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Journaling, blogs, books, healing and marketing

What a combination of things to think about, but for me, journaling, writing blogs and books all lead to healing in some way. And when you have a book to market you need to think about how to get it known.

Words are powerful. The words we say to ourselves get interpreted by our bodies and depending on what kind of words you use, you could be healing and harming yourself.

When I was first diagnosed with osteoporosis, the first thing I did was open a brand new journal. A short while later I started another one. One was for the journey, and one is a gratitude journal. The osteoporosis journal was to try and make sense of everything, which included my body, feelings, mindset and things that needed researching. And the other was because I found myself in a low place where nothing made sense, and I wanted to remind myself about the beauty of the world.

The blog for natural osteoporosis awareness was so that I could share my learning and wisdom and in some way help others. This gives me purpose and meaning, which are so important for healing. I didn’t want to write a blog, but it helped me to write my book and create awareness (marketing) in preparation for the launch in October.

I started the book with an idea, my story and a process – a way to create a unique healing plan for your life and for osteoporosis (a chronic dis-ease). Once it was outlined and a few chapters written, I took time out for marketing. This meant:

Then when this was settled, I was back to writing my book.

Each of these stages has given me clarity, purpose and healing. Can you see why I do what I do? This is what you do too.

Think about what it is you have come to Earth to share or teach. Each and every one of you reading this will get some clarity somewhere about what you are doing and the path you are on.

You may be journaling or resisting it, thinking about a book and not sure how to write it or market it. Where ever you are think about these things:-

  • What am I here to do? – Mission
  • What is my vision?
  • What is my core message?

When you know what your mission, vision and core message are, you can create a strategy (the steps to get you to where you want (and need) to go.

Start by buying a journal, get connected to your heart and write. Who knows where your heartfelt words will take you?

Here is a video about starting to journal as a reminder to embrace the power of journaling.

Have a wonderful day.

I have two groups on Facebook that are free – Writing for the soul and Natural Osteoporosis Awareness. Come and join me.

Kay Sanders new book Messages of Inspiration

I met Kay about a year ago and we hit it off immedietly. Kay always inspires me and when she told me it was time for her to write a new book I imagined that we would see it in about six months. Little did I realise that in just 45 days Kay would get her book Messages of Inspiration written and be ready to launch in such a short space of time. Kay is truly an inspiration.

Here is a recording of our recent interview

What inspired you to write this book?

The idea for this book came to me while I was meditating back in December. During my meditation, I received this massive download and divine guidance to write a book filled with 365 inspirational messages from the Universe to bring inspiration and motivation to the world. Initially, I had no idea how I should come up with 365 powerful quotes but by consulting in my Akashic Records, the beings of the light helped me through guidance to get these messages on paper. I felt so very touched that I was gifted this mission to bring these messages to the world to inspire people that anything is truly possible and that no matter how difficult your life may seem, you can do, be and have anything your heart desires and these messages bring a deeper meaning to the readers to help them stay in awe of what is truly possible for them.

What is the title of your latest book?

Messages of Inspiration – 365 Days of Inspiration and Motivation – you can grab a copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07C292JK4  / https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07C292JK4

How did you come up with the title?

The beings of the light told me the name

What is it about?

Messages of Inspiration is an inspirational and motivational book that is meant to inspire its readers that anything is possible for them and that no matter how difficult their life or circumstances might seem, there is always light at the end of the tunnel and always infinite possibilities available to create more joy, happiness and success in one’s life.

How did you come up with the idea?

I received the divine guidance to write this book

Who would you love to read it – what kind of people and why?

Conscious people who have the deep desire for more joy, happiness and success in their life. Who have been searching for answers, who want to be, do and have so much more and who know that life has so much more to offer but they simply have not figured out how to close the gap from where they are right now to manifest what their heart desires and creating a life full of abundance.

What were (or are) the challenges in bringing it to life?

Initially, I did not think I would be able to write 365 quotes and I figured it would take me quite a while to finish this book but with the help of the beings of the light and my record keepers, they helped me write these 365 quotes in as little as 45 days.

If you had to do it all over again, would you change anything in your this book?

Not one thing. I was following divine guidance it is perfect in just the way it is.

What was the best part of bringing your book to life?

Being gifted this huge purpose to bring these messages from the Universe to live and how fast it all came about. Now the best part is that it has already been making major head waves even though it has not even been released yet. Many have been eager to sign up for the accompanying email series and just the amazing comments and testimonials I have received so far warms my heart and I know it will touch so very many hearts and impact their lives.

What did you learn from writing your book?

That if you trust in your own abilities and just allow your inner guidance to take over, you can create something so beautiful that is going to change lives.

What advice do you have for other writers?

Don’t wait to write the story that you hold within you. Writing a book is not as difficult as it may seem and there are many who are just waiting to hear your story. If you think your story is not important enough to be shared, let me assure you it is, and even if your story only impacts one single person that is one person you were able to help and make a difference in their life.

What is your inspirational message for the world?

We often forget that we are infinite beings, who can do, be and have anything our heart desires but we often get derailed by our negative and limiting thoughts, the illusions we live by that keeps us playing small because we fear change, we fear failure, or we simply don’t think more is in store for us.

If you have had this longing to be, do and have more then don’t wait! Don’t be that person who envy’s others for all that they have, for the great lifestyle they live, for the amazing success they experience, for the joy and happiness they radiate. You too can create this lifestyle for yourself; believe that anything is possible, that you too can have all that your heart desires. Abundance, joy, happiness and great success is not something that is reserved for others; you too can create all the abundance, all the joy, all the happiness and all the success your heart desires.

Be the person who does not let their situation or circumstance determine their life. You can choose to say no to all the struggles, say no to the challenges you may be experiencing and say YES to abundance, say YES to Joy, Happiness and immense Success in your life.

What else have you done with your book? (e.g. Turned it into a course/Retreat/Speaking)

It is also available in a daily email series which also includes an action step to take to get the most out of the messages. Soon it will become available as a workbook, I will use it for speaking and I am thinking about turning it into a retreat as well

What opportunities has your book created for you?

So far I have received many opportunities to speak on different podcasts and radio shows, I may be sponsored by the local ballpark for a book signing and I am sure a lot more opportunities will come from it

Share a quote from your book

quote from Kay Sanders

 

Your message is meant to be heard, do not hide your gifts, your message, or yourself behind the illusion that your message is not worth sharing.

What books have influenced your life the most?

Wayne Dyer’s book Excuses Be Gone and Believe it before you see it.  Lisa Barnett’s book on the Akashic Records and many many others

Thinking back to books of your childhood, what were your favourite books and why?

I was an addict to the romance novels of the old times

What book(s) are you reading now?

A lot of spiritually based books, personal development books and some business building books but mainly the spiritual books have caught my interest

What do you do for fun?

That is a very good question, I tend to work a lot but during my downtime. I love to meditate, read, be out in nature, and just BE

Meet Kay Sanders

Kay Sanders new book Messages of InspirationKay Sanders, known as the Creator of Possibilities is an Intuitive Business Coach, Certified Akashic Record Consultant, and Bestselling Author.

Kay helps conscious entrepreneurs find that missing piece to create momentum in their Business and re-ignite their Manifesting Mojo so they can make a difference in the world, create more freedom in their life and tap into the magic and power of manifesting their heart’s desire.

Where can we find out more about you?

https://www.kaysanders.com/

http://www.messagesofinspiration.com

https://www.facebook.com/kaysanders80

https://www.facebook.com/groups/theconsciousentrepreneurlounge/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/kaysanders80/

Press for progress. I am not a number. I am not osteoporosis

Today is International Women’s Day. A day to join with your sisters to celebrate how far we have come and what we have achieved. A day to consider our values and the impact we want to make in the world. My call is for more awareness for natural treatments for osteoporosis.

What and how do your values enable you to create an impact? What does that impact look like?

Your voice carries a lot of power and so today, and every day it is essential to share your inspirational message, in some way.

In some countries, International Women’s Day is about women in the working world, mainly corporate and often around leadership issues, equality and diversity and in others countries, it is a celebration of women.

It’s 2018, and by now, you would think that we wouldn’t need to keep reminding the world that women need to be heard. That every one of us needs our voice to be heard, no matter where. However, we do and International Women’s Day is an excellent time to grab your journal and reflect. What does it mean to be a woman in 2018? What does it mean to have your voice heard?

What I like is that every year, this is a day to celebrate how much has been achieved by women for women. It is also a day to remind everyone to keep up the pressure. This year’s International Women’s Day message is #pressforprogress.

What does press for progress mean to you? Where would you like to see progress?

Women want equality, diversity, respect and for our voices and message to be heard. All around the world, we want our sisters (and brothers) to live well. We desire and demand to live in a world where everyone regardless of many discriminating factors lives in love, peace and harmony. I may not see that in my lifetime, but none the less, I want with all of my heart for every living being and Mother Earth to be respected, loved and cared for. I am sure you do too?

Regardless of this one day, there are many things we can do for each other, but before we do that we need to respect other peoples personal choices

I am not a number. I am not osteoporosis

We know that to be the change we want to see in the world is often easier said than done. Life is rarely easy, and if and when we are diagnosed with something, we end up being a number or a statistic, and we get labelled.

Right at this moment, I’d like to press for progress in the way that we are treated and heard in our doctor’s surgeries. Recently my spine fractured. If this has ever happened, you will know that this is painful. Not only that it probably heralds the start of a journey that you were not expecting – the discovery of osteoporosis.

I am not a number I am not osteoporosis

Until this happened to me, I had an understanding of it, but what I didn’t appreciate was how set in their ways some doctors are. I wanted six months to try a natural naturopathic approach. So that my doctor would understand I prepared two documents, which she ignored as she swiftly wrote out my prescription for drugs.

I hasten to add that my doctor is a charming woman, who has expressed her desire to provide natural remedies where she can. For example, because she tells me I also have arthritis, she suggests a supplement which is not a pharmaceutical drug. However, she questions how I eat and has not been trained in nutrition, so how could she understand that natural works.

What I desire is for my voice to be heard and to be supported. However, we shall work together so that I can get the best that science has to offer, which I implement the best that nature has to offer.

Back in 2016, I turned around an overactive thyroid with a natural approach. To this day it is still normal. I know that a natural approach works.

Then and now my decision is to do whatever I can to do to heal without the drugs but utilising medical services, such as blood tests and bone density tests. The problem is I do not yet fully understand if bone density tests actually show me anything valuable. The debate is open as to whether these show anything to support a natural approach.

Currently, I am in the camp that says I would like to be able to measure something so that I can see how I am progressing. Tests are one way. Other ways include how my body feels, my ability to move, the condition of my spine (it is currently curved), energy levels, ability to exercise, the level of pain, the efficiency of my digestive system (this has to work for the nutrition to work)

However, why should I have to work within a system that seems to me to be brainwashed and not open to other approaches?

It’s a little like the cannabis debate. A drug which has shown tremendous efficacy in many treatments, which however is classed as dangerous. Smoking cigarettes, drinking alcohol, eating rubbish food are all fatal and create many problems within our society. Yet they are all legal. It doesn’t make sense to me.

We live in a society that pushes svelte slim models. It’s not all about weight loss, what about focusing on gaining great health?

We need to start looking at each of us as a whole person and not made up of parts that don’t work. Let’s work on getting the fundamentals right and then like a domino the rest of the systems will work more efficiently.

Am I against drugs in the treatment of osteoporosis?

This is interesting. No, I am not. However, I am against them being used as the first approach. I absolutely respect anyone who wants to take them. We have to make the right choice for us.  And the natural path is not easy until it becomes a part of who you are. People will always comment on what you can or can’t eat and how you live your life.

In her early 70’s my mum discovered five fractures in her spine. We went into action and got books on natural approaches and mum looked at the drug options. She tried many things until her doctor prescribed a drug called Proteus. After five years her bone density (my mum and her doctor’s measure of success) showed an improvement. She was delighted. But after five years she couldn’t have the drug anymore and was given something else which has left her feeling many months later very unwell. She wishes that she had never agreed to this one. But it is too late. It is an annual injection, and it is now in her body.

My mum, however, has also changed her diet. As a mother, she feels guilty that I have this thing, but she also supports and honours my decisions about how I will treat it. This is not her fault. No one is to blame. This is as a result of life. I have this wake-up call because there are imbalances in my body and soul. Imbalances that I believe that drugs at this point cannot rebalance.

If after six months the way that I do it does not work, I’ll explore my options again.

Ok. I’ll get off my soapbox, but I will not give up my right to a healthy drug-free life.

What do I want for osteoporosis?

  • I want doctors to understand better the role that nutrition and lifestyle plays
  • To work in conjunction with both a nutritionist and a coach. Changing to a naturopathic natural diet requires a mindset change
  • I’d like natural to be the first approach where relevant and possible
  • Women to be given routine blood tests as they approach menopause
  • Women to undertake a routine risk assessment which looks at them as a whole being and not just in parts
  • For anyone with contributory factors such as in my case an overactive thyroid to be sent for a bone density test – as this is the only test we have available – we can only currently use this as a measure
  • For bone density tests to be given again after the first six months to check if the natural approach is working
  • For other blood tests to be available – you can see a comprehensive list here. Again if we have a baseline, we can measure what is happening, rather than leaving it to chance
  • For women who are offered drugs, to be tested as above and for intolerances so that they are given the right drug and nutritional support
  • Specialist exercise programs to be offered. It seems pointless to me to tell people to swim and do weight training unless they know how to create a program that will support their injuries

Before I close, osteoporosis is a threat for men too. It is a threat for young people. We all need better educating. We must not exclude anyone.

And finally, although I will probably think of many more things to add, for this to be taught alongside natural fertility planning and nutrition in schools.

I’m working on my book Osteoporosis and Me. You can register to find out about when it is ready. Alongside the book, I will be making available other things that I learn.

I’d like to leave you with this. This is not a disease or a disorder; this means that your body is not at ease and is not in harmony. You are a whole human, and there is never one thing that causes imbalance, it is as a result of many things. What I do to solve my problems may not be what you do – this is because we are all individuals and have to look at ourselves to find root causes and work to rectify them in a way that is right for us. I cannot offer you advice, but I can tell you what I do.

Please share this post and the memes so that we can work together to create change.

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If you have a personal story that needs to be told, please get in touch, we can chat about your book and how you can help others to see whats possible for them.

Honour yourself on International Women’s Day and every day

Tomorrow is International Women’s Day. A day to join with your sisters to celebrate how far we have come and what we have achieved. A day to consider our values and the impact we want to make in the world.

To be able to create the change we want to see, we have to take time out to honour who we are.

Make International Women’s Day and every day, a day to honour yourself

Unless we learn to honour who we are and learn to love ourselves enough, we will not have firm foundations from which to move forward. Here are a few simple ideas that you can implement.

Write yourself a love letter

Love letter to you

 

Write a letter from your heart to your soul and body. Explain in simple terms why you love you. Put pen to paper and trust that what is meant to be written will emerge. Think of what International Women’s Day and press for progress mean to you.

Write a letter and wave goodbye to all that does not serve you and be open to new opportunities

One of the more fun things that I do when I am feeling down is to write a letter about what I’d like to come into my life. I am mindful of how I write it because the mind is a powerful thing. So for example, if you have had a tough time with a past relationship, consider what good things have come from it; I certainly say thank you to three relationships for allowing me to live the life I do today.

Say thank you and then ask how is it possible for me too, for example, have a beautiful relationship, where we are equal, and I am loved and respected for who I am? Your words, your way. Then when you have written what you need to positively, burn your letter. As you watch the flames flicker, give thanks and send love to the past.

Do something to honour your body

Make and eat something delicious and nutritious and do it mindfully. I adore my Nutribullet and making gorgeous smoothies. I also have reflexology regularly and if you can make some time in your diary to feel the healing touch of another. Even if you can’t get to see a masseur, run a luscious bath, put on some meditation music, light some candles, choose a calming oil, smother your face with avocado and drift off.

Replace a ‘not so good’ food with something yummy and healthy

Honour your body

If you currently reward yourself with something high fat or full of processed sugar, consider swapping it out for something healthier. This doesn’t mean eating a carrot, although you could make some delicious homemade hummus; one of my favourites. Another idea might be to dip some of your favourite fruit in raw chocolate – oh yes!!!

Practice self-healing

You don’t have to be a ‘trained’ healer to do this; anyone can heal. Close your eyes and take some deep relaxing breaths. Place one hand at your heart and one under your breasts (solar plexus). Open your heart to healing and be open to what comes. Focus on drawing in energy to create inner peace, balance and harmony. Another idea could be to massage your tummy – the womb of your femininity. Use some lovely oils, maybe something like neroli to encourage creativity.

Rescue a dog or three

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As a mum to three rescues, I would say this, wouldn’t I? I feel blessed to have them as a part of my life. Not a day goes by where they don’t make me laugh. With dogs, I can’t make any excuses for not getting out as they need to run around and sniff. The benefits include getting a lung full of fresh air and some exercise, I am experiencing Mother Nature, and getting an opportunity to reflect.

Do something creative

Write a blog or a book, paint a picture or make something. I write most days, but for relaxation, I knit strange dolls. What about a bit of adult colouring in? Creativity opens you up to opportunities.

Wear something that makes you feel feminine

Given where I live up in the hills, I usually wear something practical as I need to get out and walk my dogs. When I get the chance, I like to choose something more feminine outfit and ignore how my walking shoes might look… What could you put on that makes you feel like great?

Buy flowers and brighten up your home and/or workspace

Place your flowers in a gorgeous vase where you can see them throughout the day. As you look at them, remind yourself of your inner beauty. If you don’t want to buy cut flowers what could you collect from nature? Around me is loads of lavender and rosemary – bliss.

Don’t wait for someone to buy you flowers, buy them for yourself

Say thank you

Say thank you for who you are, whether physical or spiritual.

Make this International Women’s Day and every day a day to support a sister

Giving back is a wonderful way to feel great as you do good. It doesn’t have to be costly or take too much of your time. Try some of these:-

Offer a complimentary mentoring session

You have incredible knowledge, skills and experience, who might benefit from a Skype call or a cuppa with you? That hour could change both of your lives.

Sponsor a sister

Make a small monthly donation to someone who is less fortunate than you.

Give a gift

 

Footprints. Leave your footprints in someones heart

Leave your footprints in someone’s heart. Create your legacy today. If you have a book or an online course, consider giving a gift to another woman. I often give coupons to my courses away, which I hope will inspire someone to write a book.

Challenge unconscious bias amongst your male family and friends

Open the conversation with your ‘brothers’ and fellow humans and ask them what they think and how they can help to create balance and harmony. Consider how you can work together to create inclusive education, awareness and action.

Be more flexible with your working day

If you are self-employed, consider how you can flex your day. As an early riser, I often write early, then head out for a walk (although not right at the moment) and do whatever I want to, ensuring that I get done what needs to be actioned. I am mindful that clients may need to talk on the weekend or evenings, which is often the case with writing a book. If that is the case, I make space, providing I have the energy and no other commitments. Being flexible means that you can achieve so much more. Try it. It may feel strange if you are not long into self-employment.

Slip some money into someone’s pocket

I am not suggesting that you creep stealth like and unpick someone’s pocket, but you could leave some cash (doesn’t have to be much) with a note in the ladies toilet for some unsuspecting sister. Tell her to have a cuppa on you.

Say thank you to a fellow woman leader

Is there a woman who you consider to be a leader? Tell her what an excellent job she is doing.

Say thank you

Thank someone for something that they have done for you.

Whoever you are reading this, from wherever, celebrate being you and give thanks to the women in your life.

Write into March – writing prompts to start the month

Let’s kick March off with these writing prompts. Writing prompts are a great way to think about where you are and where you would like to go. Do you have a planner? Or do you perhaps set intentions for the month?

March intentions will put a spring into your writing. It’s considered the first month of Spring and a time for some fresh thinking. It’s a new season and a new start. We’ve just had a powerful full moon which is always a wonderful time to let go of things. Just in case you didn’t there is no time like the present to release what does not serve you.

Writing prompts to kickstart your March #1

  • One – read through the five points on the infographic
  • Two – reflect before you write
  • Three – create a one-two page planner or you can use this one
  • Four – take action, use this five-day planner to help you.
  • Five – write every day – even if it’s a bullet point
  • Six – reflect often
  • Seven – review the month and decide what next before you head into April

This month the theme is BEGINNINGS. That can be beginning again, it could be beginning something entirely new. Whatever it is, do or be it with an intention to find something that resonates with you. For me, my focus this month is beginning to focus on strengthening my body, albeit slowly.

March infographic

 

Writing prompts to start the month #2

  1. What does beginning mean to you?
  2. Choose four elements of your life and write about how you can put some fresh life into them
  3. Write a love letter to you, expressing how your new beginnings will bring you joy
  4. How can you pour love into your new beginnings?
  5. How can you nurture your new beginning?
  6. Write about your all the times you have started something and not completed it. What do you notice about the patterns?
  7. What does Spring mean to you?
  8. How can you love anything new that you start so that you complete it?
  9. What makes you feel excited about introducing something new?
  10. Why is making a fresh start important to you?
  11. If you could write a book, what stops you from starting and why?

How to make the most of your March writing prompts

  1. This is not a race against time, savour each question and take your time
  2. Get into the right writing space
  3. Write in a beautiful journal
  4. Pick the one that most resonates and write that first
  5. Allow whatever wants to be written come up
  6. Leave and reflect

That’s it, March is the month of new beginnings. Find something new to start that will fill your heart and soul. Write often, enjoy the month and remember to spoil you every day.

If you’d love more of this writing stuff, if you have things you want to get out of you, find your writers voice and maybe even write a book, connect with me or get on The Writing Zone waiting list. Once you enter the Writer’s Lounge your pen will never be the same again…

Journaling, meditation and pathways to generation issues

Recently while contemplating things that are going on in my life I have been watching various videos and reading some fairly technical books. The books have helped me to make intellectual sense of what is happening inside my body. The videos have set me thinking about other things.

Neither has given answers, to my why, but they have provided tools and insights which have set me on a course of looking deeper.

Lying here in the early hours the word trust came to me again. It’s a word that I was exploring in my journal before I closed my eyes and in fact, it’s a word that has been coming to me on a regular basis. I just haven’t been able to find my way to what it wants to say to me.

Yes, I have been journaling, but what has come up has been more fear-based thoughts around trusting my body to heal. I know it can, but my old friend fear taps me on the shoulder and says ‘are you sure?’’ Yes, I am, but something has still niggled me. Like it niggles me about trusting that I will find love again after the Dickie Quick episode.

This morning I sat with pen poised and was writing about something which I thought was unrelated to trust when I found myself on a journey. I wrote a few things down and then let myself slip into a meditative state. During this state, the word Grandad came to me. Allowing whatever else to arrive, I was witnessing his life where there was a considerable lack of trust. His mother by all accounts had been unfaithful, she had children by other men, left and I think at some point he’d been put in a children’s home.

Later when he married he carried this with him into his relationship, where he was soon to be disappointed when his wife gave all of their savings to her father. Again I believe he’d got himself into trouble financially and asked his daughter to bail him out. She did so without consultation; again I think not once but twice.

Imagine how this must have translated to his three daughters, one of which is my mum?

Mum married a man whom she thought was nothing like my Granddad. My dad was outgoing, handsome and a charmer. She fell deeply in love with him, little knowing that beneath his exterior was another damaged and fragmented soul. My dad and I say this with no malice was a gambler, smoker, drinker and womaniser… Although this didn’t become evident until later life, mum had married a man she could not trust.

When I was born I carried with me the resonance of all of these people and in the simplicity of journaling and meditating I have been made aware of something that has never crossed my mind before in search of why.

We often think we know why or how we arrived at the life and body that we now inhabit, but the truth is that unless we switch off the noise and explore, we can never trace the pathways to the root of something.

Journaling

Journaling by hand in a warm and safe environment where you can switch off and allow what needs to be said to come out is powerful. Find a space and time that suits you and just allow for a moment a word to come to you.

Set an intention that you want your journaling to explore the matter at hand. In my case, I wanted to explore the generational link to this word – trust.

Write five other words around it and then sit with it. One of these words will be the one that you will want to explore. Write and allow the words to come. It doesn’t matter how you start or what you write, trust that what needs to come out will.

Meditate

Once you have written and feel that there is nothing more to come, close your eyes and connect with some part of you. This might be your heart or your third eye. From out of nowhere a word, picture, a song will come to you. Just wait, do not try to force anything. Allow it to speak to you and just observe. In my example this morning it was Granddad and flashes of his life.

Journal again and explore

Once you come out of meditation, start your journaling again with the new information you have received. What happens is enlightening.

The generation link

For me, there was a definite generational link with trust. I wondered to what extent my cells have been damaged by this vibrational resonance. I say ‘damaged’ not in the context that I have been smacked around the head with a brick. More that I am curious about how these fragments from across generations could be so deeply embedded in my psyche. It’s curious isn’t?

We know from Masaru Emoto’s water experiments that water responds to various stimuli and can change shape when introduced to both beauty and horror. If water can be so affected by its environment and ‘conditioning’, it makes sense that we too can, given how much water we have in our bodies.

Water is in every cell. Every cell, therefore, must carry, I believe a generational resonance. If that is the case then exploring our issues through another lens could be helpful in understanding where we find ourselves today.

When you have some understanding of why, then you have an opportunity to change, just like Emoto did with the resonance in the water cells. You can do this with journaling, meditation, being in nature, speaking to yourself with kindness and love, listening to beautiful music, connecting with friends and a whole myriad of feel-good things.

How does this speak to you?

Does this resonate with you? Is there something that you have been trying to get to the root of that could be a lightly held vibration from across time in your cells?

Put pen to paper and explore. Drift into meditation and allow.

I use journaling to not only unlock hidden pathways to me but to help me make sense of all sorts of things. Currently, I am journaling about my osteoporosis journey as this is the subject of a book that I am writing. Journaling supports me by helping me to pull together ideas such as this so that I can encourage others to find their (in this case) potential cause for dis-ease or ways to support healing pathways.

If you have a book that you want to write, please get in touch. Your story can be something you have already lived or one you are living. Either way, you will be able to write it with new eyes and understanding. Let’s connect and explore.

Journaling and the PH balance of experiences

Journaling is a fantastic way to open yourself up to discovering what I call acid or alkalising experiences or the PH balance of experiences.

When studying nutrition one of the areas that we look at is how acid or alkaline our bodies are. The key is to keep your body as alkaline as possible, in other words, cut out acidic foods as these are not helpful to the body and help to create (along with many other things) dis-ease. There’s a great resource here that shows you the ph balance of many foods. (turn off your sound – there is a video playing at the bottom of the article and it’s a rather annoying tactic)

Instead of food consider instead your life and what is going on and what brought you to this point. How acidic or alkaline were those experiences?

One of the most important things for me is that when ‘something’ happens I consider where did this come from. When I was told hey you have osteoporosis and arthritis, apart from crying, I looked at not only my diet but my life for clues. Despite being trained in naturopathic nutrition, I asked another naturopath to look for clues for me. It made sense to do so. Even though I’d previously turned around an overactive thyroid through diet, this felt more important and called for a different set of conscious decisions.

Let’s explore the museum of our minds

Buried deep inside the museum of our mind, right down inside every cell, a set of old programs called unexpressed emotions. These darling little programs are a bit of a hindrance because they pop up and bite us on the bum when we least expect to be bitten.

Naturally, they are so well hidden that often we do not recognise or realise that they are operating. A little like a virus on a computer. But viruses cannot hide forever and that’s where journaling comes in.

Imagine losing these attachments, becoming aware of why you do what you do and creating new beautiful pathways that will serve you more effectively.

I wonder what unconscious resistance you have to let these go? How do these unexpressed emotions possibly define who you?

Journaling and the memory

The memory is quite a remarkable thing, which encodes, stores and enables retrieval of our experiences. You may well wonder where and how all of that stuff gets stored, why you can easily remember some things and not others. In simple terms information goes in, we encode it in such a way that makes sense to us, which is why no two people remember the same event in the same way. It also means that no two people with experience trauma the same way or react to it in the same way. Similar experiences do not mean similar programs. We have stuff in short term memory, the things we are currently actively thinking about and longer term, which is the stuff that is parked out of the way for now.

Your memory is a pattern of stored connections. When we want to retrieve a memory, we are taken along a series of pathways (neural pathways), a bit like following a series of directions to an address, where the experience is retrieved and brought into view. That’s the conscious view; the unconscious view is a labyrinth of things that have not been expressed but leaps out to bite us on our poor little bums when we least expect it.

If you are journaling then you can capture your experiences and this will help you to track the trails. Later when you reflect you will be able to make sense. We like to make sense of things, don’t we? And it will save your now very well bitten bottom.

Start to think of your mind as a museum, with lots of galleries, some of old masters, some highlighting different periods of time or themes, some more abstract and some just fragments of times long ago.

As we get older, we seem to forget more things, which is according to the scientists is all part of natural ageing. All the more reason to journal to get the grey matter moving, eat well, stay hydrated, be mindful, be balanced, live in harmony and living our lives on purpose, in love and light.

Coding our experiences and emotions

Stop for a moment and breathe in your environment. What do you notice?

Ferdy dog is making a funny I’m contented noise, tucked up in my bed and outside the birds are giving it what for. Apart from the slight hum of the computer, there is silence. It feels peaceful. I’m in bed and comfortable and this is one of my favourite places to write from in the early mornings. But I am mindful that I have to get up as my cleaner (essential for osteoporosis) is arriving in an hour and I need to get ready. As I write that I can feel the pressure rising, but only slightly.

In every moment we consume information through our environment. These are laid down in your mind map using your language and coding structure waiting to be fertilised, waiting to be joined by that one all-important connector, which creates the spark and drives it to the forefront of your mind. Your body is constantly working with these experiences and emotions. Some will have escaped while others lie trapped looking for an exit route. When there isn’t a way out toxins will accumulate.

So although I’m feeling a slight, mmm I’d better get up, drat, I want to stay here and cuddle the dog and write, I could have been wired in such a way that even this could send me off the PH balance of life scale (which we will come to).

How is the body destroyed?

Had I been feeling massively stressed about having to stop what I am enjoying to do something else then this could set one of my stress triggers off.

Stress = unexpressed emotions about experiences

I could tell you because I’ve worked hard on my soul that I know what my triggers are. The truth is I know some of it, but much of it will be still be repressed and stored in the program and every cell of me. What I do know is that some of it stems from my childhood and are mostly painful memories. Like you I have dealt with a lot, today I am in a more harmonious place, however, there some old chestnuts that come along to ‘get’ me when I am least expecting it.

It is like peeling an onion, sometimes a bloody big onion.

Along comes a trigger and wham! Our beautiful body doesn’t want these toxins so it tries to expel them and when it can’t it stores them as dis-ease. Dis-ease is not the same as a disease; it means a lack of comfort or a body out of balance.

Telling someone to feel the pain and get on with it is not the best way to go about healing. These feelings, when triggered, remind us that we are unloved, unsafe and unworthy. Ouch.

These emotions and physical pains are natural responses to life. Keeping them stuffed inside is not natural. When we feel unloved, unsafe and unworthy, it affects the way that we love and shine our light. Toxic emotions steal our light and love. Living in a body where all of this baggage has been kept under lock and key will stunt your growth and ability to live a full and rich life. It also affects the immune system.

Stop for a moment and start journaling, make a list of the things that might be triggering an unhealthy response in your life right now.

Stress and the immune system

Things like insomnia, headaches, migraines, gut problems, aching joints and feeling tired are all the result of unexpressed emotions which have festered. As time passes the immune system can grow weaker until all kinds of illnesses, issues, dis-eases, dis-orders present themselves. And then you will know about it.

Where do your stressful experiences come from

They call osteoporosis a silent and invisible dis-ease. I certainly didn’t know that it was sneaking up on me. I was so happy with focusing on my thyroid, it never entered my head.

Over the years I have been told that I have IBS, that my insomnia was because of the peri-menopause and then anxiety, that my aching joints were just age. When in an awful relationship, I went from being super fit to an old cronk, on Prozac and unable to function at my best. I had the emotions running a pattern from my past, a horrible man treating me with no respect, his mother who did not like me to look after.

Here’s another journaling opportunity. What about you, how is your lifestyle affecting your immune system?

Environment

Our external environment affects all of us. What goes on around us has far-reaching repercussions for what goes on inside. Each of our trillions of cells, like us are affected by the environment we create for them. Our environment controls us and the environment we create internally controls our cells, which control us. We hold a very powerful key to tapping into our inner wisdom and changing our environment so that we can get rid of toxins, heal and create a healing code that is unique to us.

Cells like us, read the environment, make an assessment and then behave according to what is required. Cells gather together in communities called tissues and organs, and these live harmoniously in these communities until their environment is damaged. Humans likewise create families and communities which contribute to a harmonious or otherwise environment.

How you choose to live, work and play and your values around your external environment will go a long way to giving you your life back. As will eating good nutritious food, drinking excellent water properly, taking exercise, being with people that support and love us and reducing stressful activities will go a long way to supporting a better life.

Acid and alkalising experiences

Your unexpressed emotions and experiences can be classified into acid or alkalizing. Consider that in science you have a PH scale. Now think of your PH scale as a personal harmony scale, with acid on one side and alkaline on the other.

Acid experiences are unpleasant, they burn and sting at one end and towards the middle of the scale are mildly irritating

Alkaline experiences are healthier and used to neutralise an acidic experience. If you go too far you could be overdosing on the feel good factor and not addressing the real issues.

What we want is to live and experience life from a balanced perspective.

Journaling and your PH Balance of experiences

Ph scale

  • Grab your journal and consider all (some) of the stressful experiences that you have had. What physical, mental or spiritual ‘issues’ arose? Were they acid or alkalising?
  • Draw up a balance sheet of great times and not so great time
  • On one side add your acid experiences and the other alkalising
  • Assign each experience a number from the PH scale
  • Which do you have more of?
  • Which experiences are linked and which have balanced each other out?
  • How can you create personal harmony and balance?
  • What actions will you take?

How do you know when you are stressed?

When you look at your balance sheet, were you surprised with what you found? Go back to your journal and using the colours from your PH scale mark up using coloured pens your acid experiences. Then link them together. What insights do you get?

Next, stop, breathe and take a look at yourself. Are you stressed? How do you know if you are or if you are not? Are there any recurring themes, stressors or acid experiences?

Sometimes we are ‘stressed out’ and not aware of our rising stress levels. Not all individuals respond to stressors in the same way. Your personality and past experience all dictate how you deal with things and your reactions. In other words, susceptibility to stress-related dis-ease varies among individuals. Some people are particularly vulnerable to stressful situations or events, while others may be highly productive under pressure (short term).

Take a few minutes to consider your answer to this question. Explore this question in your journal.

Now tell me what conscious decisions will you make to change this?

Journaling at the start of a life’s adventure is incredibly enlightening and will help you to find clarity and peace. It also has the added benefit that you have a rich store of words with which to write a book. Head over to the contact me page and let’s chat about your next book project.

Nine powerful reasons to write a book when you are disillusioned about life

Why should anyone write a book? Why would anyone want to write a book? Especially if they are disillusioned about life?

Life sometimes doesn’t deal you with the hand you expect. Often you start on one pathway and end up on another seemingly unrelated one. The truth is, at least this is what I believe is that the path you are on is always the right path. It may feel like crap; you may be unwell, unhappy, trapped and in a place that you would rather not be.

Breathe.

Over the last weeks dealing with pain and discovery of things I’d rather not deal with puts me in a place of discomfort. A place where I have to call on every fibre of my being to keep me going. What I observe about myself is that generally, I am the epitome of positivity. Right now I’m positive and I am focused on my health, doing lots of good things, but I feel rubbish, mentally, physically and spiritually. What I know is that because of the kind of person I am that I can find something good to come from it.

This is where writing comes in. Writing is healing, not only for you but for your reader. The world needs your story. Stories are the backbone of humanity. It’s where and how we connect.

When I connect with others in the osteoporosis forums, I am astounded by the stories. My heart is touched by what people endure with what is called a silent dis-ease. That is it sneaks up on you because no one told you that you had to look after your bones. Just like no one told you that periods would hurt or menopause would almost drive you insane.

These brave people (men and women) have stories that could help another person to know that there is hope.

Ok, not all of them will want to write, not all of them will feel like they want to inspire anyone as they battle with pain, confusion and overwhelm. But there will be some who will want to share their stories, knowledge and wisdom so that those receiving diagnoses have a source of wisdom and a reference point.

The case for writing books will never end. As humans, we make meaning from words. We connect emotionally with stories.

You never know where your book will end up and whose heart it will touch.

I decided to write a book about my journey, I just woke one morning and decided that I must share what I learn and how I learn to look after my heart, body and soul in a new way. As I start to plan it out, what is interesting is that I do not know what the ending will be and that doesn’t matter. What matters is how I deal with things so that others can be inspired by that and can consider what their strategy might be.

Write a book and trust that the right people will read your words.

Yeah ok, it takes a lot of work and to write the right book. That’s because it is such a valuable asset. Not just for you, but for the galactic library that we are creating.

Humanity needs words. We need help to find meaning.

When I work with my clients, I often hear ‘wow, this book is not how I imagined writing a book would be. It has gone deeper than I could have ever imagined.’

That’s because writing reaches into the depths of your soul. So just think what will happen when you write your story from a sacred place of divine wisdom. The wisdom you have because of your life’s journey and work.

Why ‘should’ you write a book when you are disillusioned about life?

You have experiences that need to be shared. The wisdom that could help someone else’s life and sanity.

It seems to me that no matter who we are we have many of life’s riches to share. When life touches us in places we didn’t expect we wake to who we are. When I meet and work with women like me, I am often deeply moved by what they have lived through and how they have come to be. Their stories are magical. They are about expansion and transformation. And as their stories touch another, we each change and we become a part of a global transformation.

As we become whole, we can support others to discover their path to wholeness.

Why now?

We are standing on the edge of an Earth that is crumbling beneath us. A planet that does not wants us – our Mother is fed up with us. We, the human race, the alleged intelligent ones are destroying what was lovingly provided for us.

But…

We are waking up. Taking ownership of our minds, bodies and soul. Eating better food and finding ways to create a healthy body, mind and soul so that they have the essential nutrients to undertake their life’s work. They are treating themselves, the planet and other sentient beings with respect.

There is a lot to learn from people who have been through some not so pleasant experiences

What are the nine powerful reasons you ‘should’ write a book?

#1 – Writing a book will change you

Are you prepared for the change that writing a book will bring you? You may think that you will be writing out your experiences and offering advice and observations. I’d ask you to think again.

Nothing can prepare you for the profound shift you will go through, so pull up your big girl pants and get ready for the ride. You may think you know your story and the wisdom you have come to share. However, planning and then putting pen to paper will change you as you allow all of you to rise.

You won’t be living in the past and going back to your dark place and reliving it. You will be writing from the inside out, but from another perspective. You will be in it yet not in it. As you do the inside work, you can then stand on the outside and see yourself with more clarity and a better perspective.

I warn you writing a book is going to test you in ways you will have never considered. Just when you thought it was time to slow down, more opportunities for personal growth appear.#1 - Writing a book will change you

Never doubt that you are good enough to write a book or think that no one wants to hear your story. Have faith and trust. They will.

#2 – Others see you differently

We can never truly know what goes on in another’s life. We read comments in Facebook groups and shares on personal pages, but nothing will prepare others for the story you share. These daily snippets do not tell the whole story – they are moments in time. Others cannot be in your body to know what life is like for you when you are in the midst of your worst times.

When you bare your heart and soul, you will feel vulnerable. This is exposing to others the bones of who you are. They will love it, and if they don’t, then they are not your people.

When my life changed again just a short while ago, I was angry, not raging, more of a fed up angry. I stared at the sky and asked why? And then I could see that no matter what my outcome is, others would want to see what is possible for them. From experience, I know that when stories are shared that others will see you in a new light. The light of understanding.

#2 - Others see you differently

This is a perfect time to dare to be, to heal, be vulnerable, dig out your courage and dare to inspire.

#3 – When you write a book, you learn new skills

Let’s turn this around. When you read a book, you learn lots of things to support the knowledge that you seek. For example, I am currently knee deep in books about osteoporosis and nutrition. I am learning new things every day and gaining new perspectives on myself. Some of these books are highly technical with lots of biological terms which don’t make them so easy to whizz through, but I figure that as there isn’t a test at the end who cares?

As I learn all of this new stuff and it becomes a part of my bank of wisdom, I am able to integrate this learning into my being. The same applies when you write a book.

As I live my life, read books, write and accumulate knowledge, I learn something new about me.

The same thing happens when you embark on your journey to writing a book:-

  • Researcher
  • Writer
  • Storyteller
  • Planner / Project Manager
  • Editor
  • Proofreader – although you must always outsource this
  • Psychologist
  • Marketer
  • Strategist
  • Techie

Some of these tasks you can and must outsource. Undertake a skills and knowledge audit and see what you can innately do, what you can do with support and what has to be delegated.

#3 - When you write a book, you learn new skills

You may be surprised at what transferable skills you have.

#4 – Writing creates a connection between the dots of values, vision and core message

Do you have a core message? Do you live your life by your values? What is your vision?

Before embarking on writing a book, you need to know what your values, passion, purpose, vision and the core message for your book are. Sometimes we lose sight of these or become disconnected from them. When you start to consider what you would want to write a book, become reacquainted with them and join the dots. You will write a better book.

When you are writing, actually putting pen to paper or fingers to the keyboard you will need to know what the core message of your book is. You do this at the planning stage and so when you write each chapter can tap into that. Then when you are ready to market your book, you can build your marketing messages from these words and concepts.

#4 - Writing creates a connection between the dots of values, vision and core message

You will do this based on your values and this will make that vital connection to the heartbeat of another.

#5 – Writing a book reconnects you to your humanity

Stories move me. Your story will move others. By sharing your stories and wise words which have been life-changing, others will feel humbled, I know I do. We are not alone.  People the world over have been through so much, you wonder how they can bare it. We do, we are strong (you are) and we grow, and we know that we are not alone. We stand united in the power of what it means to be human.

I know what it means to experience a life which hasn’t been easy, life can be a tough journey. When I look at my experiences, they pale into mists compared to the horror of what some endure. I am filled with pride for my sisters and brothers. Every story fills a gap in someone’s life.

#5 - Writing a book reconnects you to your humanity

When you write yours and see the words on the page and consider what it has meant to you to go through your life you will, I believe, feel a deeper connection to your humanity.

Hidden Content

#6 – It’s no longer about just about knowledge and skills it’s about knowing, wisdom and shared experiences

Data is good. Information is incredible. Knowledge is powerful. Wisdom is a force you cannot reckon with.

Experiences carry a stronger vibration, than just facts. When you share your experiences, others connect emotionally and make meaning. You are now a person of influence, which brings great responsibility, who can create a lasting impact on others lives and the conscious choices they make.

#6 - It's no longer about just about knowledge

As you write, you develop a more profound sense of knowing and a depth of wisdom about who you are, your identity and your place in the history of the planet waking up.

#7 – Writing a book will enable you to understand and examine who you are

We talked about values, now ask what do you stand for? Are you a champion or a leader for something? Do you want to change the world or at least some part of it? Do you want to empower others? What?

You do not have to paint your face, make up a placard and march for your rights, but you might want to. I have, I used to march against animal cruelty. Writing your book will awaken a calling. When I work with my clients, I am often amazed at what else comes out of the book planning and writing process. These people are incredible humans who will make a difference.

This process wakes them up to what is possible for them to create.

The process may tear you apart (not in a horrible way) and ask you to examine who you are.

What I do is create a space for you through writing to be heard. Really listened to. Listening to your heart and soul and letting you know that I hear you.

I hear you, and my desire is that the other ears that are meant to hear your inspirational message hear you. Just imagine if someone reading your book gets as much out of it as you do writing it.

When you share your story, you will connect emotionally and spiritually with your readers in a way that goes beyond traditional marketing.

#7 - Writing a book will enable you to understand and examine who you are

When you pour the undiluted beauty of you into a book, you will examine what you stand for and you will do something to inspire others.

#8 – When you write a book you give birth to new ideas

So you think you know what you will be writing about, do you? What I love about this process is that when people write, they make new connections. That might be connections within the text, but it may also be other ways to share their core message.

When I experience, hear, see or read things, my mind goes ping, ping, ping and I see many opportunities and start connecting so many dots. It is exciting.

The same will happen to you as you plan and write your book. These might be a conference, an online course, a cause, a coaching program, a retreat or another book. Who knows?

#8 - When you write a book you give birth to new ideas

Leave the portals of your mind wide open and allow the opportunities to gather in the spaces.

#9 – You empower other people to know what is possible for them

This is my favourite. Sisters and brothers supporting each other on this journey called life. Humans allowing, acknowledging and embracing other humans. Stories, your powerful, practical, personal words can transform lives. At a time when the world seems fragmented, we need hope. We need authentic connections. Stories help to create community and words create meaning. When we have connection, community and a common purpose we can create lasting change.

#9 - You empower other people to know what is possible for them

As writers, we can create space for others to recharge their power pack and giving them tools and space to know what is possible for them.

Despite all of your ideal reader planning, you can never know whose hands your book will land in, Nor can you know how it will change their thinking and reason to be. Just know that it will.

My dream is that you will write a book and share your story

It is quite a big step, this writing about yourself malarky which you may not find easy. You will be baring your soul and may be opening yourself up to judgement. Well, I say sod what others think of you. What they think is none of your business, your job is to stand tall and tell your truth. And there is a way to tell your truth that keeps you inside the law, so don’t worry about that.

Please take your life’s experiences, your story, divine inner wisdom, knowledge and skills which have supported your life changes and use them to inspire others. All stories have their place.

Don’t waste your life lessons. Don’t hide behind your disillusionment. We came to Earth to learn and to use those lessons to be a change in the world. If this means that you feel vulnerable so be it – you have a valuable and inspirational message to share.

We are here to live, laugh and love, to be love and to do that we need the courage and confidence to stand up loud and proud of who we are. I have your back, so does the Universe and your God.

Your mission…

Is to write a book, are you up for it?

If writing a book is on your mind, call me for an informal chat, let’s see how we can bring your ideas and wisdom to life.

How to write a book, one chunk at a time

When you think about how to write a book, what comes to mind? A huge insurmountable project? Something that is achievable, if only you knew how? Yeah, it’s easy to write a book? What?

Just take a few moments to think about what it means to you to write a book and how you feel about that question.

If you have been reading my recent blog articles, you’ll know that I recently received a bit of a shock when I was told that I had osteoporosis and a couple of compression fractures. After spending 16 days in bed, with 11 of them without my precious doggies, I started to think about how could I help other people who learn about this to understand how it is manifested and how to sort through the mass of information to make some informed conscious choices.

My core mission is inspiring people to find themselves and have the courage to write a book so that they can encourage others to know what is possible for them. Was the Universe having a laugh with me I wondered? I certainly found a different way to end the book that I am currently editing – Rude Awakenings. It was supposed to have a happy ending… Although I have changed the ending, I do see it as a new beginning, albeit painful right now.

The dietary changes are playing havoc with my system, but hey whats not to love about detoxing and rebalancing your body? Like the book, I’m dealing with my health, one chunk at a time.

As I was journaling it became so apparent to me that I had to write a book. I have a working title which is Osteoporosis and Me. I’ve already fleshed out a few chapters and actually quite excited.

So what about you and the book you want to write?

Writing a book may seem a purely creative endeavour, however, to get to the writing bit you have to plan it and to get to the publishing bit you have to edit and do lots of other stuff like book covers and marketing. All of these aspects of getting your book published require that you use your brain in entirely different ways.

The first thing to consider is how to make any ‘task’ easier.

Write a book by chunking it

I’m a project person, so I break all of my big projects down into mini projects with milestones. As I get a part done, I can congratulate myself, and I can take myself off to do something else to take me away from the project. This means for me that when I come back, it feels fresh new and exciting.

We naturally chunk information up, down or laterally so that we can make sense of it. Some of us by the nature of how we like to learn, need to have a big picture before tackling the detail, while others hate the big picture and want lots of detail.

This also applies to your ideal reader. When your reader is searching for meaning in your words, they will chunk up, chunk down and chunk laterally.

  • Chunked up – where it becomes more vague and big picture.
  • Chunked down – where it becomes more specific and detailed.
  • Chunk laterally – move across to find other examples (metaphor, analogy).

By chunking up, you can distract the conscious mind and speak directly to the unconscious mind. Your unconscious mind has all of the answers just waiting to be unlocked. If your book is designed to get your reader thinking and to reflect this is a good technique to employ.

Back to you and how to write a book in chunks

The chunks of a book are:-

  • Planning
  • Writing
  • Editing to the final manuscript – before you send it off to your proofreader

The planning chunk

Here you are looking at creating a detailed outline. An outline by its very nature is a long list of stuff that makes up your book, broken into smaller pieces, with milestones which makes it easier for you to write around them.

Book planner

The writing chunk

Using a chapter framework means that each chapter is subdivided into sections, which guess what makes it easier to write. You will write your first, draft usually in chapter chunks and then leave it before you start on your edit in earnest. Here’s a video here where I talk about one part of that process.

The editing chunk

In this chunk, we also create an editing plan which gives us smaller tasks to do. Also in the editing phase as mentioned above, you are looking at how you can chunk your writing (up, down and across) so that you can connect to your reader’s learning style.

Some final thoughts

  • The truth is it is always easier to look at how you like to work and use your preferences to ensure that you tackle this project in a way that will work for you.
  • If you are struggling, make it easy on yourself and do things in chunks.
  • Make sure you have a plan.
  • Set time aside and take action.
  • Find yourself a buddy or a book coach.

Let me leave you with this if you have tried chunking and it is still not producing the right book, or you find yourself procrastinating, check first if this is the right book. If it is, then, consider what else is getting in the way? If it is not the right book, go back to the planning stage and consider what your core message is and who you want to read it and why? There are more questions and if you want to explore, connect with me and let’s chat.

The power of journaling and having a chocolate orange day

A few mornings ago I missed my journaling. I’d woken in the small hours in pain and thought instead that I would get some water, a cup of white tea and read.

After wrapping my back with castor oil and clambering back into bed, it did cross my mind to write, but the desire to read was greater, and so I succumbed. What would I write anyway? I hate this f***ing pain. It’s not that I felt angry, wearier, I wanted some time away from my thoughts, I wanted to be wrapped in the arms of peace. Soon I was asleep.

After a healthy breakfast and checking my diary, I knew I had time to be with myself and create the space I needed for my first client of the day.

Once I’d spoken with my client, I had a cuppa and a small piece of raw chocolate Srummy Yummy.

To my knowledge most people love chocolate. What’s not to love? My favourite is not Terry’s Chocolate Orange, although I understand why they are so popular and have scoffed a few in my time… Before I moved to the healthy side.

You will have noticed that at Christmas the makers of Chocolate Orange market the product heavily. It is a time when sharing a slice of your life and special moments with your loved ones are on your mind. A time when you might want to indulge in something naughty (chocolate naughty…).

Between Christmas and New Year is when most people decide to change their lives. Spring is another time I think that we do something similar. Today is the start of Chinese New Year and the year of the Earth Dog. I wonder if this is a time when people also set intentions and declutter their lives?

What are your intentions for the coming month or year?

And even like me when you are not feeling quite so chipper. Some of those decisions include leaving a partner or job, maybe doing something outrageous and possibly following long-held dreams.

Take a moment now and consider what are those dreams?

When life is feeling a bit challenging, I think that this is when journaling is immensely helpful. As is taking time out to reflect. I call these chocolate orange days. Days when nourishing your soul becomes your priority. And here is why.

Chocolate in this context is raw chocolate, not the sickly mass produced stuff that is offered up as chocolate. Made from the cacao bean, it is really a nut and as the name implies, is chocolate in its most natural form. Raw chocolate is loaded nutrients just what you need when you are not feeling yourself.

For a chocolate orange day, you need delicious, nutritious food. Which might include raw chocolate and why wouldn’t it? It is a great food to nibble as research shows that chocolate boosts serotonin and gives us that feel good factor.

Orange is a colour that makes me feel good. I love orange; it fills me with warmth, energy, happiness, creativity and communication. Just what you need for a day of journaling and reflection. Orange is also the colour of the sacral chakra and is an important emotional centre. When you think of orange and the sacral, consider how you can open yourself up to nurturing and start to use this intuitive connection with your soul.

Orange also reminds me of autumn and the trees awash with colour just before they let them go. In this sense, you will also be letting things go ready for new growth.

What is a chocolate orange day?

It is a day of reflection, a ‘you’ day and an opportunity to nourish yourself between the pages of your journal and reflect. It is a day to get rid of your rubbish, declutter your life, re-evaluate your strengths and weakness, change your mindset, set a vision and think about how you can walk towards it.

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A chocolate orange day describes a day when…

  • You have a realisation (aha) that something has to change.
  • You have a reaction in a way that you didn’t expect that sends thoughts washing around your brain. Simply notice, what you notice
  • You take some reflection (breathe…) time to work things out. A day for letting things sink in and starting to consider the meaning of recent events and contemplating why, what, how and what if. Then finding creative answers to your questions through journaling.
  • You take relevant action and say yes to changing something. Making good conscious decisions.

The power of journaling

Do you journal? If you do, taking time to read through your journal entries and seeing if you can make sense of the events that have led you to this day is always powerful.

You will, I am sure, notice some patterns.

  • What patterns of discontent can you see? What is this saying to you? Take the dis of and look at what would make you content.
  • Does your journal show you what you do day to day as inspiring and motivational? Do you feel passionate about what you are doing? What has to happen to get you to a place of peace with who you are?
  • What about the toxic people and relationships that show up and make you so unhappy? What has to happen to move them out of your circle of bright stars?
  • Notice your writing, does it show up as fed up, stressed, angry, sad, happy, peaceful, calm or any number of emotions? What does that say to you?
  • How about the feelings you get after you’ve eaten something? Is it time to change your diet? Not start dieting, but eating in a way that serves your temple. Take menopause (if you are a woman); this is a perfect time to re-assess what you eat so that you don’t get hot flushes and sweats at night. For me, with this recent osteoporosis diagnosis, it is about finding about how my body works and what bits are now out of balance. Then noticing what happens when I add certain supplements or eat in a certain way. Or what in life is eating you?
  • What does your writing look like? Handwriting changes to reflect a mood, what does this tell you?

Right now do a body scan. Look at your environment both internal and external. Do you need a chocolate orange day?

Take time out. Listen to the whispering of your soul.

Take time out for your chocolate orange day enjoy reflecting, delving into memories, embracing your discoveries, and creating the start of your ‘me’ action plan.

How to spot a chocolate orange day is coming

If you are standing on a railway track, how do you know that the train is coming? You might feel a vibration, a certain energy and hear a rumbling noise. How long you stand there and wait is your choice. Will you jump off the track in time and avoid being squashed? Or do you wait until the last minute and get away with your life by the skin of your teeth. Or worst of all do you stand and let the train kill you?

The truth is you have probably known for a while and not listened to your soul. Don’t let it be too late for you.

Right now I’m nowhere near the track. I’m listening, and I’m taking the time out. I’m journaling, reflecting and I know it is the right thing to do. I’m journaling so that I can write a book about my osteoporosis journey, or how I intend it to turn out. Which is the reversal and back to full health.

How can you make a chocolate orange day work for you?

Firstly do not eat a chocolate orange, unless you make it yourself. Or perhaps some delicious gluten-free cake?

Put aside a day where you can nourish your mind, body, soul and spirit without interruption. This means being kind to yourself and doing what feels right. Prepare yourself, find some quiet space, meditate, take a bath or go for a walk. Have a nutritious breakfast and make sure your day’s food is pre-prepared unless preparation is part of what makes you feel good. Have lots of water handy and head off to a beautiful space. The environment in which you reflect will have a significant impact on your ability to connect with your soul.

The journaling and reflection cycle

  • Grab a pen and paper. Writing always helps me to reflect. If you have your journal handy, read through it making notes as thoughts, ideas and realisations come up. Explore these through further writing
  • If you want to start from a blank page, write, doodle or scribble what comes up as the thing or things you want to focus on for this day
  • Look at the sky, daydream, meditate or walk in between your writing sessions. I walk my dogs. Notice what comes up for you. You will get many aha’s, reactions and ideas about what to do. Let these flow to you and make no judgement
  • After each writing and reflection period, make a list of what comes up and ask yourself which is the priority. Reflect on what that priority means to you
  • The number of times you read, write and reflect is up to you. When you are done read through your musings and get a sense of how you feel
  • When you have finished, look at your actions, decide which one you want to work on first. A mind map is a great way to find connections. Take a word that describes your thinking point and then add five more words that connect to that word. Once you have those words create an action point
  • When you have your action points, write down your first thoughts about the things that need to change. Reaction moments are when you get your first hit of understanding, and you are tossing your realisation around in your head. You might cry, shout, laugh or bang your head against the wall. You are in-between aha moments and mmm?! moments, and you are now rolling them back and forth between your conscious and non-conscious brain. The thoughts that come to you in these moments are not always the answer to your question; they are a starting point.
  • After a walk or similar, it’s time for thinking. By giving your unconscious mind an opportunity to do its thing, real answers will be ready to come. Sometimes you will think that they are the answer and get very excited to rush off to implement your brainwaves, but hold your horses and let them brew. Better ideas are yet to come.

Sleep on your day

Once you have rested and given yourself more time to reflect on your writing and reflection cycle take some time out again and then come back to ‘think’ about the relevant action. You have been through realisation, reaction and reflection, and now you are in a position to take appropriate focused action. Strategies can now be formed. You decide how this gets you one step closer towards your vision and you put it into an action plan.

  • Write down what actions you will take, by when, what help and resources you need and what the steps are.
  • What came out of your chocolate orange day?
  • What has to change?

Days like this often help us to understand where our mission in life lies. It’s a time to reflect on that book you have been yearning to write. Books are a fantastic way to reach another and inspire them to become an inspiration to another.

Connect with me if writing a book about your personal story and inspiration is something you want to bring into the world.

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