Have you lost yourself or your passion for something?
I know I did for writing and coaching on big book projects.
My love for helping others to write healing memoirs left me. To be honest, I was shocked. I have dedicated so much of my life and time to writing to heal. It was like a part of me didn’t want to be a part of me anymore.
It was strange but also a big relief.
So I let go of all of that and sat with myself, asking what next, what do you want – not for the rest of my life – for this part of my life?
Fun was the answer. I had lost the feeling of having fun in my life and work. So, of course, I had to figure out what constituted fun for me next. So I bought an Alexa, and I have sung and danced in the kitchen a lot – getting connected to my wild inner child has been so much fun.
But while figuring things out, I kept fighting the whole writing thing.
I sat in my creative space pondering and asking questions, and in this space gave I birth to creative space coaching and a few other things. As I wrote the workbook to go with it- yes, I did get back into writing, and I also found it hard to answer some of the questions I was posing.
As my mum says, ‘healer, heal thyself’… Go, mummy coach!!!
I have made myself feel very uncomfortable, and I think this is important to get to what you want (for now) and reconnect to the person you feel you have lost.
What also got me moving was being trapped in the house because of the horrible heat. Sitting with the dogs and sweltering sparked a desire in me to do something different and mix things up.
Not being able to walk the dogs all day for weeks (I’m in Spain) has made me realise how we get used to the way things are and staying comfortable.
I think that we gravitate naturally towards being comfortable. It makes sense, right? If you’re offered a chair, you’ll probably head for the seat, which looks perfect for you. I know I would want cushions to make the experience just right.
Mostly we like things to stay the same or the sameish. That means we follow routines that we can do without thinking. As a result, days without surprises are easily managed, even if they are boring.
My day involves leaving the house at first light to walk the dogs, coming back for breakfast and then immediately going for another walk in the summer. I do at least have the opportunity to space the walks out at other times of the year. Then it’s to my office for work. The evening involves two more walks late in the day and then watching Netflix.
Being stuck inside has stopped me in my tracks and pushed me to review many things. This summer, I found that the more I considered my life, the more I felt that my comfort zone was potentially becoming my greatest prison cell.
It was time for a change.
Comfort is all about staying safe
Comfort is about predictable things and life without demands, and I am not putting it down. Comfort can be good. You know what you are doing and what’s expected, you have time to learn things (if you can find the motivation), there’s time for social life, and you can stay invisible.
But if you want to grow and succeed, you need to open your eyes to why you love this place of comfort. Comfort keeps us where we are, giving us no reason to challenge ourselves, learn new things, or discover what we can do.
I needed a challenge, and you may need one too.
You may not know why you are staying safe. Safety is a basic need; let’s face it, who wants to give up that lovely feeling of being safe?
Well, me for starters. I was feeling lethargic despite getting things done. My energy was being sapped, and I knew I needed something to relight the fire.
I knew it was time to try a different approach.
Getting Out Of The Comfort Zone Into Your Creative Space
Examine Your Discomfort
First, I made a list of all the things that felt comfortable and easy. Then a list of everything that was making me feel uncomfortable. Next was reflecting on why these things made me feel uncomfortable.
Why are You Ready to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone?
This was a big question. I was ready because book coaching had lost its sparkle. This needed to change, and I wanted to work on shorter, fun projects. But, I also knew I needed to do something different that I was passionate about. This was about combining my love for creativity, passion and purpose.
Reflect on Discomfort
Reflection is such a positive exercise. I sat with my emotions and examined what and why I felt stuck. The biggest key to getting through this step is honesty, so be prepared to be truthful as you step into this journey.
Where Do You See Yourself?
Envisioning and having a vision are powerful. However, for a powerful vision to manifest, you need to declutter. This is the time to declutter, let things go, and focus on what you want. I let so much go, and honestly, it is liberating.
To succeed against a challenge, such as facing what is in your discomfort zone, you need to see yourself succeeding. This step has a lot of power, so it must not be skipped.
Do things that put you in the creative space
To discover new things, you need to change what you are doing. For example, read a book in a different genre or walk a different way, try something artistic, knit a dog jumper, volunteer, dance, listen to different music and play.
You will see life from a new perspective by doing some or all of these things.
Once I let things go and gave myself space, I needed to prepare for what was to come. Honestly, this wasn’t easy as I was doing something that felt completely different. However, I knew I was embracing discomfort and had to keep moving through the discovery and clarification stage for a new coaching program.
If you are at this stage, it’s important to give time to it and make intentional choices with every action. This kind of preparation will take you right where you need to go.
The way I prepare is to write a workbook so I can see and clarify my process and ideas. It’s just how I like to work.
As a creator and a projector in Human Design, creating content (see above) works for me.
You might not know where to start. However, examining your discomfort and feeling that you are in the chaos zone will have already highlighted the areas where you don’t feel confident.
Start with a list, gather your resources and do something different to open up the creative space you need. Be in the present moment, and ideas will come to you.
If you lack ideas, talk to people who have accomplished similar things and see what advice they can give. A mentor might even be a good idea, as they’ll steer you toward what you need most.
My start small was a small e-book called exploring purpose. Which led to the full Creative Space workbook, journal and planner. Each part of the workbook I broke down into chunks because each chunk was something small. Each part presented a challenge which I relished.
The key? Keep trying. Small steps should happen, one right after the other. Practice moving into the discomfort zone daily until it becomes a habit to challenge yourself.
Small victories coupled with frequent attempts will help discomfort feel not so uncomfortable. If you’re consistent, in a very short amount of time, you’ll discover that what used to be the discomfort zone has turned into another bigger and better comfort zone.
Finally, the last step is to commit to this process. Like me, you will have to revisit these steps repeatedly whenever you push yourself in a new direction.
I’m committed to going through this process regularly so that I can enjoy being in the creative space of the discomfort zone.
To succeed in life, you can’t just confront the discomfort zone once or even twice. Remember, a comfort zone is a great place to recharge, but sooner or later, you’ll want to venture out again, stretching the boundaries as far as you can make them go. How else will you ever reach your full potential?
This is the key, though, isn’t it? You want to reach your full potential in life. You want to succeed beyond your wildest imaginings and live the life you deserve. This all starts here, by stepping willingly into the discomfort zone and seeing where it takes you.
Start a passion project
Out of my exploration came a few passion projects. Writing little books – I love little books that can be done in 4-5ish weeks. This is one of my offerings. Please don’t call me the little book coach, though…
Knitting – I have committed to knitting myself jumpers, and I will also knit dog coats and give them to charities. No, I don’t take commissions for jumpers.
The creative space workbook and planner. I love workbooks and planners…
And something else to be revealed soon…
If you are lost, the creative space is here and if a little book is something you’d love help with, give me a shout. I can help you to work out what needs to go in it if you have no idea or too many ideas. And it will be easy to do.