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How to Take the Self-Betrayal Archetype Quiz

This quiz will help you discover your personal patterns of self-betrayal  –  the ways you unconsciously abandon, diminish, or silence your authentic self.

Understanding your archetype is the first step to reclaiming your wild heart and redirecting your creative energy towards what truly matters.

Before You Begin

What You’ll Need:

  • 10-15 minutes of uninterrupted time
  • A quiet space where you can be honest with yourself
  • An open mind and willingness to see uncomfortable truths

Important Mindset:

  • There are no “wrong” answers – only honest ones
  • Don’t overthink it – your first instinct is usually most accurate
  • Be kind to yourself – these patterns developed as survival strategies
  • This is about awareness, not judgment – as my mum always says you are not a robot, you’re human
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Taking The Quiz

Step 1: Read Each Question Carefully

Each question presents a common life situation. Read it fully before looking at the answer options.

Example:

“When someone asks you to do something you don’t want to do, you typically:”

Step 2: Choose the Answer That Feels MOST True

You’ll see 7 different answer options (A through G) for each question.

Choose the ONE that:

  • Feels most like your natural, automatic response
  • Describes what you actually do (not what you wish you did)
  • Resonates emotionally, even if it’s uncomfortable

Tips:

  • If multiple answers feel true, choose the one that happens most often
  • If you’re torn between two, pick the one that feels more emotionally charged
  • Don’t choose what sounds “best”  – choose what’s most honest

Step 3: Answer All 14 Questions

The quiz has 14 questions total. You’ll see a progress counter at the top showing how many you’ve completed.

You must answer all 14 questions to get your results – the “Discover Your Archetype” button won’t work until all questions are answered.

If you’ve done significant personal work and some questions don’t apply anymore, choose ‘None of these apply’ – that’s valuable information showing you’re already in transformation.

Step 4: Submit and View Your Results

Once you’ve answered all 14 questions:

  1. Click the “Discover Your Archetype” button at the bottom
  2. The page will automatically scroll to show your results
  3. Your results will include:
    • Your Primary Archetype (your main pattern)
    • Your Constellation (secondary patterns that also show up)
    • A visual chart showing your complete profile
    • What this means for you and how to redirect your energy

Tips for Best Results

DO:

  • Take the quiz when you’re calm and reflective
  • Answer based on your actual behaviour, not aspirations
  • Trust your gut reaction to each question
  • Be honest about uncomfortable truths
  • Read your full results without skimming

DON’T:

  • Rush through just to get results
  • Answer how you think you “should” answer
  • Take it when you’re triggered or upset
  • Compare your results to others
  • Use results to beat yourself up

Privacy Note

This quiz does not:

  • Collect or store your answers
  • Track your personal information
  • Share your results with anyone

Your answers and results stay completely private to you.

The Self-Betrayal Archetype Quiz

The Self-Betrayal Archetype Quiz

Discover How You Abandon Yourself and Reclaim Your Wild Heart

This quiz will help you identify your personal patterns of self-betrayal — the ways you abandon, diminish, or silence your authentic self.

Answer honestly by selecting the response that feels most true to your typical behaviour. If you've done significant personal work and some questions don't apply anymore, choose "None of these apply" — that's valuable information showing you're already in transformation.

Question 0 of 14
Question 1

When someone asks you to do something you don't want to do, you typically:

Question 2

Your relationship with your own needs is:

Question 3

When your body signals that you're tired, stressed, or unwell, you usually:

Question 4

In conversations, you tend to:

Question 5

Your approach to setting boundaries is:

Question 6

When you feel angry or frustrated, you typically:

Question 7

Your relationship with your appearance and body is:

Question 8

When making decisions, you:

Question 9

Your inner voice typically sounds like:

Question 10

When you achieve something or receive a compliment, you:

Question 11

When thinking about your dreams and desires, you:

Question 12

Your relationship with time is:

Question 13

When faced with conflict or discomfort, you typically:

Question 14

Your approach to your own well-being is:

Understanding Your Results

Your Primary Archetype

This is the self-betrayal pattern you use most frequently. It will show the highest percentage in your results.

The 7 Archetypes:

  1. The People-Pleaser — You abandon yourself to keep others happy
  2. The Perfectionist — You punish yourself with impossible standards
  3. The Invisible Woman — You make yourself small and stay hidden
  4. The Self-Sacrificer — You over-give until you’re depleted
  5. The Self-Doubter — You question everything about yourself
  6. The Postponer — You defer your life to “someday”
  7. The Abandoner — You disconnect from your body and feelings

Your Constellation

Most women don’t have just ONE pattern – they have a constellation of 2-3 patterns that work together.

Your results will show:

  • Strong secondary patterns (30% or more of your primary score)
  • Moderate secondary patterns (15-29% of your primary score)

Example Result:

  • Primary: The People-Pleaser (50%)
  • Strong Secondary: The Invisible Woman (35%)
  • Moderate Secondary: The Self-Sacrificer (20%)

This means you people-please WHILE staying small WHILE over-giving – these patterns reinforce each other.

    Your Visual Profile

    You’ll see a bar chart showing your percentage across all 7 archetypes. This gives you the complete picture of how your creative energy has been flowing.

    What To Do With Your Results

    Self Betrayal Results

    Immediate Actions:

    1. Read Your Full Results
      • Take time to really absorb what resonates
      • Notice where you feel defensive (often means it’s hitting truth)
      • Celebrate the awareness – seeing the pattern is powerful
    2. Download the Free Guide
      • Click the link to get “21 Wild Remembering”
      • This gives you daily practices to begin redirecting your energy
    3. Explore Your Archetype Pages
      • Each archetype has a detailed guide
      • Learn about your specific patterns, drivers, and transformation path
      • Understand your “Reclaimed Identity” (who you become when you redirect)

    Going Deeper:

    1. Join Reclaim Your Wild (12-Week Programme)
      • Work through all 7 RECLAIM stages
      • Transform your constellation from self-betrayal to creative flow
      • Manifest your Heart Project using redirected energy
    2. Join the Circle (Monthly Community)
      • Practice in safe community
      • Share your journey
      • Witness other women reclaiming their wild hearts

    Next Steps...

    A - The People Pleaser

    Driven by: Self-Infiltration

    You’ve become so skilled at reading and meeting everyone else’s needs that you’ve lost touch with your own.

    Discover more

    B - The Perfectionist

    Driven by: Internalised Misogyny & Self-Criticism

    No matter what you achieve, it’s never enough -the goalposts keep moving and your inner critic remains relentless.

    Discover more

    C - The Invisible Woman

    Driven by: Internalised Misogyny & The “Good Girl” Mask

    You’ve spent so much energy disappearing that you’ve forgotten what it feels like to be fully seen.

    Discover more

    D - The Self-Sacrificer

    Driven by: Chronic Over-Functioning & Toxic Loyalty

    You’ve become so indispensable to everyone else that you’ve become dispensable to yourself.

    Discover more

    E - The Self-Doubter

    Driven by: Introjection & External Validation Seeking

    Your internal landscape is so crowded with others’ voices that you can’t hear your own knowing anymore.

    Discover more

    F - The Postponer

    Driven by: Delayed Life Syndrome & Self-Deception

    You’ve convinced yourself you’re “not ready yet” for so long that you’ve forgotten what you’re even waiting for.

    Discover more

    G - The Abandoner

    Driven by: Dissociation & Chronic Avoidance

    You’ve become so skilled at leaving your body that you’ve forgotten what it feels like to be fully present and alive.

    Discover more

    Frequently Asked Questions

    What if I relate to multiple archetypes equally?

    This is actually very common! If your top 2-3 scores are close, you have a strong constellation. Your results will show all of them and explain how they work together.

    What if my results don't feel accurate

    Consider:

    • Did you answer honestly or how you “should” answer?
    • Are you feeling defensive because it hit close to home?
    • Try taking it again in a different mood/time and compare results
    Can my archetype change?

    Your primary archetype tends to be fairly stable (it’s your default pattern), but the intensity can shift based on life circumstances. You might notice different secondary patterns becoming stronger during stressful periods.

    What if I don't like my results

    Remember:

    • This isn’t about judgment — it’s about awareness
    • These patterns developed to protect you
    • Seeing the pattern is the first step to changing it
    • Your archetype shows where your POWER has been going — imagine redirecting it!
    How accurate is this quiz?

    This quiz is based on psychological research into self-betrayal patterns, trauma responses, and women’s conditioning. This is research that I undertook – so it is my interpretation. It’s designed to spark recognition and awareness, not provide a clinical diagnosis.

    If your results resonate deeply, that recognition is the accuracy you need.