Understanding Your Pattern
Whether you’re just discovering your self-betrayal patterns or you’ve already done significant work on yourself, you’re in the right place. Transformation isn’t a destination – it’s an ongoing practice of redirecting your creative energy from self-betrayal back to your authentic self.
Your self-betrayal isn’t one-dimensional. These patterns work together, creating a system where your magnificent creative energy flows into multiple forms of self-abandonment. All of this energy can be redirected.
How to Work With Your Constellation
Your constellation shows your unique combination of self-betrayal patterns. Here’s how to use these results:
Start with your Primary Archetype
This is your dominant pattern – the one that shows up most often. Focus here first to understand your core self-betrayal mechanism and begin the transformation journey.
Notice your Secondary Patterns
Your secondary patterns reinforce your primary pattern. They’re supporting players in your constellation.
Work with ONE archetype at a time
Begin transforming your primary pattern. As you redirect this energy, your secondary patterns often naturally shift too – they’re interconnected.
Return to explore others later
Once you’ve made progress with your primary archetype, you can work with your secondary patterns for even deeper transformation.
All 7 Self-Betrayal Archetypes
A quick overview of all patterns notice which ones resonate beyond your results:
A. The People-Pleaser
Driven by: Self-Infiltration You abandon yourself to keep everyone else comfortable, monitoring moods and shape-shifting to fit expectations whilst your own truth disappears.
Reclaimed Identity: The Magnetic Heart
B. The Perfectionist
Driven by: Internalised Misogyny & Self-Criticism You drive yourself towards impossible standards with merciless self-criticism, using your gifts for excellence as weapons against yourself.
Reclaimed Identity: The Sovereign Creator
C. The Invisible Woman
Driven by: Internalised Misogyny & The “Good Girl” Mask You make yourself smaller, quieter, and less visible in every space, apologising for your existence whilst your gifts remain hidden from the world.
Reclaimed Identity: The Visible Leader
D. The Self-Sacrificer
Driven by: Chronic Over-Functioning & Toxic Loyalty You give until you’re utterly depleted, taking on everyone’s emotional and practical burdens whilst your own life remains perpetually on hold.
Reclaimed Identity: The Empowered Nurturer
E. The Self-Doubter
Driven by: Introjection & External Validation Seeking You question every feeling, thought, and instinct you have, seeking validation from everyone except the one person who truly knows—yourself.
Reclaimed Identity: The Trusting Visionary
F. The Postponer
Driven by: Delayed Life Syndrome & Self-Deception You keep waiting for the “right time” that never arrives, deferring your dreams to someday whilst your life passes unlived in the present.
Reclaimed Identity: The Present Manifestor
G. The Abandoner
Driven by: Dissociation & Chronic Avoidance You disconnect from your body and feelings to avoid discomfort, numbing out so completely that you’re living your life from the outside looking in.
Reclaimed Identity: The Embodied One
The Redirection: Same Power, New Direction
When you redirect your creative energy, you don’t lose who you are. You become your reclaimed identity – someone who channels all that magnificent energy towards creation, not self-betrayal.
The Magnetic Heart
From: The People-Pleaser
You create authentic connection without self-abandonment, attracting aligned people through genuine presence rather than performance, and channeling your relational gifts into your Heart Project.
The Sovereign Creator
From: The Perfectionist
You create from joy and inspiration rather than fear and criticism, pursuing excellence as expression (not proof of worth), and building beautiful work without the accompanying cruelty.
The Visible Leader
From: The Invisible Woman
You take up space unapologetically and lead from authentic presence, speaking at full volume about what matters, and inspiring others through your courage to be fully seen.
The Empowered Nurturer
From: The Self-Sacrificer
You give from fullness rather than emptiness, creating sustainable systems of care that honor your needs too, and serving from overflow instead of depletion.
The Trusting Visionary
From: The Self-Doubter
You trust your inner knowing over external validation, following intuition with confidence rather than constant questioning, and making decisions from your center instead of seeking consensus.
The Present Manifestor
From: The Postponer
You create in the now rather than waiting for “someday,” taking imperfect action from where you are, and manifesting your vision in real time instead of theoretical future.
The Embodied One
From: The Abandoner
You live fully in your body and stay present with what you feel, trusting your somatic wisdom over mental escape, and creating from grounded wholeness rather than dissociated fragments.
Download Your Guide
These short guides provide an overview for you. The complete guides are offered as part of Reclaim Your Wild and Return To The Wild Circle.
The People-Pleaser → The Magnetic Heart
Discover how to move from abandoning yourself to keep everyone comfortable to creating authentic connection without losing your truth.
The Perfectionist → The Sovereign Creator
Discover how to move from driving yourself with impossible standards and merciless criticism to creating beautiful work from joy and inspiration.
The Invisible Woman → The Visible Leader
Discover how to move from making yourself small and apologising for existing to taking up space and leading from your authentic presence.
The Self-Sacrificer → The Empowered Nurturer
Discover how to move from giving until you’re utterly depleted to nurturing from overflow whilst honoring your own needs.
The Self-Doubter → The Trusting Visionary
Discover how to move from questioning every instinct and seeking external validation to trusting your inner knowing with confidence.
The Postponer → The Present Manifestor
Discover how to move from waiting for “someday” whilst life passes by to manifesting your vision in the present moment.
The Abandoner → The Embodied One
Discover how to move from disconnecting and numbing out to living fully present in your body and feelings.
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What's Next?
Reclaim Your WIld
RECLAIM Your Wild is a 7-stage journey mapped to the chakra system that guides women from patterns like people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-sacrifice toward manifesting their Heart Projects.
Return To The Wild Circle
Return to the Wild is a circle for women dancing in the fire, splashing in the water and blowing the clocks off dandelions. This is where your mess is welcome, your not-knowing is held, and your journey back to yourself is witnessed by women who understand.
Here, we gather monthly to write, share, and remember – to reconnect with the cycles that hold us, share stories, and listen to the truth that gets lost in the noise.
You learn to belong to yourself by being witnessed by women who see you – really see you – and don’t look away.
21-Day Wild Remembering Practice
Over the next three weeks, you’ll reconnect with the wild intelligence that has guided human beings for millennia. Through simple daily practices – most taking just 5-10 minutes – you’ll begin to feel the pulse of the natural world in your own heartbeat, see the cycle of seasons reflected in your own creative rhythms, and trust the ancient wisdom that lives in your cellular memory.
Understanding Where You Are
Just Awakening (New to This Work)
You’re recognising your patterns for the first time.
Most questions in the quiz resonated deeply. You’re seeing how your creative energy has been flowing into self-betrayal patterns, and this awareness is the critical first step.
What you need now:
- Understanding the psychological mechanisms driving your patterns
- Practical tools to begin redirecting your energy
- Support as you start making different choices
- A framework for consistent transformation
Reclaim Your Wild gives you: The complete 7-stage journey from recognition through manifestation, with all the tools, practices, and guidance to transform your patterns and manifest your Heart Project.
Actively Transforming (Work in Progress)
You’re breaking free from some patterns but others persist.
Some questions didn’t apply anymore – you’ve done work on yourself. But you still identified strongly with certain archetypes. You’re in the messy middle of transformation where some days feel like progress and others like backsliding.
What you need now:
- Deepening the practices that are working
- Addressing the stubborn patterns that remain
- Preventing backsliding during stress
- Structure to sustain your momentum
- Community with others on this journey
Reclaim Your Wild gives you: The structure and community to move from inconsistent progress to embodied transformation. You’ll refine what’s working, address what remains, and prevent the backsliding that derails transformation.
Well Into Transformation (Advanced Work)
You’ve done significant personal development work.
Most questions didn’t apply to you anymore. You’ve broken free from many self-betrayal patterns. But you know the work isn’t done – subtle patterns remain, stress can trigger old behaviors, and you want to deepen your reclaimed identity.
What you need now:
- Advanced practices for subtle remaining patterns
- Tools to prevent backsliding during stress
- Deeper embodiment of your reclaimed identity
- Support in manifesting from your transformed state
- Community with others doing advanced work
Reclaim Your Wild gives you: Next-level work that honours how far you’ve come while taking you deeper. This isn’t about “fixing” you — it’s about refining your practice, preventing regression, and manifesting your Heart Project from your already-transformed state.
Why Reclaim Your Wild Works at Every Stage
For Those Just Awakening:
You get the complete foundation – all 7 stages of transformation, from recognising your patterns through manifesting your Heart Project. You’re not trying to figure this out alone.
For Those Actively Transforming:
You get structure and consistency — the framework to move from sporadic progress to sustained transformation. You’ll finally integrate the practices that stick.
For Those Well Into Transformation:
You get advanced refinement – deeper work on subtle patterns, embodied practices for staying grounded, and the support to manifest your Heart Project from your reclaimed state.