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It’s Never Too Late To Manifest Your Hearts Desires

Lockdown and what has come to pass has changed me – has it changed you? It has made me reflect me and do a massive declutter. But most importantly it got me thinking about a life of purpose and meaning and I started to think of my dreams and hearts desires.

Did you know that I want to write a novel? Maybe or maybe not. When I was in my last relationship everything felt that it was being destroyed. But the dream never left me.

When I started to design Journey Of The Heart I went back to basics. I travelled through my energy centres (chakras) and worked with them to get to the heart of what I wanted. This is why I called it Journey Of The Heart.

I deeply connected with this desire to write fiction and I used my own process to work through my blocks (what more blocks…) and beliefs and there is now a book cover mockup proudly sitting on my vision board.

What I have noticed is that so many people still dream of creating a life of purpose and meaning, where they listen to their hearts and manifest magic but think they can’t for some reason. I get it…

It’s like they are frozen at the crossroads of their life wondering how to jump out of their comfort zone and into the field of possibilities.

They believe it’s too late, that they are too old for that specific dream or they don’t have the skills to reach for what they want.

But the truth is it’s never too late to follow your dreams and claim your hearts desires.

My mum is an amazing example of someone who thought she couldn’t write and who has now written 7 books. She amazes me.

Want to manifest your heart’s desire?

Here are 7 points for you to mull over – let me know what resonates. Grab your journal and explore…

  • Your identity is not set in stone. Many of the things you believe about who you are and want to become have quite possibly come from others’ opinions that have been projected onto you. Is it time to stop living the life that other people think is right for you? What if you decided to stand in your power and speak your truth?
  • Some dreams and hearts desires simply seem too big to achieve. If that is the reason you think it’s too late, try breaking the dream down into small steps or stages. I’m laughing at myself on this one. Who me, write a novel…? List the steps and keep it simple.

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you’ve imagined.

Henry David Thoreau
  • There are many people of all ages going after their hearts desires. Many have faced decades of disappointment and unfulfilled lives. They discovered later in life that they have the resilience, experience, and self-knowledge to pursue their purpose. Think Louise Hay or JK Rowling… Age is not a barrier. Start today and go after what you want.
  • Let go of regrets. As you get older, you don’t want to be filled with regret because you didn’t try to do the things you loved or attempt to obtain what you longed to do in life. Remember Bronnie Ware and the regrets of the dying? It’s powerful stuff. I for one don’t want to leave without a) writing that first novel and b) inspiring you to find purpose and meaning in your life. Look at your book of regrets and pick one thing that you want to let go of. Then start your next adventure today.
  • Being remembered well. Following your dreams and hearts desires influence the mark you leave on the world and how you will be remembered. We cannot force legacy on others, but how we live our lives will shape how we are remembered. How do you want to be remembered?
  • Just take one step. Any aligned step you take towards your dream and heart’s desire gets you closer to success. Many believe it’s too late to follow their dreams because they would be taking a step backwards. In reality, the past is a place of reference and right now is the best time to become and be. What is your next aligned step to being able to manifest your heart’s desire?
  • Ask for support. Other people will help and encourage you on your journey if you let them know that this is your way forward. Look out for those people who will support you as you become the best version of yourself. And I am sure you will make new friends along the way. I’ve just met an amazing new friend called Lisa and I feel so blessed. Who is on your A-team?

All you need to remember is that you are never too old to go towards your hearts desires and to manifest the magic you deserve and desire. All you have to do is decide what you want and take action to go after it.

It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.

Henry David Thoreau

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Meeting Yourself Where You Are

It’s Sunday afternoon as I sit to write this. So far today I have walked my dogs three times. I confess to not wanting to go out so often sometimes, but I am always grateful for the air and time to think. Also, today I have been making workbooks for an up and coming program. Creation and being creative is something I adore. Going for the walks lets the processes fall into place. It’s all quite magical.

There’s a cake that wants to be made. A chocolate cake – but I am lacking the requisite enthusiasm. In fact, my enthusiasm has deserted me these last few days, and I have found that I have had to push myself to get things done.

Take yesterday, I was due to renew my online art class, and I kept thinking I can’t be bothered and what’s the point and even worse I should be cleaning up. With just an hour to go, I told myself to get over me, pay and go. But I wailed to no one, in particular, what shall I paint?

Just days before I was looking at a friends art and one picture came to mind in this moment. I went in search of a picture of a fertility goddess and was pleased to find a statue to use. My inspiration returned.

A few hours later it was half done and I was pleased that I’d made the effort.

It’s easy to give up isn’t? Especially right now when we no longer have the external freedoms that we once did. I’m certainly missing my girly lunches at the coast. Though I confess a friend did make me lunch last week, and we sat looking out onto the most spectacular mountains.

All of this made me think of how can we find a space for inner peace and meet yourself where you are?

Awareness

Awareness gives you choices and understanding. When I bring attention to my body, I can hear her speaking to me, and it gives me clues about what to do next.

I use a model called the heart connection model, it started off as something I had printed off and would use either with a pendulum or use my intuition to know where to go. Now I ‘see’ the model inside of me. Each day I ask what do I need to know and I am guided to a colour and energy centre (chakra).

This super awareness of what my heart wants to tell me gives me clues about what I need to know, and I can ponder on how the messages can support me through the day. I find keywords come to me, and I turn these into questions and affirmations.

This means that every day I can let my intuition guide my awareness and push or pull me in the direction I need to go.

While I ponder I also let me awareness drift to my breathing. That’s a sure sign of what is going on.

To do: Stop what you are doing and simply notice your breath. What do you learn from this observation? And when you notice your breath and take it around your body – what else do you learn?

Where am I?

This is about taking a 360 degree view of my life via a set of life areas.

  • Health and wellbeing 
  • Learning 
  • Financial 
  • Heart and spirit 
  • Experiences 
  • Mental/emotional 
  • Love/Partner 
  • Family 
  • Friends 
  • Mission/Vision 

Within these I have a set of questions and I use a wheel of fortune – similar to a wheel of life – but called fortune as I like the idea that we are in control of our fortune/fate.

To do: This is one for your journal. Put a stake in the ground and look around. This may seem very simple, but it is, in fact, very powerful and may bring up all kinds of feelings. You must look around you and take it all in. Use the life areas to guide you. Acknowledge that this is where you find yourself. Describe where you find yourself. Consider how this feels. What do you see and what do you know about this place? 

What do I want to create?

I ask this of everyone I work with. What do you want to create could be here and now – the short term. Or sometime in the future – a timeframe that you want to choose. Some people think that this could be their legacy and it could, but in reality, your legacy is what other people value about what you leave behind, not what you think they will get.

Asking this question starts the envisioning process. It’s about what you think is possible without the confines of your I can’t language. Creation gives us the big picture and then you can come back to where you are and have an idea of what your next aligned step is.

To do: Ask what do I want to create? Put pen to paper, start with the mundane and allow the magic to flow.

How do you feel?

Meeting yourself where you are is connecting to your emotions and feelings in this moment. Do you feel angry, helpless, trapped or joyful, or light and with a sense of inner peace? I know that the people I am talking to swing between the good and the not so good almost within the same minute.

I think it’s important to sit with your feelings and notice (become aware) of what they are saying to you and why?

When you look at yourself without judgement and merely observe it is incredibly powerful. This is not the time to fix you, it’s the time to notice.

Fixing, slaying or healing can come later. I, of course, prefer to heal, rather than take a hammer to them and fix them up against the good feelings wall and declare triumphantly ha got you!

To do: Stop for a moment and write in your journal the emotion you feel and what you observe about it.

Tap into joyful moments

Even in my darkest moments, something happens to make me laugh. It’s usually one of the dogs. Perhaps I’ll be chewing my food and not paying attention and Angel decides that mmm she’d like some of that and since I wasn’t paying attention it might as well be hers. I laugh, every time she does something because she is sweet, funny and loving. Then there are the farts (usually Marley) when you are meditating – yes I do laugh.

To do: Remember to laugh at the small things. Let moments of joy seep in.

Be patient

Oh this one has caught me so many times. I find myself wanting the yuk to be over with NOW. What I have learned is things always get better and to be kind to myself. Journaling, eating cake (not all of it) and walking with the dogs always lift my mood.

I remind myself that Rome wasn’t built in a day. And that all I have to do is one thing that moves me in the direction that I want to go in. When I look back in my journal, I can see just how far I have come and that’s reason to celebrate – isn’t it.

Let go of what doesn’t serve you. What might seem important right now, often doesn’t the following day.

To do: Write in your journal and then occasionally take time to reflect. Remember to celebrate how much you have grown. Also give yourself permission to focus on what’s important.

Start where you are. Utilise what you have. Express what you need. Take one tiny step.

Start where you are. Utilise what you have. Express what you need. Take one tiny step.

Value and values

Remember your value and values. What do you value and why? Where did your ideas around value come from? Value this moment and what it teaches you about you.

What are your values? How do you know that they are? Who taught them to you? Do you own them and live by them?

Value yourself and live by your values, these two things will help you to navigate life.

Journey Of The Heart is about creating a life that you love. Could this be the start you need to make?

World Suicide Prevention Day 2020 – My Story

I was asked by a friend if, for World Suicide Prevention Day, I would share some of my story of not wanting to be here and in particular, about the night I searched for how to kill yourself.

That night I did that search ‘how to kill yourself.’

In doing so, I read many harrowing things and eventually as the sun rose decided that I would find another way to live my best life.

This is just a small part of it. My prayer is that you watch this and decide to stay – there is always a better life waiting. It may take time and effort. I am living proof that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

What follows is the transcript

– Hi, I’m Dale, and I’m so glad that you found this video and this blog.

Now, I know that you’ve been searching for ways to kill yourself and I want to tell you that I found myself in this position.

A few years ago, I was in a pretty horrible relationship. We’d come on holiday to the house that I’m now living in, this was a home that I’d purchased, and I remember that I just felt that I couldn’t take any more, this situation was just, it was horrendous. And I truly did not want to be alive for a moment longer.

And I sat out there (pointing to my lounge) while the husband that I had and his mother with dementia slept in this room (my office used to be a bedroom).

It was winter, it was freezing cold, the log burner had gone out, I covered myself with a throw, I brought my computer into the lounge, and I sat, I sat for hours looking for ways to kill myself because I didn’t want to be alive.

The hours seemed to just drift by, I first came out with this real sense of just absolute desperation that I didn’t want to, just how I could get rid of myself in this instant? What was the quickest way?

The house is in a remote place, I’d no way of going to get anything to take, I didn’t have any rope, I genuinely couldn’t think how I was going to do it.

I searched and searched and searched, but I read a lot of quite harrowing stuff. And in the early hours of the morning, as the light was coming up, I just went back to bed. And I’m really glad that I didn’t.

So although I was in this horrible relationship, I’m glad that I didn’t do what I had planned to do that night. My head was just in the most awful place.

Now, that’s not the first time that I’d felt that I wanted to not be on the planet. The very first time was I was a really young girl. I’d been abused at 10 by the babysitter, I’d been groomed as a teenager.

The thing that tipped me over the edge was I had very, very long, bright, bright red hair. I was never allowed to do anything to my hair because it was my crowning glory, and a friend offered to trim it. I wanted my hair trimmed and what she did instead was, I couldn’t see her, there was no mirror, she cut everything off, all, my hair was much longer than this, she cut the whole lot off, and I just ended up with this thing on my head.

Well, I stuck my head, what was left, into a bobble hat and I went home. And it felt like the most, just I did not want to be, it was awful, it was like all of that stuff about having no worth and nobody loving me and all sorts.

So there was a lot of stuff going on, so I decided, when no one was looking, that I went and got, I laugh at it now because, I mean, it’s just like completely ridiculous, I went and got a load of paracetamol, made a cup of tea, made a bacon sandwich covered in red sauce.

I can see myself sat on my bedroom floor, necking these paracetamol, getting the tea down and then, aw, the taste, eating a piece of this bacon sandwich. And there wasn’t very many paracetamol in the container, certainly not enough to kill myself, but I felt pretty ill the following day.

So that’s two times. And there have been other times that I felt pretty low, during the period that I was with the husband that I talked about, I took Prozac twice, so I always had an exit strategy. I remember someone saying to me, “You know if you had a cough or a cold, “or a, I don’t know, a something, “you’d go to the doctor “and you would maybe take pills, “or if it was something to do with your digestion, “you would change your diet, “so why not just do something temporary?”

So I went to the doctor twice, and once they’d heard all my different stories, they agreed that I could take these drugs for a short period of time, so I did that.

Now, what changed was something that happened with the husband that I talked about, and I left, and I made myself a new life. And I literally just got up one day, and I drove to another country with my dogs, and I literally fell apart. I fell to pieces when I came here, but this, this thing called a journal, this pretty much saved my life.

The things that helped

I’ve been journaling all my life. So if you’ve come here and you’ve found yourself in a place that you really, you just can’t go on, what worked for me, and not everything works for everybody, so when I was with the husband, what worked for me was taking Prozac because it just helped me. I took a teeny-weeny minuscule dose, and I always had in my mind that I would have an exit strategy. And I took this teeny-weeny amount of the drug, I wrote, and I wrote, and I wrote in my journal.

And it really helped me to clear my thoughts and to see the stories and the patterns of the things that I’d been doing and really going back and looking at, well, where were the roots of the stuff that allowed me to let somebody else destroy me?

So my journal was super, super helpful, taking the Prozac for a very short space of time was very helpful.

And the other thing that was really helpful, and I don’t know how practical it is, is I got a dog. And he’s still with me, he’s very, very old, he’s very spindly and old, and going for lots and lots of walks, getting into Mother Nature and getting really grounded.

Other things I did is I started to do more yoga, so that was really, really balancing. So I looked at ways that I could nourish my soul.

So the writing, the journaling, that just, that was the most, it’s always been one of the most powerful things, I journal every single day.

And my journaling has changed, it’s not desperate and anxious and dreadful anymore, but it really, really helped me.

I tried counselling, that was pretty useless for me.

For me, it was the journaling, walking my dog, getting into Mother Nature and doing really lovely things for me.

I started to go and get some massages, I just did things that made me feel good.

I did little things like, let me get some Post-it notes, I did little things like this. I’d write love-me notes, so I’d write myself a little note, and when I woke up in the morning, I found a love-me note on my kettle, on my fridge, or something like that.

And eventually, doing these things, things that were for me, connecting to my heart, learning to love me, made a massive difference.

And what happened in 2018, and this is kind of really the last point that I felt desperate, was my spine fractured. I’d changed my diet, a long, long time ago, I was doing lots of self-care, I was doing the walking and the journaling and eating really healthily and doing my yoga and looking after me.

And then all of a sudden, my spine fractured and I ended up with what’s called a couple of wedges, the vertebrae became wedges, it was horrendous.

And the thing that really saved my life, apart from I refused to take drugs, I stood in my power. It was, “This is who I am in the world “, and my values are, and I want to heal naturally.”

So although I couldn’t walk for a long time, it was almost impossible to get out of bed, and the pain was, I really didn’t want to be on the planet, but I kept my journal by the side of my bed and when I would wake up in the middle of the night and think, “Do you know what? “I really, really can’t take this pain anymore, “I just can’t take,” I used my mind to try and take the pain away, I didn’t want to take pain killers, real stubborn cow.

But I’d wake up in the middle of the night, and I thought, “Do you know, “the only thing I can do is get that damn journal out “and just write all the really horrible things “that are going on.”

And then once I got it all out of my system, I could go back to sleep. And I’d wake up in the morning, and I’d read it and reflect on it and think,

“Right, okay, what’s the one thing “I can do today to make this my day?”

So I don’t know if that helps you, I truly hope that it does. I think the most powerful thing, for me, was getting away from the situation, was taking myself into nature, was about writing, was about connecting to me and really learning to love who I am.

Do I love myself enough to

And in doing that, it made such a difference. So one of the biggest things that I do today when something comes up, I say, “Do I love myself enough to,” and the answer’s always, “Yes.” “Do I love myself enough to get away from this? “Do I love myself enough to eat properly? “Do I love myself enough ” to get my feelings out in my journal? “Do I love myself enough?”

And that’s the thing that works absolutely for me.

Personal power

So I think a lot of it is about stepping into our personal power and learning to be assertive and learning things like I statements.

When someone says something to you, and you can feel stuff coming up, and you want to say, “You know what, “you make me feel,” well, actually what I would suggest is you put your hands on your heart and say, “When you do,” such and such, “I feel,” and we start using I statements.

And you can practise them in your journal.

And something else that you can do is if you feel that other people are bullying you, there’s a thing underneath, so here are my boobs, a thing here called the solar plexus, you can just fold your arms over the solar plexus and that will protect your personal power.

But it’s also about learning about your values, what you will put up and what you won’t put with. I know this is a massive, massive subject. I know that you’ve come here to this blog because you were looking for a way out, what I’m truly hoping is that you go and get one of these things, you go and get a journal, and you take yourself off, the thing, for walks.

And it might not be practical to get a dog, but I tell you what, they give you so much love, they give you so much love.

When I was in that horrible relationship, this boy (Ferdy Dog) and I, we spooned every single night. He’s my heart, and he got me through so much, he got me through so much.

So journal, get your journal out and pour your feelings into it and start loving you, look in the mirror, look deep into your eyes and tell yourself that you love you.

 I didn’t expect to get emotional, but I always do when I think about my boy, my old Ferdy.

Anyway, I have this little book called “101 Affirmations to Get You Through the Day,” and I did this on a previous video and I chose an affirmation completely randomly, which I think is perfect for this, “Today, I am my best friend.”

So if you were with a friend who was thinking that they didn’t want to be here anymore and you were their best friend, what would you say? What would you do, how would you help them? And then do that for you.

So I want to, when I stop my leaking eyes, I want to send you the biggest, biggest love. I hope that some of these things that I’ve said, some of the stories that I’ve shared with you, which are not stories that I share very often, I hope they inspire you to pick up your pen and start thinking about you and loving you for the most beautiful being that you truly, truly are.

My name’s Dale, and from my heart to your heart, I wish you the most beautiful day, and I hope that you do the right thing and you stay, you stay because we need your love, your energy, we need you in the world, the world needs good people.

Lots of love.

This is Melissa’s blog.

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20 Powerful Ways Of Knowing That You Are On Your True Life Path

Knowing that the path you are walking is your true life path is a question many people have asked. Where am I going? Why am I here? What is it that I am meant to be doing in this lifetime? It’s a terribly human thing to desire surety, to know for certain that this is the right way for us. We think that we should know where we are going. We set goals and take action and do stuff and often find ourselves frustrated and angry that things are not going to plan. Things keep happening and wham all your best-laid plans go to rat shit. I have learned over the years that plans are good as long as you allow your heart to change them. After all, a plan is merely a suggestion, isn’t it?

Heading out of the house this morning, the dogs led the way. They know the path by now. I put on Audible and started listening to Chillpreneur. The book was recommended to me and to be honest, it was a welcome change from all of the very spiritual books I have been listening to.

I caught sight of the doggies sniffing last nights playful fox trails and eating boar droppings, they were following their intuition. They weren’t struggling with shall I stay on this path, they were going for gold.

Ok, it’s easy for the dogs, eat, poo, sleep and wander around the hills. But there is a lesson in exploring, being curious, open and considering possibilities. They are so bright, those doggies.

 There have been many times over the last few years when things have gone wrong that I have screamed which fricking life path am I meant to be travelling on? One moment you let me make plans for this and then something happens. Help me to know.

The truth is knowing would take the fun out of things. Maybe you don’t agree with that, but I have had to learn so much about letting go and trusting and still there is more to learn. I am getting better at being less impatient and listening. No, seriously, I am.

If you are feeling stuck, pissed at life, wondering what next or even feeling like you are living someone else’s life. Consider these that have guided my expansion and growth.

20 Powerful ways of knowing that you are on the right life path

These are what resonate with me, perhaps there are others that you would add to the list?

  1. You learn to trust your inner guidance system
  2. Things start to align for you – as if by magic
  3. Set intentions, take aligned action and allow
  4. You overcome obstacles creatively and don’t let them get in your way
  5. You make great conscious choices which seem to be easy
  6. You stop living someone else’s life – you do what makes your heart sing
  7. You lose track of time doing what you love
  8. You feel fired up and motivated about what you are doing
  9. You feel proud of what you have done and what’s to come
  10. Use feedback wisely (no more feeling criticised)
  11. You want to be a part of the change, and you find a way
  12. You surround yourself with likeminded people
  13. You take courageous steps even if they feel scary
  14. You let love in, let go and follow your heart
  15. You live by your values and feel fulfilled doing so
  16. It’s less about the material things
  17. You treasure community, kindness and connection
  18. Toxic friends go and care less about what these kind of people say about you
  19. You listen to your body – it will tell you what you need to know about what it needs and when to slow it down
  20. You took the chill pill and you like it

Don’t look for the key it will find you

On the last full moon, I’d set some powerful intentions, one of which was combining my spiritual work with my strategic work. It seemed so obvious after all of the mithering. There is no this or that, I am who I am, and I am always on the right path. Knowing it is one thing but doing something is quite something else.

With the full moon ebbing, I sat once more with my journal, eyes half-closed and wondering – what is Spirit trying to tell me, with the mad dreams and other signs? What am I not hearing? Connecting my heart with Mother Earth and breathing gently, in my head, I heard the answer. Don’t look for the key it will find you. Pausing I realised that I had been pushing too hard for an answer, for a solution to this malaise that I was feeling.

Over the week before the full moon, I’d been having wild dreams all about being reborn and new starts. And I felt dread wash over me. No more starting again, please!

I have started again so many times. Although I confess, the last fresh start was much needed, albeit a tough one. I’m sat here today feel pretty chill that I have so many skills and experiences that have contributed to my vast well of knowledge.

But here’s where I found myself. I was almost renouncing my strategic business stuff in favour of following a spiritual path. When it struck me that what I needed to do was to combine the two – doh!

I dug out my 90-day plans – mmm. I reviewed my strategic plan for 2021 – mmm. Ok, I thought here we go again. The path is no longer the path. The path and plans are changing. I felt resistance like you cannot imagine… And then I spoke with my coach – they always help you to clear the debris, don’t they?

In among this, I was slowed down with a cough. By being stopped, I had time to reflect and scribble and by allowing everything felt easier, and it made sense. Naturally, I still have to take action.

Stop searching: I know it’s hard, but what I believe is that all is in divine order and you already hold the master key. Pop it in the lock and let the door swing slowly open.

Things will go wrong until you listen

Know this; your crappy life is your gift. In my life, there have been many turning points and crossroads. I’ve lost count of the forks in the road and the journeys along so many seemingly strange paths. I ask you, who hasn’t encountered an unexpected bend, a twist or turn they weren’t anticipating? Every day the master plan, the route through life continues exactly as it should and yet we face it with fear, disappointment, and anger. We get on the magic bus of life and sit helplessly as it appears to drives us, we think, in the wrong direction.

We need to look backwards, not so that we can dwell in or on the rubbish part of our lives, but to gain wisdom or hindsight that provides flashes of insight to where we now find ourselves. Combine this with our magical formula of foresight, intuition, inner knowing we have an indispensable system for moving forwards.

The key to your inner guidance system is to stop, listen and learn, from the past, present and future because they are all, in reality, our now. The choices we make today affect all of our tomorrows. The choices of yesterday do the same. Everything collides beautifully into the book of our lives. That rich flow of endless words which come to guide us. Not written on parchment or carved in wood, but deep inside our souls. And all we have to do is listen.

There is no wrong path

Life is rarely one long period of ecstatic peace, love, and harmony; it is made up of lessons for us to learn. Each lesson teaching us something amazing about ourselves, and if we don’t learn the lesson the first time, it somehow creeps up and bites us on the bum.

Sometimes those dratted lessons keep spinning around until something jolts us awake. Then you often find that after a period of let’s call it grieving, you find that gorgeous peace once again descends, and you have a slow and enchanted growth period.

Life goes in revolutions (fast stuff) and evolutions (slow stuff). Neither exists without the other, and both exist because of each other.

Think for a moment of every revolution in your life—Times of abrupt change, followed by times of quiet consideration. Eruptions, solitude, eruptions, quietude and so your world revolves and evolves.

What I have also come to realise is that it is in the act of observation; in becoming a witness that one can gain the most value, gain understanding, seeing repeated patterns, reasons for particular behaviours, what your scripts are and so much more. The past is a beautiful synchronistic set of events that lead you to your now. Your past is an encyclopaedia for you to reference. What a rare and glorious gift, your book of life is, that guides you artfully along your life path.

Writing has been my saviour

Expansion and transformation is a part of a process that keeps you awake, aware and alive. Writing eases you into expansion, it is a gentle, iterative and an evolving process. It cannot be forced, and nor does it just happen. It takes work, but it does work.

There comes a time in many people’s lives when the life we are living no longer makes any sense; we feel stuck and fearful of facing our demons. Unknown and unseen monsters tear away at us. We unwittingly shape our lives, putting on a face for our public and all the while we live in constant terror that one day someone will unearth our secrets and show us for the frauds we are. We are not frauds, just fearful.

When that time comes, we search blindly, looking for answers about who we are in the strangest places when, in reality, the search needs to move inwards, where all of the answers reside.

Write and journal it will help you uncover the key

In taking the courageous step of examining who we are and the things we have done or had done to us, we run the risk of crashing. When we career over the precipice and hit the bottom of the canyon, there is only one way out, and that is to find our inner courage and to take control. Give yourself the gift of writing yourself a new adventure, where you are the heroines (or heroes) and can control your outcomes.

Through writing, reflection, and creativity, you can pull things into perspective.

For anyone who wonders what next? Put pen to paper, see what emerges, reflect, and learn a new way of writing the next part of your journey and personal story. Writing is cathartic, and when your soul is laid bare, you can either lie down and die, or you can recognise who you are and fight back.

Writing won’t solve anyone’s issues, but it will help to shine a light and in the process enabling painful memories to be uncovered, written about, and for healing to take place.

I work on the premise that we are all perfectly imperfect (to steal a title from Lee Woodruff) and that we are the best judges of how to heal ourselves, although we may not know it in our darker moments.

At no point is this about fixing you, making you well or sorting your shit out. No matter where you find yourself, this is about you learning more about you every day and taking action in whatever way is relevant to you. From expansion comes transformation, spiritual growth and evolution. We all have a personal choice about what we do next.

Writing has been my saviour and certainly eased me along my life path.

You can start by journaling, or you can look at what you have learned and turn that into a book. Writing a book will enable you to clarify your purpose and your processes, and you will have so much fun getting it written. I’d love to connect with you and walk by your side, guiding in this process. Please give me a call and let’s chat your life path book.

What about you are you ready to let the key find you?

PS: your purpose is already in your heart, you simply have to get out of your way and allow the key to unlock your treasure.

Journey Of The Heart is about how you can start living the life you want. How you can wake up happy to be you, with a sense of direction, knowing what you want and how to get it.

Become The CEO Of Your Life With The 11 C’s Of Personal Leadership

When I was growing up I wanted to be stand on the stage in Wembley and say those famous words ‘thank you Wembley, I love you’ after delivering an awesome gig.

The trouble was I was told that I would never become a singer and so my singing voice became, as predicted not that great and so I would probably be booed off the stage.

That’s not how I want to be remembered. I want to be remembered for the right reasons. I want to be remembered as someone who others thought had found who she was, acted from her heart, highest self and was kind.

And of course, I want people to love my courses, books, cake and my dogs.

I am also happy to be remembered for my quirkiness, intuition, ideas imagination and turning ideas into simple things.

In order to understand how important being the CEO of your is, think beyond where you currently are. Think about who you want to be or become.

I believe that it is who we become on the way to getting what we want that is the most important thing.

Where ever you are heading, you are the captain of your ship, the CEO of your life and your business. That’s a big responsibility. You are charting success for you, whilst mindful of the map laid out for you when you left the soul place.

You probably already know lots of people who look like they have got it together – rocking their lives as it were. Maybe they do and maybe they don’t.

Being the CEO of my life means I have:

  • Learned to love me
  • Found my Happy To Be Factor
  • Discovered the gorgeousness of inner peace

It also means that:

  • I make conscious choices that are connected to my heart
  • I balance my energy daily so that I can work in a great space
  • I am open to opportunities as presented by my soul for personal growth

So how do the 11’cs help me to do that? Consider these points.

Competence

Whether you know it or not, you are an expert in your life. Trouble is you probably take all of your knowledge, skills and experience for granted and assume that everyone else can do what you do too. They don’t.

To Do: Remember the conscious competence model where we get to the point of knowing what we know and just doing it.

Here’s your challenge – grab your journal and create a talent map across all areas of your life. Next, mark what you love and then what you are just good at. Reflect. What stands out?

Credibility

Showing up as the goddess (everyone loves being a Goddess – don’t they) of your life gives you a level of credibility that nothing else can. It is simply proof that you are an authority on your YOU subject. You will be establishing yourself as someone to trust and earning respect in the process.

To do: Look at your list of loves (up there). Which of these are you showing up as a leader in your field for? Which ones are missing? Reflect.

Competitive advantage

We all have competitors, I wonder how many have taken the time out to really consider who they are, what their values represent and how they show up. How are you different?

Living by your core values and from the heart will give you an ‘advantage’. When you know what your competitive advantage is you can:-

  • You communicate to the right people  
  • You communicate the right message 
  • You know what you can deliver on in terms of customer expectations

So what is your competitive advantage? Your brand, pricing, unique services, expert in a niche, turn big pictures into tangible products… Define what makes you different and then talk about these things.

To do: Look at the things that you love how do they make you different and unique. Which ones are sustainable options for the future?

Change agent

By carefully crafting what you stand for you not only become clear about you (change one), you will show others that they can do or achieve. You lead the way and inspire others to change and become their best selves.

To do: Look at the things that you love, consider your competitive advantage and ask in what ways can you use these to inspire others to know what is possible in the world?

Connect

Humans love connection and at a time when that is being eroded how can you become a connector? Being your best self and showing up connects you emotionally to your community. It’s the small things that you do from the heart, with kindness and compassion which will leave your YOU mark on others.

To do: How can you show up each day with kindness and compassion and connect your heart to others hearts?

Conscious choices

Making conscious choices that are connected to your heart will guide your life like no other map.

There are some simple rules about becoming fully conscious in your choices and that is to first understand how you do things. If you do not know how you do things, how can you know how to make conscious choices work for you?

To do: Read this article how to become more conscious in your decision making

Contracting

Carefully decide who you maintain heart and soul contracts with. When something ends, look at the lesson, appreciate the gift and rip the contract up. Move on and embrace people who deserve your love and attention.

To do: Make a list of your a, b, c and d people. Who are your a’s? Who can you move from b to a. And what will you do with the rest?

Confidence

Actually going beyond the fear and lack of self-belief process and coming out the other side as a person with a who has embraced the grunge of life with grace is amazing for your inner confidence. This is a massive subject which has filled many books. Where do I start? Perhaps with this question?

If you were brimming with confidence what would you do?

Take the leap from the corporate rat race and follow your dreams?  You can start planning now. Start to think about your personal brand and get yourself ready for the big leap. 

Sell up, pack up and travel around the world?  Why not proactively look around for opportunities to make it happen. Ok, the world is a bit restricted right now, but hopefully not forever.

How about that hobby you’d love to turn into a paying business?  Take the first step in doing some research, learn how to monetize it, then take it from there. 

Or are you already in business, but lacking the confidence to step up, step out, or charge what you’re worth?

Whatever that one thing is, if you’re not there yet or toying with how to get there.

To do: If you could confidently say yes to just one thing, what would it be? 

Cathartic

Becoming YOU is cathartic. Actually working out who you want to be and how you want to show up in the world is terrifying, but it enables you to tap into parts of you that may not have considered.

That’s why I love journaling and writing. When I explore me through journaling I gain masses of clarity and I heal. When I write books, I heal again.

To do: Grab your journal again and ask who can I be if I were just me? Be mindful of what comes up and explore that with your coach.

Clarity

When you know how you got here while enjoying the peace of the present moment, you can contemplate and get clarity of where you are heading next. Clarity comes in the spaces, understanding the lessons learned no matter how horrible and appreciating the ahas from them.

To do: My suggestion is that you sign up to 101 days of being me. Journal every day and you will find clarity. You can also read the 101 days blogs here.

Compassion

I believe that to feel compassion for your fellow man you are either born that way or have been tested in some way. That’s not to say that you have, more that for me having been through some tough times made me more aware and compassionate. 

It won’t always be easy; because when it comes to living as a compassionate, non-judgmental human being, the only challenge greater than learning to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes, is learning to walk a lifetime, comfortably in your own. 

To do: Become aware of the heart chakra which is located near your physical heart in the centre of the chest. This centre, when awakened and healthy, governs your capacity to have compassion, forgiveness, understanding, generosity, empathy, caring and love, for self and others. When it comes to making a choice about something take your hand to your heart and connect with your compassion.

Phew, that’s a lot of stuff to do. I’m sure I can think of many more ‘c’s, but it’s time to control myself and not get carried away. Take one thing that resonates with you and head to your journal to explore.

Let me leave you with this final question – Who do you want to become?

How Can You Bring More Inspiration Into Your Life?

How could you bring more inspiration into your life?

One thing that certainly inspires me, although I wasn’t old enough to go was Woodstock.

In August 1969, an amazing 3 day festival of peace changed the lives of many. It was a gathering like many had never seen before. It’s one of those events that I would have loved to have been at and immersed myself in. What about you? Can you imagine it?

The most important aspect of Woodstock for me is that it like many events of a similar type is the call for peace.

Right now the world is in chaos and full of fear. My mum is terrified, as I guess lots of older people would be. For me, it’s the isolation, which is strange as I love my own company and the isolation of where I live. I am craving community and I’d certainly adore to lose myself in a Woodstock.

Music takes me on journeys through time, usually back to some story of derring-do. Although the time of my life might not have been fun, it seems that with the passage of time, I usually see that time with a certain fondness.

Some songs take me on pathways through my memories and into little nuggets of clarity. When I get messages, it is often through songs, much to the amusement of my clients.

Joni Mitchell missed Woodstock but this is a song of hers I love. Mind you I could fill a page of videos of great songs from Woodstock and there would be no time for thinking we could just dance the day away…

Woodstock happened in August 1969, long before the Internet and mobile phones made it possible to communicate instantly with anyone, anywhere. It was a time when we weren’t able to witness world events or the horrors of war live on 24-hour news channels. Richie Havens

I don’t know about you, but I’d adore another Woodstock and a few days respite from the madness of the world. A festival of being and of communicating with others from a place of peace and love. But of course, we can’t and I wonder if we will ever be able to?

Imagine if we could manifest peace and love? Imagine if we could find a way to bring more peace into the lives of the people around us who are living in fear. Imagine if we could dance away the darkness?

What I wonder could each of us do to inspire others to find their version of inner peace and be able to ride out this ‘thing’?

What we will think when we look back to August 2020? I’m curious to know what I will think about when reading this blog and being reminded of what my life was like.

There is, of course, good and bad in all aspects of our lives. What has supported me and will continue to support me is being in nature which is grounding. Nature always brings me back to me. I have found myself extremely grateful that I live in such a beautiful place, where I have been able to walk with my dogs.

I am inspired by the peace around me and living a peaceful life. Being in nature is where I get most of my ideas outside of my journal.

I am truly grateful to have found a way to get out of my head and into my heart.

Even if you can’t get to Woodstock or out in nature, perhaps playing some of your favourite music and then journaling could bring some much-needed inspiration, clarity and inner peace. Here are a few prompts to take you on an inner journey.

Inspirational journaling prompts

  • My favourite way to spend an hour is…?
  • Ten things that inspire me to be a better person are?
  • My idea of a perfect day is…
  • If I could inspire one person to do…, it would be…
  • Three people who constantly inspire me are…, because…
  • What are the questions you need answers to?
  • What are the answers to the questions you are asking?
  • This book inspired me to be a better person because…

Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does. William James

You may not be able to solve the world crisis, but just for a while you can find a place of peace and inspiration.

In case you are wondering, my favourite way to spend an hour would be an early morning foray into the rambla (dried river bed pathway) with my dogs. I’d lose myself in thoughts while they sniffed and explored. Back home it would be tea and cake – of course.

Other favourite ways to spend an hour include chatting with my mum. She is onto her ninth or tenth book and she will often ask me for ideas of where to take the story. Or we will talk about life experiences and memories and generally put the world to rights.

When you go to bed tonight, chose a prompt, connect with your muse. Start writing the mundane and wait for the magic. In the morning chose to take some time to be in nature and see what else arises for you.

What I love about inspiration is that it comes from the simplest of activities and I am sure it will for you too.

Write Into August – Writing Prompts To Start The Month

August is the eighth month of the year and is named after Augustus Caesar. But did you know that august is also an adjective which means inspiring reverence or admiration; of supreme dignity or grandeur; majestic?

How could you bring more inspiration and august into your life?

I am constantly inspired by other people who help to bring calm into my world. Right now this feels like a crazy world where I am not really sure of what is going on.

This weekend I spent Saturday morning engaging with my inner child, who I will admit sulked at the rubbish piece of non-art she created. I hated what I painted, but loved the techniques that I learned. Next week I’ll learn more about art and me. I wonder what will come up then…

Inside of me is a frustrated artist and sometime in school, I lost my ability to draw and paint. I created a belief that said I cannot do this. Which seems now quite daft.

When I look back I can see one event. My drawing of a piggie was on full display and I was embarrassed that anyone would ‘see’ me. Which as an adult I understand quite clearly how this would impact me all of these years later.

I choose right now to allow all of this to bubble up to be ‘dealt’ with. I will as ever naturally be journaling (see prompts later) and challenging myself to letting go and during August being inspired by art.

These things will ground, inspire me and will ultimately bring me calm.

As my August opened with a full moon and Lions Gate Portal it certainly pushed my buttons and opened my eyes to a lot of unresolved issues, I’d like to remember my August as a month that I overcame some of my challenges.

I am reminding myself that I can turn cant’s into cans…

This month’s birth signs are Leo and Virgo. Leo is fire and Virgo is Earth. Leos’ tend to be passionate adventurers and Virgos are grounded, practical and organised. Like me, I am sure that we could all do with a bit of both of these signs qualities.

How do we become both the passionate adventurer and grounded in our environment and use these qualities to deal with some of our challenges?

August themes

Interestingly when I looked at August themes according to Holiday Insights I knew that I had found some of my answers.

August weeks are themed as follows:-

  • Week 1 National Simplify your Life Week
  • Week 2 National Smile Week
  • Week 3 Friendship Week
  • Week 4 Be Kind to Humankind Week

Which sound delightful and just what we need right now. My invitation is to reflect on the previous seven months and ask yourself how can you create a life that includes simplicity, smiling, friendship and kindness?

If nothing feels that great, reframe and look at your life’s events with a different eye. Witness your growth. There is always something to be thankful for. There is always learning, a challenge and a gift.

August intentions for me, will be to connect with my inner wisdom and kind heart and think about what I want to manifest and create, not just for me, but for the world. What are your August intentions?

Three hearts meditation

Which brings me nicely onto a lovely meditation to do before you set your intentions and dive into your August journaling prompts.

Writing prompts to kickstart your August #1

Let’s kick August off with these writing 30 prompts. Writing prompts are a great way to think about where you are and where you would like to go.

Simplicity journaling prompts

  1. How can you bring simplicity into your life?
  2. How can you bring simplicity to the start of your day?
  3. What’s most important to you? What do you value most? What 2-3 things do you most want to do in your life?  Focus on these.
  4. When you think of simplifying, what do you need to forgive or let go of this month so that you make space for new opportunities?
  5. How do you spend your day? What things do you do, from the time you wake up to the time you go to sleep? Make a list and focus on what’s important. Redesign your day.
  6. Learn to say no. What can you say no to today? And what will you say yes to?
  7. Spell SIMPLICITY. What 2-3 things could you do that will bring peace and simplicity to your life?

To get the rest of the months journaling prompts, grab this Love To Journal, journal.

How to make the most of your August writing prompts

  1. This is not a race against time, savour each question and take your time
  2. Get into the right writing space
  3. Have a go at colouring in your mandalas (in the journal) even if you have never tried it. It will open up your creative side…
  4. Either print out your journal and scribble in that or print just the prompts and
  5. Write in a beautiful journal with your favourite pen for all other observations and explorations
  6. Pick the prompt that most resonates and use that, go with your intuition
  7. Allow whatever wants to be written come up
  8. Leave and reflect, let your soul whisper to you

That’s it, August is also the month for reflection on being your best self. Write often, enjoy the month and remember to spoil you every day.

If you’d love more of this writing stuff, grab a Love To Journal journal and connect even further with your heart.

Links

https://www.dictionary.com/browse/august

Letting Go And Decluttering Your Heart

It’s another full moon and the energy of this one is odd, to say the least. Or it could be that I feel like I am living on a remote island without my desert island disc goodies – eight tracks, a book and a luxury. We’ll come back to these in a mo…

This full moon – well, let’s face it something has to be at fault and I don’t want to talk about that other stuff – you know the pandemic (insert sad face).

This morning started well, with a gorgeous walk with two of my dogs, followed by getting a proof book sorted for a client – I hope she likes it?

Then, a malaise set in, which is most unlike me and I found myself a bit emotional and letting a sludgy part of my life creep in. I wonder if lugging some of this slurry is really necessary – what do you think?

I’m a big fan of letting go, especially on a full moon. I love the ceremony of burning my letter to letting go (see later), lighting candles, meditating with crystals and just being as my words float off to meet their maker somewhere up there.

Letting go and decluttering your heart is a big part of allowing the sludgy bits to dissolve, leaving you to make space for more of the good stuff. Besides which slurry and sludge smells. You only have to own a dog to know that!

As I was driving back from the shops today I passed a chicken farm and it reminded me of a day when for some reason one of my errant dogs was standing in the road far away from home covered nose to tail tip in stinky stuff – she was filthy and wet.

I can remember the smell as if it were yesterday.

I unpacked the boot, covered the back seat and drove her home for a wash. She stood silently looking at me as I removed the offending grime as if to say ‘what’s the fuss mum?’

Within 10 minutes the smell and the dirt were gone. For her, I am sure it’s long gone from her memory, while I have it stored along with a prayer that it never happens again.

Dale and marley moo

Getting slurry, foxes poo and other indescribable muck off a dog is far easier than letting go of traumas. These little critters clutter our hearts and just when you are least expecting it wham tears, anger or some other unexpressed emotion leaps out and smacks you around the face.

I practice the art of letting go in many ways. Getting rid of stuff around the house to clothes I no longer want has become easy. I learned after leaving three homes behind that you don’t need much.

Every once in a while I do a sweep of the house and put things that no longer serve me in the utility room and from there they go to charity. The same happens with clothes, if they miss the ironing for several sessions, it’s clear that they need to adorn someone else’s body.

With matters of the heart, I wait until an appropriate moment and allow my intuition to guide me.

This full moon I have no possessions that I want to chuck, instead, I am drawn to write a letting go letter to some of the stuff around a now very old relationship. I was rather surprised when I put pen to paper that this should show it’s face.

That is the beauty of journaling, what needs to come out does and so it should.

Letting go and decluttering your heart

Examining the past can be upsetting, especially when you look back and see a set of repeated behaviours that might now seem cringe-worthy. I like to think that despite everything that has happened, it was all meant to be and is just part of the journey, like a tough degree programme at the University of Life. Everything is a learning experience and a gift.

What do you need to let go of which is cluttering up your heart?

Dear letting go…

Find yourself somewhere comfortable to sit and write a letting go letter to whatever needs to come up. Do not censor your words or try to control them.

Start your letter dear letting go and see what flows.

I always advise my clients to start with the mundane and then the juicy stuff will come.

Leave the letter with some crystals and let them work their magic.

Later, when you read your letter, find the lesson and the gift. Write thank you on your letter and set the words and emotions free by burning your letter.

If burning is not your thing, do something else. You could flush it down the toilet or make a boat and let it sail away.

Make your ritual and ceremony your own.

Afterwards be kind to you and with any luck you will sleep well. In the morning pick up your journal and write.

Have faith that in that space is room for something far more valuable and loving. Consider the gift that you have been given and ask how will this gift serve me?

This ceremony just some of the things we do in a Writing To Heal Circle – do come and join us.

Eight tracks, a book and a luxury

Come then what are your eight tracks, a book and a luxury?

  • Nirvana cover of The Man Who Saved The World
  • Bad Company – Bad Company
  • Neil Diamond – Pretty Amazing Grace
  • Dido – Hunter
  • Joan Armatrading – I am not in love
  • George Thorogood – One bourbon, one scotch and one beer
  • Nirvana – Come as you are
  • Natalie Imbruglia – Torn

Phew that was hard!!

The book would be Shapeshifting Into Higher Consciousness – Llyn Roberts, because theres loads of journeys to go on.

Luxury would have to be lipstick!

And of course my three dogs.

Over to you.

101 Positive Affirmations To See You Through The Day – #7

Have you ever wondered where your inner childs playground is?

In the body we have many energy centres and the second is your inner child’s playground, a place of creativity, magic and wonder. It is also home to your sensuality and emotions.

One of the best ways to support these is to play. We can play in so many ways. I love to play with my dogs,  I love to write and colour in mandalas.

You could lose yourself at the movies, ride your bike, rollerblade, go walking, play air guitar at concerts, go to a play and hang out with children. And you can just be silly with friends. Playing is also indulging in arts and crafts, singing, dancing, playing an instrument and sharing laughs with friends. It also includes your sensual and intimate moments with yourself or a partner.

I love to start explorations in my journal with my child because this eases me into a place of curiosity and wonder.

I have had a lot of sexual abuse from early childhood, but I do not see a traumatised inner child; instead, I see a naughty little minx – a wild child who was suppressed, but now wants to play.

I write because it has helped and helps my inner child to release the ‘demons’, which do sometimes crawl out of the ground.

If for any reason you find yourself transported back to unpleasant things, you can make a choice to explore through writing and/or you can find a counsellor trained to support you through this while you journal.

Does this work still make me cry? Of course, it does, but I am grateful that she wants to be with me on my life’s adventure.

It’s as easy as closing your eyes and allowing yourself to be guided to parts of your life that feel or have felt magical. Become that child that sees the world through the lens of wonder and curiosity before you pick up your pen.

101 Positive Affirmations To See You Through The Day

Your creative inner child lives and plays in the freedom of the moment

Just this weekend I was listening to the two young children playing in the street. Giggling and doing goodness only knows what… When I went to walk the dogs, the children were gone, and the street was littered with toys. Parked outside my house was a scooter. Simply abandoned. It made me smile to remember that freedom of just being and enjoying the present moment.

Today I am

Today I am playful and free.

  • How can you tap into that childlike innocence and just be?
  • Where can you find play in your life?
  • How can you bring more play and that feeling of freedom into your life?
  • Find 3 things that are playful that you can do today

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Acknowledging Your Courage

There are far braver people than me. I do not live in a war-torn country; I have food and clean water, I have no life-threatening illnesses to contend with (the overactive thyroid is controlled with diet). I am blessed. However, I am told that I have courage. We never see traits like this in us, do we?

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. We must do what we think we cannot to.” Eleanor Roosevelt

All I did was leave someone who was leading a double life. Yes, I left everything behind, moved to a new country and had to find new friends, a new way to run my business and a new way of living.

Yes, there have been challenges – that’s a bit of an understatement, to be honest.

However, I was lucky, the Universe, I believe had laid out the pathway to here, long before. She created the conditions for relationships to end, enabling a house purchase, discoveries to be made and for me to find my way here. It was all I think pre-ordained.

No bravery in pre-destiny.

Life may have felt tough at times. There have been many times that I have needed to be strong. There have been many occasions where my confidence and courage have been shaken.

In every challenge, without a doubt, that courage and confidence have grown. So that when I needed to leave, although I couldn’t know the outcome, I could take confident steps towards a new future.

I have such deep gratitude for what I have experienced and learned. Being thankful has created conditions that have allowed my courage and confidence to grow. Being surrounded by beautiful souls feeds these. My journey has brought me to a place where the right environment has been created for me to thrive.

Over these last six years, I have needed lots of courage and needed to dig deep. I had to use courage to create change. Little did I know that I would need the courage to enable me to adapt and grow and as a way to prepare for the uncertainty that came (and was to come) my way.

You can never be sure of any outcomes, but you can build courage and confidence to ensure that you can take appropriate action towards what you do want.

Being vulnerable and having the Courage to be you

Discovering your connection to your divine inner wisdom, connecting to your purpose, and changing your life is breathtaking. It is probably one of the biggest undertakings of your life because quietly you have been doing it all of your life – you just didn’t realise it.

From the moment you were born, when no one told you that you couldn’t, you just got out there and rocked. Naturally, you were influenced by the people around you. Some of which, despite being well-intentioned doing more harm than good.

If you wanted to wear pink trainers with an orange frock, you did. If you drew a picture, you would run around showing everyone, the same with your stories. So what happened?

Life gets in the way of confidence, and it’s as if people can smell that confidence or lack of it when they meet you.

Look at dogs, they greet each other warily and do a lot of sniffing. Either one or both of their tails go up, and then they decide who the top dog is. It is almost instantaneous. You can learn a lot by watching animals. My Ferdy dog struts his stuff, rushes up to everyone for a tickle; he is uber-confident that everyone will love him. What’s not to love, he is beautiful and fairly well mannered.

Sadly we lose our connection to our energy source which keeps the flame of confidence and courage burning, somewhere along the way, for all kinds of reasons and that is ok, it is just part of our journey.

At some point, though you need to fight the fear, change your mindset and take control of how you want to be perceived and unlock your heart and the gates to heaven.

In fact, take the word fear out of the equation and embrace the funny feeling in your tummy and heart. The other side of fear is excitement; you must be feeling that. Feels better, doesn’t it?

Courage is keeping going come what may (while staying out of danger, remaining authentic and ecological), and confidence is not giving in to the fear, rather embracing excitement.

What is courage?

What is it? What does it mean to you? To me, it is simply the ability to embrace whatever life throws at me, with confidence. It’s working with my inner knowing, listening to my intuition and guides and sometimes taking small steps and sometimes big leaps, in the knowledge that I will be caught and I will be held on the way.

Courage comes in many sizes and shapes, from confronting Harry, the spider to making a sacrifice to gain something important. Sacrifice in the sense that you are surrendering the old you, enveloping yourself in your excitement, so that the new you can wake up, become aware and be alive – truly alive.

  1. 1300, from Old French corage(12c., Modern French courage) “heart, innermost feelings; temper,” from Vulgar Latin *coraticum (source of Italian coraggio, Spanish coraje), from Latin cor “heart,” from PIE root *kerd- (1) “heart” (see heart (n.)) which remains a common metaphor for inner strength. In Middle English, used broadly for “what is in one’s mind or thoughts,” hence “bravery,” but also “wrath, pride, confidence, lustiness,” or any sort of inclination. Replaced Old English ellen, which also meant “zeal, strength.

Courageous people have a certain power and control over their destinies, even when they don’t know what is around the corner (how can they?). They know that because their values support the foundations of who they are and they have a healthy mindset (even if it waivers) anything is possible.

Courageous people know in their hearts that there is a deeper purpose for the way that their lives have unfolded.

They have faith. They have love. They are love. They share their inner beauty with the world because they believe that many hearts can make a big difference. Through their very being, they demonstrate courage, love and light.

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear — Nelson Mandela

Journaling prompts

  • What does courage mean to you?
  • Identify when you last showed courage – did you embrace it or brush it off? Think of three people, any three who you believe are courageous, why are they?
  • What you see in them is a reflection of your courage. How does that feel?

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