What do you want? - Dale Darley
What do you want?

What do you want?

Before I ask you that immortal question what do you want, I want to introduce you to a bit of manifesting machinery that you carry around with you all the time. She has a jazzy name – The reticular activating system, but you can call her RAS.

When I was little mum and dad bought us a budgie, and they called it Jacqui (my first name). They said that the bird would respond and focus on its name because I got told off so often. I called her Budge, and we became the best of friends.

Budge was quite a character and did what she wanted, (just like me) including eating the windowsill. Instinctively Budge knew this was good for her beak, and that was what she honed in on. Much later she learned how to sit on my plate, shoulder or finger and bite anyone who came near me. It seemed that her intention was to protect me. To be honest, I never noticed how she focused on me until one day, I was doing something with my future husband when he got a rather nasty nip. After that, I was very careful not to upset her.

RAS works similarly for us. Once we have set our intentions on what we want, it filters out what we don’t want. So in terms of manifesting we should be able to say what we want, focus on getting it and ta-da there it is.

However there may on occasion be a conflict as RAS also validates your beliefs. So if you think you can’t then chances are you can’t. What is essential here is to start the manifesting process off by saying what you want, working towards achieving these things, dealing with the stuff that gets in the way and changing your energy, so you are aligned with your desires.

Kick-starting the manifesting process

In this article, you are going to kick start the process of asking for what you want and then noticing what happens. Think back to when you last wanted a blue car, I guarantee you saw you blue car everywhere, or what about when there is something you need to hear, and the radio plays the perfect song, or you read the exact quote.

To get what you want, you need to manage your energy and focus on the thing you want. Tune into your body and learn to recognise the good feelings associated with what you want. You may not know how to tune into your body and manage your energy just yet. That’s to come in another article. For now just know that you have a powerful on-board magical system waiting to support you.

Let’s get started – what do you want?

In the words of the Spice Girls:

I’ll tell you what I want, what I really, really want

So tell me what you want, what you really, really want

I wanna, (ha) I wanna, (ha) I wanna, (ha) I wanna, (ha)

I wanna really, really, really wanna zigazig ah

So what do you want? Stop, pause, breath, ask and scribble in your journal. This is just the beginning. You are readying your unconscious mind to get you prepared for creating what I call a bucket list for your soul. So that what you go after is aligned with your best self, true to your heart and is on your soul map to inner peace. Grab your journal and ask:

  • What do you want?
  • Why do you want it?
  • Where will it take you?
  • What will you get as a result of having this thing?
  • What won’t you get?
  • How will you get it?
  • When do you want it?

Let’s say I want to write a series of books for girls, I would focus these questions on that. This gets the juice flowing and one of the first things I might do is to undertake some light market research.

When you have done that, do some soul searching and look expand your thinking. What else do you want? And is there an order you want these things? Do you want?

  • Happiness
  • Wealth
  • Freedom
  • Inner Peace
  • Balance
  • Fulfillment
  • Confidence
  • Health
  • Love
  • Success
  • Thin
  • What else?

As you can see, these aren’t material things, but they are very worth considering.

Apply meaning

By now you will be wondering what is going on and maybe feeling a bit of overwhelm and chaos. I always think that this is good because your mind will scramble stuff up and then try to make sense of it for you. When you have your list of what you want, ask these questions:

  • What do these things mean to you?
  • What will you have when you get them?
  • What won’t you have?

Thinking about the girl’s books, it could mean that finally, you are following a long-held dream of being a children’s author. This could you give you confidence, fulfilment, excitement, joy, and a sense of purpose. What you won’t have are feelings of regret because you never tried.

Consider your challenges

What could happen next is you will start to think about your challenges. And the danger is that this will be where you focus your energy. If it is, then you will know that the reason is because of your mind mechanics, giving you what it thinks you need. Once you have started this process, you might now be saying things like:

  • What do I want to do?
  • I don’t have enough money to do that
  • I don’t have the time to do what I want
  • Who I am and what is my purpose?
  • How do I balance my needs and energy
  • How can I be my best self and realise my potential
  • I don’t feel feeling worthy or capable
  • I just have no energy, I am always ill, how am I supposed to do…
  • I’m trapped in a loveless relationship, how will I ever be free?
  • I am such a failure
  • Ug when I look in the mirror who is that horrible, miserable person?

When not very pleasant this is great because you are starting to get things out in the open and later in other articles, you can look at how to squish your gremlins.

Ask again – what do you want?

Take some time out and ask again. It is only by asking can you get clarity.

  • What do you want?
  • Why do you want it?
  • Where will it take you?
  • What will you get as a result of having this thing?
  • What won’t you get?
  • How will you get it?
  • When do you want it?

And you will be pleased to know that this is the last thing I am going to suggest…

  • First, think of something you want – an end result you want to influence.
  • Now think about the experience, feelings or result you want to reach in regards to that thing
  • Get your envisioning muscles ready and create a mental movie of how you see you think this will be in the future. Notice what you see, feel, hear, smell, taste and know about the details of that mental movie. Replay it often in your head

Reflect in your journal. I think you will find magical things happening.

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Dale Darley

Writing coach, Executive Soul Coach and Author. Helping conscious, heart-led women manifest magic, discover who they are on the way to getting what they want. Additionally helping you to write an awesome book and rock your brand. Mum to three dogs and a family of swallows. Life without cake is a life unlived.

  • Cindy Fox says:

    Thank you! You encouraged me tonight to once again face the “I can’t” and overcome the obstacles so “I can”!! Truly magical things are happening!

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