happy than sad, I would much rather lots of things, some of which are out of my control. I am in ‘my control’ and for example yesterday I was cheerful because:-
- I got to walk my dogs in the peace of the hills four times and every time it is different. Today I met two people and we stopped to chat. I rarely see anyone.
- I’m editing a book which is filling me full of joy. Yes, even the editing is fun.
- I’m creating something called The Manifesting Magic 8 week Circle and I am loving it.
- I had a B12 injection and now my energy will soar. I will feel human again.
- I found the perfect pressie for Mothers Day.
There are lots of reasons to be cheerful. Sometimes we do need to scream, but really it is just a matter of perspective.
Savour the small but beautiful moments.
What makes you cheerful?
What made you feel cheerful today or yesterday? Bring to mind the event/s. What made it so special?
Really consider what it was that filled your heart and made you smile.
This is all a part of your Happy To Be Me factor.
Reasons to be cheerful, part 1,2 and 3
- Part 1 – choose to be cheerful
- Part 2 – feel cheerful
- Part 3 – share your cheerfulness with others
Consider these ‘little’ things with a sense of gratitude. Fully appreciate what gifts you have been given.
Consider what you have learned about these precious moments. And remember you can tap into these feelings whenever you desire.
- Grab your journal take just 3 minutes to write about your reasons to be cheerful
- What made these moments so special
- What can you appreciate about your reasons to be cheerful?
- What are you grateful for today?
Let us always be cheerful and never make the mistake of growing up. Marty Rubin