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Memories make memoir and create inner freedom

Memories can be healing, revealing, scary, upsetting, fun and a whole lot of emotions in-between. Every experience creates a memory in the library of your soul. When you come to write a memoir and walk into that vast room, you may not know where or how to start. Personally, I think that when you start the journey into memoir the most important thing is that you allow. What I mean by that is you allow yourself to wander through the library and enjoy the process of connecting your memories with new eyes. Also allowing whatever needs to arise in the moment.

Often I am confronted with something that triggers a memory, it seems at first disconnected to the memoir, personal story, book or blog that I am writing. And then just like that, it starts to make sense. In that sense making process, I believe that we can create a sense of freedom.

Everything starts from within. Our beliefs about something seem so deeply ingrained, yet when we explore with new eyes and open our hearts to the message that lies beneath we start to liberate ourselves from self-imposed tyranny.

Now I am not saying you will be jumping for joy when you are reminded of events. You may be happy and equally, you may cry. The important thing is that you allow, acknowledge, accept and then take some small action.

Let me give you an example.

Last night I went to a party, nothing unusual in that, it was New Year’s Eve and a time when people like to get together and see in the New Year. Of course, some don’t, preferring the peace of a roaring fire and perhaps dinner and a film.

The music played, people danced, and the DJ opened her deck so that anyone could request a personal song.  There were some songs that I wanted to lose myself in, taking me back to a time when I too would have been on the floor dancing all night.

Two years ago I sustained an injury and stuff like dancing hurts and so to protect myself I don’t. But then a very curious thing happened.

Sam The Sham & The Pharaohs and Woolly Bully came on. And that was it.

Suddenly I was transported back in time to my parent’s parties. I wanted to dance. I asked a friend who wrinkled her nose at my suggestion, and then I was surprised by another friend who I’d thought wasn’t into dancing coming on to the empty dance floor with me. It was wonderful. I wasn’t at this party, I was back as a child twisting and laughing to the music.

When we sat down I told him the story of mum and dad’s parties and how this song made me feel. The conversation meandered into how I’d loved to dance and enjoyed the parties on the RAF camp where we lived. I explained how when the guys I’d danced with discovered who my dad was they freaked. I’d never really understood why. Dad was as far as we knew ‘just’ a fireman.

My tale veered off to a discovery I made last year. I had posted a picture of dad on Facebook. Someone privately messaged me about my dad being a rock ape. Firstly I had no idea what a rock ape was and secondly, I (or mum) hadn’t known he was in the RAF Regiment. When mum and I first discovered this we pondered about how little we had known about my dad. Who was this mysterious man who scared my potential suitors away and who might not have been just a fireman?

Dad RAF Regiment

This morning when out walking this all came flooding back, only now there were other connections popping up.

So let me explain.

Today I start to edit my book Rude Awakenings. It opens with my first awakening – discovering that my then husband was and had been for all of our relationship living a double life. How little I knew about who he really was.

The song last night triggered off thoughts of my childhood and the discovery that potentially my dad was not who he seemed either. My ex-husband was not who he seemed and in my journey which I share in my book, I was looking for the ‘real’ me.

I am reminded that when I edit I must look beneath the stories and memories that make this memoir and to let whatever arises. It seems to me as we enter a new year and full moon, that this is another call from my soul to release more.

You may think you are just writing a memoir, but in effect as you work on your book you are creating a pathway to inner freedom.

For you to ponder…

What is the core message of your memoir?

We always come back to the core message. A memoir is not just a story, there is a learning point or points in every chapter, which comes back to the core message.

In Rude Awakenings I am on a journey to self-love and self-discovery, this is my books core message. However, as a writing coach, the bigger message for me is to inspire you to have the courage to write your book.

Hidden Content

What do you still need to let go of?

When you think about your core message as you write and edit, what else can you learn about you? Are there any fragments that you still need to let go of?

No matter how you feel about your story right now, there will always be something that pops up to remind you to take note. What are those things? Your reader will probably experience stirrings of emotions as they read – what might they be? Our experiences may be similar but how we process them is often different and we each need to find our way. Just take a moment to consider how your reader will feel as they read your book?

Which way does freedom lie?

Writing has always been my saviour. When we step beyond the thinking mind and allow whatever needs to arise come forth then I believe we can find freedom.

Freedom comes from inside. When we allow ourselves to write without limitations, we are telling our souls that its ok for it all to be laid bare. In becoming a witness we can learn so much about who we are.

I say write for freedom and edit for your reader. What I mean is write the memories, flow through and with them. Take the time to explore and adventure with what comes up. When you come to edit, you will know what is for you and what is for your reader.

My invitation today is to ask you to reflect on yesterday. What conversations did you have, where do those thoughts take you? Use the full moon to let go of limitations around writing your memoir.

It’s a new year, a new chapter, and if you could give yourself the freedom to write your memoir, what would it be called?

Using your book to build a business

I was gifted the Book The Business Model Generator many years ago by a friend, who gently suggested that I used it to build a business. It was one of those gifts that I was delighted to receive because it came at what appeared to be the right time. His invitation was to look at my business in a new way. My dusty old business plan needed a shake and I adore new ways of looking at old things.

At the time I was writing a book about planning a book, this wasn’t just about the book plan, it covered the whole of the prospective writers personal brand plan as well. It seemed to me little point in writing a book for your business if that book wasn’t a business. Does that make sense to you?

Let me explain.

A book to me is never just a book. It is a one thing. This is where the business model canvas comes into it’s own.

It provides clarity when you start to build a business

Planning and writing a book gives you clarity of core message and process. The business model canvas lets you look at it as a business. This will as it does me spark many ideas, the big picture, as well as keeping you focused on the detail.

What else is your book?

When you look at a book as a one thing that gives you crystal clear clarity you can begin to look at how else you can use it. Your book can be turned into many other things like workshops, online courses, speeches, retreats and to support your coaching or consultancy practice.

The whole process around a book brings together everything about your business. Think of it like a condenser and as an expander.

Misconceptions

People often think that a book is just about creating an outline and writing it. Yes, you can JUST do that, but what if you want more from your business?

In this series of articles I would like to invite you on a journey where we can look at how the process of writing a book enables you to clarify and (re)build your business model.

The business model canvas

What I love about this is quite simply the whole plan is on one sheet of paper. As a person who can write and write and write, this canvas draws me back to simplicity. When it’s simple, I know I will use it.

Using a book to build a business

Let’s say you have a coaching or consulting practice. You generally do a number of marketing activities to generate business. When you have won a piece of business, you will have a process that you follow, some tools that you apply and perhaps some training or coaching that you deliver. Success is measured by something that you and the client determines from some goals you set at the outcome. And then that’s it. Job done, time to move on. But what if you could deliver more value?

  1. The book planning and writing process as we have said bring clarity of purpose, message and process.
  2. It also enables you to see what else you can create around it –  a product roadmap.
  3. As you research the market and undertake a competitor analysis you will learn where the gaps are and you can apply these to the business of your book.
  4. The book is like a pivot from which you can build a brand and take your inspirational message out into the world.
  5. As you write it, in the reflection spaces you build your business. E.g. When it comes to writing your book, you could blog it.

With a book in hand, you can use this now as:-

  1. A marketing tool. 
    • This becomes a big business card. Often prospective clients will choose someone to work with because they have a book and they may well have already read it.
    • At your first meeting when you are discussing their business you can leave a copy of your book with each of the meeting attendees.
    • You may wait to gift your book until you get the order and then you would use it to say thanks to the main person/people that you worked through winning the order with.
    • At the first meeting when you meet the team that you will be working with you can gift the book then. People love pressies.
  2. Coaching tool
    • As you work with your client and their team, you can request that they bring your book to meetings where once you have delivered your coaching or training you invite them to reference a chapter to support the content of the session.
    • You can send motivational emails to the team. Thank them for their time and remind them to check out a particular page.
    • In this way you are building fans who one hopes will tell their friends and you are training them to read your book.
  3. Turning your book into an online course
    • As you work with your clients and scan the marketplace you will gather more ways that you can support clients. Use this as case studies for your courses.
    • As you deliver pieces of work to a client based on your book, create PowerPoint slides and record your content in such a way that it can be used in an open to the ‘public’ course. Use this to reinforce a point that you have been working on. And add this to your course curriculum.
  4. Away days aka retreats
    • Retreats are wonderful ways to kick-start a process and dive deep into creating transformation. Your book becomes the core of the process.
    • Use the book to plan the retreat or away day. You already have the process, now you can have fun planning activities around it, and using the book to support you.
    • Use your book as a gift. Have it placed on the pillow of each guest along with chocolate or some other small gift.
    • As we have said earlier use it throughout the retreat as a reference point.

These are a few ideas, there are many more depending on the nature of your business and your dreams.

There is little point writing a book and planning all of this other stuff around it, if it doesn’t fit with your passion and where you want to go with it.

If you take me for example, my passion is around enabling people to find their voice, creating a strategy around it and typically writing a book. For me, books are inspirational messages, they are a vehicle for us finding our voices and being able to share our value.

At the point of writing this article, I am editing a book called Healing Osteoporosis Naturally. The book is about finding your root cause and creating a natural healing plan based on your unique ‘issues’. When my spine fractured and I was diagnosed I was horrified at the available medical advice and the rubbish that was being spouted by some people. I had to do something about it.

This book is a fantastic ‘product’ for me to also demonstrate how to live and write a book like this. It has been my hardest book to date. What an eye opener and that’s all I will say on the subject. However, this learning has given me new insight into my business and that can only be good for you, right?

My hope is that you can see how a book will benefit your business in ways you may have never considered. If it daunts you, you could plan and write the book from other products and services you have – as they say – there is more than one way to skin a cat (as an animal lover this makes me squirm…).

Your mission should you choose to take it is to connect with me and chat about your book and strategy.

If you are not quite ready then you can take the 7 days plan your book challenge, this has been designed to enable you to clarify your book.

Common mistakes when writing a book, why it may never get published or make money

Writing a book? Planning your book? Written your book and done nothing with it? Couldn’t care less about writing a book, but someone said you should? It doesn’t matter what it is there are a number of common mistakes that some writers make which means that their books never see the light of day, or if they do, no one knows about them and worse still they never make the money they deserve.

Writing a book is hard work and while you are going through the process you need to be considering your marketing and product road map.

Here goes and in no particular order, stuff to think about when writing a book.

You don’t have a book plan or know how you like to plan

In this article, I talk about conscious planning and getting connected to your inner planner. The first mistake is that you do not know how you like to plan, what keeps you motivated and how to plan your book.

Want a book plan? Yes, all you do have to part with your email address, however, it will be worth it.

You don’t set time aside to write

I make writing one of the first things I do each day. My fully charged computer is by the side of my bed and in the morning with a cuppa, I write. My timer is set and when my time is up, I get on with breakfast, walking the dogs and planning my day. When I write at other times, I put on focus@will set it for 60 minutes, at the end of the time, I go for a walk to refresh my brain cells. What works is when you write first thing, then it is done, and you have no room for procrastination.

You think writing a book is a solo job

You may be a great writer, you may be a brilliant dancer, but at some part of your book journey, you need other people so that you don’t look completely ‘daft’ on either the dance floor or Amazon.

Book cover and proof reader

Please do not design your own cover unless you are a designer. One member of a 10 week program I ran, had her husband take a photo of her naked and then pixelate it, followed by some dreadful typography. She wondered why no one in the group rated it. It was dreadful. She would not listen. She also refused to engage with a proof reader, again believing herself to be far superior. These are two very common mistakes. If you nothing else, get a cover designed for you and always use a proof reader. I can’t promise that every one will love your cover, why should they? Nor can I promise that there will not be any mistakes in your copy. Choose you proof reader wisely as that too can be fraught with problems.

Book writing coach

Now, of course, I’d say this as this, wouldn’t I. Not everyone needs to be held accountable or to have ongoing developmental editing or someone who can write in your voice or someone who can support you with your personal branding. However, it could be just what you need to inspire and motivate you. When you are supported and help accountable, you are more likely to complete a project. I know I am.

Over on Teachable, I have a range of courses that you can take and if you require support you can join The Writing Zone, where you will be supported and held accountable.

You don’t tell your family about your important project

Family time is incredibly important, however, for a period of time, you might want some extra space for writing. Instead of screaming at them for interrupting you, include them in our dreams. Ask (or tell) for time. Read your work to them and ask for feedback. Put an amusing notice on the door of your writing space that lets everyone know this is your time.

 Your monkey has taken over the asylum

Mindset plays such a big of any project, not just writing. If you don’t get yours ‘right’ then chances are you will continue to procrastinate.

Watch this funny video from Tim Urban who explains it far better than I

You didn’t start marketing your book before you started writing your book

This doesn’t mean that you mount a huge plan and shove your book in everyone’s face every day. Very subtly you can be letting people know about your book journey.

Ask for case studies, answers to questions, share your book cover ideas, share some of your writing and ask for feedback, ask about titles, blog about it, ask for cover designers and proofreader suggestions (even if you already have them in place), do a podcast or a live broadcast – communicate.

Also, have a well-considered plan that launches and continues to promote your book. Test and tweak. Review what your competitors have done or are doing. Many people think that if they have a publisher that they will market for them. Mmmm, not necessarily, you need to build your platform and be able to market your book.

Many writers tell me that it’s a pain to have to market their book, why should they, surely their role is to write.

When someone is prepared to work with me (or their marketing team) to support their plans, it happens. Marketing happens when you plan and take action, but you knew that anyway, didn’t you?

 You don’t have any follow up products and services planned

A book is never just a book, it is part of your personal brand toolkit. In your toolkit, you could have coaching around your methodology, online courses, a radio show, a Facebook Group, retreats, workshops, a YouTube channel.

Plan these as you are writing your book. One of the best times to plan your course is as you write your book. As you are outlining your book, create a set of PowerPoint slides at the same time.

I have a series of videos for my book Healing Osteoporosis Naturally which enable me to do just that. Each time I make a video I make slides for the course that will come after publication. This means I can sort out all of my glitches as I go along.

You may never record straight from your slides, preferring headshots, however they can become your script, content for slide share, and e-book giveaway.

If you have a workshop that is going to become your book, review and update your workshop at the same time and consider – what else can I create from this. Think outside of your book.

Start developing your product road map now.

The shocking truth as Adam Rowe writing for Forbes points out is that while the traditional publishing industry is flourishing ‘The Publishers Association recently found the UK publishing industry’s £5.7 billion in book sales income to be up 5% over the year prior.’  Authors earnings have dipped by 42% over the last ten years, and that median annual income for professional authors is now below £10,500.

This tells me that we as writers and authors have to find other ways to generate income from our books and wisdom.

Resources

Forbes article on authors earnings

Go on a writers retreat and kick-start your book

One of my fondest memories is going on a fiction writers retreat. So much so it encouraged me to start running writers retreats and up until recently, I ran these in Spain every year. That is until life got in the way. However, as luck would have it, a good friend of my and client who wrote Breathe Better, Sleep Better was chatting to me about her Ayurveda Sleep Retreat.

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Although my sleep is under control, there was a time when it wasn’t and this was because of an undiagnosed overactive thyroid. Which I did sort out. But after having so many years of insomnia I know what it’s like to be menopausal, not sleeping and a complete wreck. When I first spoke with Anandi about her retreat, my prime objective was to find out what she would be doing and if I could use her learning to help me heal osteoporosis, rather than sleep.

Anandi is an Auyerveda specialist and we chatted about ‘types’ and how this retreat could help me to understand myself better, from another perspective. And as is my way, my desire to go on retreat grew.

When I told her that I had planned a writers retreat in Spain, but was concerned with all of the planning and how little energy I currently had, she suggested that I gatecrash hers and invite writers to come and work with me and gain the benefits of her wisdom too.

This means that in the morning we all get to enjoy yoga and connecting with ourselves and in the afternoon you write.

There are many reasons to go on a writers retreat, not least that you get time away from your everyday life and get some peace and head space to get your thoughts down.

You could end up writing over 10,000 words (or more) if you focused.

Back in normal life, just thinking about writing a book, when there’s a job to be done, kids to feed, a partner to please, a car to wash, shopping, cleaning, cooking and whatever else you cram into your day to day life, brings many out in a cold sweat.

I often hear potential authors say if only I could take myself away from it all then I could…

I'm writing a book. I've got the page numbers done. Steven Wright

I get it. When I was living with someone (ok I admit it, I had an annoying husband…)  it was almost impossible to write. There were constant interruptions and I watched my precious writing time disappear into the ether.

The best time I ever had during this stressful part of my life was a week away on a writers retreat, where I was shut off from the world with 15 other potential fiction writers. All I had to concentrate on was writing and the odd cooking session (when it was my turn). I felt like a writer, I lived like a writer, I was a writer and I wrote. It was amazing.

It’s this experience (and better) that we can create on this Ayurveda and Writers Retreat in Tuscany. Have a think about these reasons and then make that all important decision to get away and get writing. Once you have kickstarted your book there is no turning back.

Reasons to come to a writers retreat

Writers retreat. GET AWAY, GIVE YOURSELF THE GIFT OF TIME TO WRITE

  • To find inspiration for your book
  • To turn your ideas into something worth publishing
  • To pull something you are writing into shape
  • To find out how to plan, write, publish and market your book & yourself
  • Find time and space to write (this is my favourite)
  • Share your ideas with like-minded people
  • Get away from your annoying people who don’t get your desire to write…

If you want to get a book kick-started, there is no better way, than getting away. It doesn’t have to be a retreat (I am of course biased), but it does need to be a place where you can work in your way, to achieve your writing outcomes.

You could create your own writers retreat, if getting away is impossible

  • The garden shed – with a big padlock
  • The beach or another quiet location
  • Cafe
  • A hotel
  • Rent an apartment
  • A shepherds hut (chat to Lottie Moore who owns one)

Whichever option you choose, what is important is that you make the time to write and be a writer. Finding your space will enable you to find your flow and your next 10,000 words or more.

Journaling, blogs, books, healing and marketing

What a combination of things to think about, but for me, journaling, writing blogs and books all lead to healing in some way. And when you have a book to market you need to think about how to get it known.

Words are powerful. The words we say to ourselves get interpreted by our bodies and depending on what kind of words you use, you could be healing and harming yourself.

When I was first diagnosed with osteoporosis, the first thing I did was open a brand new journal. A short while later I started another one. One was for the journey, and one is a gratitude journal. The osteoporosis journal was to try and make sense of everything, which included my body, feelings, mindset and things that needed researching. And the other was because I found myself in a low place where nothing made sense, and I wanted to remind myself about the beauty of the world.

The blog for natural osteoporosis awareness was so that I could share my learning and wisdom and in some way help others. This gives me purpose and meaning, which are so important for healing. I didn’t want to write a blog, but it helped me to write my book and create awareness (marketing) in preparation for the launch in October.

I started the book with an idea, my story and a process – a way to create a unique healing plan for your life and for osteoporosis (a chronic dis-ease). Once it was outlined and a few chapters written, I took time out for marketing. This meant:

Then when this was settled, I was back to writing my book.

Each of these stages has given me clarity, purpose and healing. Can you see why I do what I do? This is what you do too.

Think about what it is you have come to Earth to share or teach. Each and every one of you reading this will get some clarity somewhere about what you are doing and the path you are on.

You may be journaling or resisting it, thinking about a book and not sure how to write it or market it. Where ever you are think about these things:-

  • What am I here to do? – Mission
  • What is my vision?
  • What is my core message?

When you know what your mission, vision and core message are, you can create a strategy (the steps to get you to where you want (and need) to go.

Start by buying a journal, get connected to your heart and write. Who knows where your heartfelt words will take you?

Here is a video about starting to journal as a reminder to embrace the power of journaling.

Have a wonderful day.

I have two groups on Facebook that are free – Writing for the soul and Natural Osteoporosis Awareness. Come and join me.

Kay Sanders new book Messages of Inspiration

I met Kay about a year ago and we hit it off immedietly. Kay always inspires me and when she told me it was time for her to write a new book I imagined that we would see it in about six months. Little did I realise that in just 45 days Kay would get her book Messages of Inspiration written and be ready to launch in such a short space of time. Kay is truly an inspiration.

Here is a recording of our recent interview

What inspired you to write this book?

The idea for this book came to me while I was meditating back in December. During my meditation, I received this massive download and divine guidance to write a book filled with 365 inspirational messages from the Universe to bring inspiration and motivation to the world. Initially, I had no idea how I should come up with 365 powerful quotes but by consulting in my Akashic Records, the beings of the light helped me through guidance to get these messages on paper. I felt so very touched that I was gifted this mission to bring these messages to the world to inspire people that anything is truly possible and that no matter how difficult your life may seem, you can do, be and have anything your heart desires and these messages bring a deeper meaning to the readers to help them stay in awe of what is truly possible for them.

What is the title of your latest book?

Messages of Inspiration – 365 Days of Inspiration and Motivation – you can grab a copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07C292JK4  / https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07C292JK4

How did you come up with the title?

The beings of the light told me the name

What is it about?

Messages of Inspiration is an inspirational and motivational book that is meant to inspire its readers that anything is possible for them and that no matter how difficult their life or circumstances might seem, there is always light at the end of the tunnel and always infinite possibilities available to create more joy, happiness and success in one’s life.

How did you come up with the idea?

I received the divine guidance to write this book

Who would you love to read it – what kind of people and why?

Conscious people who have the deep desire for more joy, happiness and success in their life. Who have been searching for answers, who want to be, do and have so much more and who know that life has so much more to offer but they simply have not figured out how to close the gap from where they are right now to manifest what their heart desires and creating a life full of abundance.

What were (or are) the challenges in bringing it to life?

Initially, I did not think I would be able to write 365 quotes and I figured it would take me quite a while to finish this book but with the help of the beings of the light and my record keepers, they helped me write these 365 quotes in as little as 45 days.

If you had to do it all over again, would you change anything in your this book?

Not one thing. I was following divine guidance it is perfect in just the way it is.

What was the best part of bringing your book to life?

Being gifted this huge purpose to bring these messages from the Universe to live and how fast it all came about. Now the best part is that it has already been making major head waves even though it has not even been released yet. Many have been eager to sign up for the accompanying email series and just the amazing comments and testimonials I have received so far warms my heart and I know it will touch so very many hearts and impact their lives.

What did you learn from writing your book?

That if you trust in your own abilities and just allow your inner guidance to take over, you can create something so beautiful that is going to change lives.

What advice do you have for other writers?

Don’t wait to write the story that you hold within you. Writing a book is not as difficult as it may seem and there are many who are just waiting to hear your story. If you think your story is not important enough to be shared, let me assure you it is, and even if your story only impacts one single person that is one person you were able to help and make a difference in their life.

What is your inspirational message for the world?

We often forget that we are infinite beings, who can do, be and have anything our heart desires but we often get derailed by our negative and limiting thoughts, the illusions we live by that keeps us playing small because we fear change, we fear failure, or we simply don’t think more is in store for us.

If you have had this longing to be, do and have more then don’t wait! Don’t be that person who envy’s others for all that they have, for the great lifestyle they live, for the amazing success they experience, for the joy and happiness they radiate. You too can create this lifestyle for yourself; believe that anything is possible, that you too can have all that your heart desires. Abundance, joy, happiness and great success is not something that is reserved for others; you too can create all the abundance, all the joy, all the happiness and all the success your heart desires.

Be the person who does not let their situation or circumstance determine their life. You can choose to say no to all the struggles, say no to the challenges you may be experiencing and say YES to abundance, say YES to Joy, Happiness and immense Success in your life.

What else have you done with your book? (e.g. Turned it into a course/Retreat/Speaking)

It is also available in a daily email series which also includes an action step to take to get the most out of the messages. Soon it will become available as a workbook, I will use it for speaking and I am thinking about turning it into a retreat as well

What opportunities has your book created for you?

So far I have received many opportunities to speak on different podcasts and radio shows, I may be sponsored by the local ballpark for a book signing and I am sure a lot more opportunities will come from it

Share a quote from your book

quote from Kay Sanders

 

Your message is meant to be heard, do not hide your gifts, your message, or yourself behind the illusion that your message is not worth sharing.

What books have influenced your life the most?

Wayne Dyer’s book Excuses Be Gone and Believe it before you see it.  Lisa Barnett’s book on the Akashic Records and many many others

Thinking back to books of your childhood, what were your favourite books and why?

I was an addict to the romance novels of the old times

What book(s) are you reading now?

A lot of spiritually based books, personal development books and some business building books but mainly the spiritual books have caught my interest

What do you do for fun?

That is a very good question, I tend to work a lot but during my downtime. I love to meditate, read, be out in nature, and just BE

Meet Kay Sanders

Kay Sanders new book Messages of InspirationKay Sanders, known as the Creator of Possibilities is an Intuitive Business Coach, Certified Akashic Record Consultant, and Bestselling Author.

Kay helps conscious entrepreneurs find that missing piece to create momentum in their Business and re-ignite their Manifesting Mojo so they can make a difference in the world, create more freedom in their life and tap into the magic and power of manifesting their heart’s desire.

Where can we find out more about you?

https://www.kaysanders.com/

http://www.messagesofinspiration.com

https://www.facebook.com/kaysanders80

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Nine powerful reasons to write a book when you are disillusioned about life

Why should anyone write a book? Why would anyone want to write a book? Especially if they are disillusioned about life?

Life sometimes doesn’t deal you with the hand you expect. Often you start on one pathway and end up on another seemingly unrelated one. The truth is, at least this is what I believe is that the path you are on is always the right path. It may feel like crap; you may be unwell, unhappy, trapped and in a place that you would rather not be.

Breathe.

Over the last weeks dealing with pain and discovery of things I’d rather not deal with puts me in a place of discomfort. A place where I have to call on every fibre of my being to keep me going. What I observe about myself is that generally, I am the epitome of positivity. Right now I’m positive and I am focused on my health, doing lots of good things, but I feel rubbish, mentally, physically and spiritually. What I know is that because of the kind of person I am that I can find something good to come from it.

This is where writing comes in. Writing is healing, not only for you but for your reader. The world needs your story. Stories are the backbone of humanity. It’s where and how we connect.

When I connect with others in the osteoporosis forums, I am astounded by the stories. My heart is touched by what people endure with what is called a silent dis-ease. That is it sneaks up on you because no one told you that you had to look after your bones. Just like no one told you that periods would hurt or menopause would almost drive you insane.

These brave people (men and women) have stories that could help another person to know that there is hope.

Ok, not all of them will want to write, not all of them will feel like they want to inspire anyone as they battle with pain, confusion and overwhelm. But there will be some who will want to share their stories, knowledge and wisdom so that those receiving diagnoses have a source of wisdom and a reference point.

The case for writing books will never end. As humans, we make meaning from words. We connect emotionally with stories.

You never know where your book will end up and whose heart it will touch.

I decided to write a book about my journey, I just woke one morning and decided that I must share what I learn and how I learn to look after my heart, body and soul in a new way. As I start to plan it out, what is interesting is that I do not know what the ending will be and that doesn’t matter. What matters is how I deal with things so that others can be inspired by that and can consider what their strategy might be.

Write a book and trust that the right people will read your words.

Yeah ok, it takes a lot of work and to write the right book. That’s because it is such a valuable asset. Not just for you, but for the galactic library that we are creating.

Humanity needs words. We need help to find meaning.

When I work with my clients, I often hear ‘wow, this book is not how I imagined writing a book would be. It has gone deeper than I could have ever imagined.’

That’s because writing reaches into the depths of your soul. So just think what will happen when you write your story from a sacred place of divine wisdom. The wisdom you have because of your life’s journey and work.

Why ‘should’ you write a book when you are disillusioned about life?

You have experiences that need to be shared. The wisdom that could help someone else’s life and sanity.

It seems to me that no matter who we are we have many of life’s riches to share. When life touches us in places we didn’t expect we wake to who we are. When I meet and work with women like me, I am often deeply moved by what they have lived through and how they have come to be. Their stories are magical. They are about expansion and transformation. And as their stories touch another, we each change and we become a part of a global transformation.

As we become whole, we can support others to discover their path to wholeness.

Why now?

We are standing on the edge of an Earth that is crumbling beneath us. A planet that does not wants us – our Mother is fed up with us. We, the human race, the alleged intelligent ones are destroying what was lovingly provided for us.

But…

We are waking up. Taking ownership of our minds, bodies and soul. Eating better food and finding ways to create a healthy body, mind and soul so that they have the essential nutrients to undertake their life’s work. They are treating themselves, the planet and other sentient beings with respect.

There is a lot to learn from people who have been through some not so pleasant experiences

What are the nine powerful reasons you ‘should’ write a book?

#1 – Writing a book will change you

Are you prepared for the change that writing a book will bring you? You may think that you will be writing out your experiences and offering advice and observations. I’d ask you to think again.

Nothing can prepare you for the profound shift you will go through, so pull up your big girl pants and get ready for the ride. You may think you know your story and the wisdom you have come to share. However, planning and then putting pen to paper will change you as you allow all of you to rise.

You won’t be living in the past and going back to your dark place and reliving it. You will be writing from the inside out, but from another perspective. You will be in it yet not in it. As you do the inside work, you can then stand on the outside and see yourself with more clarity and a better perspective.

I warn you writing a book is going to test you in ways you will have never considered. Just when you thought it was time to slow down, more opportunities for personal growth appear.#1 - Writing a book will change you

Never doubt that you are good enough to write a book or think that no one wants to hear your story. Have faith and trust. They will.

#2 – Others see you differently

We can never truly know what goes on in another’s life. We read comments in Facebook groups and shares on personal pages, but nothing will prepare others for the story you share. These daily snippets do not tell the whole story – they are moments in time. Others cannot be in your body to know what life is like for you when you are in the midst of your worst times.

When you bare your heart and soul, you will feel vulnerable. This is exposing to others the bones of who you are. They will love it, and if they don’t, then they are not your people.

When my life changed again just a short while ago, I was angry, not raging, more of a fed up angry. I stared at the sky and asked why? And then I could see that no matter what my outcome is, others would want to see what is possible for them. From experience, I know that when stories are shared that others will see you in a new light. The light of understanding.

#2 - Others see you differently

This is a perfect time to dare to be, to heal, be vulnerable, dig out your courage and dare to inspire.

#3 – When you write a book, you learn new skills

Let’s turn this around. When you read a book, you learn lots of things to support the knowledge that you seek. For example, I am currently knee deep in books about osteoporosis and nutrition. I am learning new things every day and gaining new perspectives on myself. Some of these books are highly technical with lots of biological terms which don’t make them so easy to whizz through, but I figure that as there isn’t a test at the end who cares?

As I learn all of this new stuff and it becomes a part of my bank of wisdom, I am able to integrate this learning into my being. The same applies when you write a book.

As I live my life, read books, write and accumulate knowledge, I learn something new about me.

The same thing happens when you embark on your journey to writing a book:-

  • Researcher
  • Writer
  • Storyteller
  • Planner / Project Manager
  • Editor
  • Proofreader – although you must always outsource this
  • Psychologist
  • Marketer
  • Strategist
  • Techie

Some of these tasks you can and must outsource. Undertake a skills and knowledge audit and see what you can innately do, what you can do with support and what has to be delegated.

#3 - When you write a book, you learn new skills

You may be surprised at what transferable skills you have.

#4 – Writing creates a connection between the dots of values, vision and core message

Do you have a core message? Do you live your life by your values? What is your vision?

Before embarking on writing a book, you need to know what your values, passion, purpose, vision and the core message for your book are. Sometimes we lose sight of these or become disconnected from them. When you start to consider what you would want to write a book, become reacquainted with them and join the dots. You will write a better book.

When you are writing, actually putting pen to paper or fingers to the keyboard you will need to know what the core message of your book is. You do this at the planning stage and so when you write each chapter can tap into that. Then when you are ready to market your book, you can build your marketing messages from these words and concepts.

#4 - Writing creates a connection between the dots of values, vision and core message

You will do this based on your values and this will make that vital connection to the heartbeat of another.

#5 – Writing a book reconnects you to your humanity

Stories move me. Your story will move others. By sharing your stories and wise words which have been life-changing, others will feel humbled, I know I do. We are not alone.  People the world over have been through so much, you wonder how they can bare it. We do, we are strong (you are) and we grow, and we know that we are not alone. We stand united in the power of what it means to be human.

I know what it means to experience a life which hasn’t been easy, life can be a tough journey. When I look at my experiences, they pale into mists compared to the horror of what some endure. I am filled with pride for my sisters and brothers. Every story fills a gap in someone’s life.

#5 - Writing a book reconnects you to your humanity

When you write yours and see the words on the page and consider what it has meant to you to go through your life you will, I believe, feel a deeper connection to your humanity.

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#6 – It’s no longer about just about knowledge and skills it’s about knowing, wisdom and shared experiences

Data is good. Information is incredible. Knowledge is powerful. Wisdom is a force you cannot reckon with.

Experiences carry a stronger vibration, than just facts. When you share your experiences, others connect emotionally and make meaning. You are now a person of influence, which brings great responsibility, who can create a lasting impact on others lives and the conscious choices they make.

#6 - It's no longer about just about knowledge

As you write, you develop a more profound sense of knowing and a depth of wisdom about who you are, your identity and your place in the history of the planet waking up.

#7 – Writing a book will enable you to understand and examine who you are

We talked about values, now ask what do you stand for? Are you a champion or a leader for something? Do you want to change the world or at least some part of it? Do you want to empower others? What?

You do not have to paint your face, make up a placard and march for your rights, but you might want to. I have, I used to march against animal cruelty. Writing your book will awaken a calling. When I work with my clients, I am often amazed at what else comes out of the book planning and writing process. These people are incredible humans who will make a difference.

This process wakes them up to what is possible for them to create.

The process may tear you apart (not in a horrible way) and ask you to examine who you are.

What I do is create a space for you through writing to be heard. Really listened to. Listening to your heart and soul and letting you know that I hear you.

I hear you, and my desire is that the other ears that are meant to hear your inspirational message hear you. Just imagine if someone reading your book gets as much out of it as you do writing it.

When you share your story, you will connect emotionally and spiritually with your readers in a way that goes beyond traditional marketing.

#7 - Writing a book will enable you to understand and examine who you are

When you pour the undiluted beauty of you into a book, you will examine what you stand for and you will do something to inspire others.

#8 – When you write a book you give birth to new ideas

So you think you know what you will be writing about, do you? What I love about this process is that when people write, they make new connections. That might be connections within the text, but it may also be other ways to share their core message.

When I experience, hear, see or read things, my mind goes ping, ping, ping and I see many opportunities and start connecting so many dots. It is exciting.

The same will happen to you as you plan and write your book. These might be a conference, an online course, a cause, a coaching program, a retreat or another book. Who knows?

#8 - When you write a book you give birth to new ideas

Leave the portals of your mind wide open and allow the opportunities to gather in the spaces.

#9 – You empower other people to know what is possible for them

This is my favourite. Sisters and brothers supporting each other on this journey called life. Humans allowing, acknowledging and embracing other humans. Stories, your powerful, practical, personal words can transform lives. At a time when the world seems fragmented, we need hope. We need authentic connections. Stories help to create community and words create meaning. When we have connection, community and a common purpose we can create lasting change.

#9 - You empower other people to know what is possible for them

As writers, we can create space for others to recharge their power pack and giving them tools and space to know what is possible for them.

Despite all of your ideal reader planning, you can never know whose hands your book will land in, Nor can you know how it will change their thinking and reason to be. Just know that it will.

My dream is that you will write a book and share your story

It is quite a big step, this writing about yourself malarky which you may not find easy. You will be baring your soul and may be opening yourself up to judgement. Well, I say sod what others think of you. What they think is none of your business, your job is to stand tall and tell your truth. And there is a way to tell your truth that keeps you inside the law, so don’t worry about that.

Please take your life’s experiences, your story, divine inner wisdom, knowledge and skills which have supported your life changes and use them to inspire others. All stories have their place.

Don’t waste your life lessons. Don’t hide behind your disillusionment. We came to Earth to learn and to use those lessons to be a change in the world. If this means that you feel vulnerable so be it – you have a valuable and inspirational message to share.

We are here to live, laugh and love, to be love and to do that we need the courage and confidence to stand up loud and proud of who we are. I have your back, so does the Universe and your God.

Your mission…

Is to write a book, are you up for it?

If writing a book is on your mind, call me for an informal chat, let’s see how we can bring your ideas and wisdom to life.

How to write a book, one chunk at a time

When you think about how to write a book, what comes to mind? A huge insurmountable project? Something that is achievable, if only you knew how? Yeah, it’s easy to write a book? What?

Just take a few moments to think about what it means to you to write a book and how you feel about that question.

If you have been reading my recent blog articles, you’ll know that I recently received a bit of a shock when I was told that I had osteoporosis and a couple of compression fractures. After spending 16 days in bed, with 11 of them without my precious doggies, I started to think about how could I help other people who learn about this to understand how it is manifested and how to sort through the mass of information to make some informed conscious choices.

My core mission is inspiring people to find themselves and have the courage to write a book so that they can encourage others to know what is possible for them. Was the Universe having a laugh with me I wondered? I certainly found a different way to end the book that I am currently editing – Rude Awakenings. It was supposed to have a happy ending… Although I have changed the ending, I do see it as a new beginning, albeit painful right now.

The dietary changes are playing havoc with my system, but hey whats not to love about detoxing and rebalancing your body? Like the book, I’m dealing with my health, one chunk at a time.

As I was journaling it became so apparent to me that I had to write a book. I have a working title which is Osteoporosis and Me. I’ve already fleshed out a few chapters and actually quite excited.

So what about you and the book you want to write?

Writing a book may seem a purely creative endeavour, however, to get to the writing bit you have to plan it and to get to the publishing bit you have to edit and do lots of other stuff like book covers and marketing. All of these aspects of getting your book published require that you use your brain in entirely different ways.

The first thing to consider is how to make any ‘task’ easier.

Write a book by chunking it

I’m a project person, so I break all of my big projects down into mini projects with milestones. As I get a part done, I can congratulate myself, and I can take myself off to do something else to take me away from the project. This means for me that when I come back, it feels fresh new and exciting.

We naturally chunk information up, down or laterally so that we can make sense of it. Some of us by the nature of how we like to learn, need to have a big picture before tackling the detail, while others hate the big picture and want lots of detail.

This also applies to your ideal reader. When your reader is searching for meaning in your words, they will chunk up, chunk down and chunk laterally.

  • Chunked up – where it becomes more vague and big picture.
  • Chunked down – where it becomes more specific and detailed.
  • Chunk laterally – move across to find other examples (metaphor, analogy).

By chunking up, you can distract the conscious mind and speak directly to the unconscious mind. Your unconscious mind has all of the answers just waiting to be unlocked. If your book is designed to get your reader thinking and to reflect this is a good technique to employ.

Back to you and how to write a book in chunks

The chunks of a book are:-

  • Planning
  • Writing
  • Editing to the final manuscript – before you send it off to your proofreader

The planning chunk

Here you are looking at creating a detailed outline. An outline by its very nature is a long list of stuff that makes up your book, broken into smaller pieces, with milestones which makes it easier for you to write around them.

Book planner

The writing chunk

Using a chapter framework means that each chapter is subdivided into sections, which guess what makes it easier to write. You will write your first, draft usually in chapter chunks and then leave it before you start on your edit in earnest. Here’s a video here where I talk about one part of that process.

The editing chunk

In this chunk, we also create an editing plan which gives us smaller tasks to do. Also in the editing phase as mentioned above, you are looking at how you can chunk your writing (up, down and across) so that you can connect to your reader’s learning style.

Some final thoughts

  • The truth is it is always easier to look at how you like to work and use your preferences to ensure that you tackle this project in a way that will work for you.
  • If you are struggling, make it easy on yourself and do things in chunks.
  • Make sure you have a plan.
  • Set time aside and take action.
  • Find yourself a buddy or a book coach.

Let me leave you with this if you have tried chunking and it is still not producing the right book, or you find yourself procrastinating, check first if this is the right book. If it is, then, consider what else is getting in the way? If it is not the right book, go back to the planning stage and consider what your core message is and who you want to read it and why? There are more questions and if you want to explore, connect with me and let’s chat.

Powerful journaling when the unexpected happens

When the unexpected happens, I always without fail turn to journaling. I say it time and again, journaling, writing and words have the power to change lives.

Two weeks ago,  I’d just emerged from the shower; the dogs were dancing around me, I was singing and playing with them on the way to get some clothes. I reached over and heard three loud cracks. You know the kind the ones that a chiropractor may make when adjusting you. They always sound worse than they really are. Air moving and allowing the synovial jell to move into place – or something like that.

Except this hurt… a lot, I swore, and I cried, and then I remembered to breathe through it. I swallowed some painkillers and called my osteopath. Driving to her clinic my thoughts were, this is good right; my body has made its own adjustment. How clever am I??

My mum has osteoporosis which was discovered in her 70’s, and since then I’ve become obsessed with my spine health. The question I always ask is ‘is my spine straight?’ What I mean by this is it how a spine should be, spines wouldn’t work if they were dead straight.

Back home I carried on as normal and dealt with the pain. But I was pleased that I had another appointment the following week.

My journaling started to change direction. I can tell you as a long-term journaler that I am never surprised when my pen goes off tangents. This journaling malarky is very enlightening.

What came up were initially three words, unloved, unappreciated and unsupported. They looked negative and ugly. I separated the un from the other part and thought about where I was loved, appreciated and supported. Then I went back to the ugly words. I wrote letters to others, a love letter to me, I reflected, and I discovered patterns and ahas.

Then I reframed. I was loved, appreciated and supported. I started to write, and this was incredible. My heart swelled with the love that surrounds me.

We forget the good stuff when the shit is going on.

Look at other words disease and disorder. When you are told you have a disease or a disorder what happens? Your mind goes into some kind of freefall. Take the dis off.

  • Dis-ease – ahhhhh ease. How do we bring back ease? Think about it.
  • Dis-order – how do you bring balance and order back into your life.

The way I see it osteoporosis no matter how freaking painful right now, is not a disease or a disorder, it is an imbalance in my biochemistry.

We know that there is a mind-body connection, so it is not a surprise to me that these three words (love, appreciation and support) directly correspond to the thoracic spine and probably other areas. And when I consider my life’s experiences and response to those it makes sense. When you look at events, you can see triggers. But of course we forget these, and that’s why journaling will surface them for you to deal with them.

It’s not like someone has you naked on a cold floor and chained to the radiator screaming and beating you until you open your eyes to your pain, yet it can feel like that.

Why do we resist going to the roots of what is causing us pain?

Personally, I didn’t know that I was, I was looking elsewhere at other things. I was focusing on learning how to love me, and I found myself in a place of inner peace and contentment. Which bizarrely makes what I am going through so much easier.

We have to learn our stuff in incremental steps.

After the second treatment the pain escalated and I went to the doctor who looked and said your spine is curved to one side, and there is a bulge, off you go for x-rays.

A few days later I find out why.

I have been at home dealing with a) the news that I have spinal compression fractures and osteoporosis in my thoracic spine. b) pain c) emotions.

Each day is different.

Many of you reading this are on other tough journies. Some of your experiences are incredible. I cannot imagine what it must be like to live some stuff or to be in a country ravaged by famine or war. We find ourselves, where we find ourselves and the human spirit is strong and wise.

Writing is so immensely powerful at a time like this. I’ve researched and journaled my socks off. There is always so much more to learn about ourselves when we open our souls to the pen.

Journaling through the Kubler Ross change curve

I am reminded of the Kubler Ross change curve – which is used in change management and grief.

  • Shock
  • Resistance /Denial / Disbelief / Anger
  • Frustration /Self Doubt / Awareness
  • Depression / Blame / Victim
  • Acceptance
  • Experiment / Exploration / Letting go
  • Action / Decision / Choice
  • Integration / Commitment / Focus

I have added a load of other words, but you get the drift.

This also makes me think about your stories.

Look at your experiences and journey and if you are thinking of writing a book, go through these stages and break it all down. Write, scribble, use post its or talk on your phone (record your thoughts).

  • Where do you find yourself right now?
  • What resources would you need at that stage (think of the person reading your book)
  • What happened before and what was the trigger?
  • What choices did you make? How did they work out? What would you have done differently?
  • What choices or decisions are you making now?
  • What results are these choices yielding?
  • What would you have done differently at any stage?
  • How would you like to see things progress?
  • What vision do you have for your future?
  • How will you get there?

I’ve started a separate journal for this journey (top tip). I like different places to write, and something tells me that journalling about this daily has a purpose.

I wonder how fast any of us moves through this when faced with ‘something’.

Or what kind of people stay stuck in each of the stages? Or why they do?

Or what you call on to support you to help you to move forward?

We are all different.

I kind of feel I have whizzed through this and clearly still exploring as I work with my doctor for the bloods and stuff that I can’t do myself and my amazing nutritionist who will guide me with her strong, powerful wisdom and remind me to breathe and no dogs on the bed.

I am also focused and dedicated to the task ahead.

I never realised how much I want to be alive and to help others with their personal journies and to support them to get their stories out there.

There are so many people in pain and denial, and they need to know that if others can get through things they can. They need useful information and wisdom to find their way.

Journaling will help you find answers

Keep writing and journaling guys it is so powerful to understand you and to help you to get your message out to whoever needs to hear it and that doesn’t have to be the world it could be your family and friends.

So wish me luck with the hairy hounds who will no doubt be demanding treats and licks.

PS: I am very interested in your comments about how you deal with things for a series of blogs – please PM me, you can be quoted or remain anonymous, but I would love to hear your stories and to support you as well.

What makes a good piece of writing and it’s not what you think

When does a piece of writing go from being a piece of writing to a piece of writing?

Confused?

Don’t be. We know that first drafts are often considered rubbish. Every writer, who has ever been honest with themselves will tell you that they feel the same. The truth is that they are often not rubbish, they are in fact pretty good, and as a piece of writing, they just need a bit of tarting up.

Don’t believe me?

Stop what you are doing and write an article, the first 1000 words for your next chapter or a blog. And if you absolutely cannot write, remember this writer’s block is rarely about writing, it is often something else that is going on in your life.

Let it flow. It is when it flows from the heart that you get the pure essence of what you are trying to say.

Ok. It may be messy, clunky, not your best piece, but the truth is you got it out and now you have something to work on, and that is good, right?

But you may wail, how do I make it into something worthy?

Don’t touch it – get your hands off!

Reflection. Silence. Nothingness.

Your desire to fiddle and meddle is strong when you want a perfect piece of writing or a perfect something. I can remember going to a painting class my impatience destroyed my painting. I will admit it was a pretty dull landscape and my full attention was not in the class, but even so, I fiddle and to much hilarity, it was seriously binable. Don’t let your writing suffer in the same way.

The magic comes when you leave well alone and go and do something else. In those other moments, connections are made. Sit in silence, go for a walk, meditate, breathe in emptiness and wallow in nothing. For any kind of writing, I get my best ideas in silence.

Scribble, doodle and colour in

The seemingly aimless activity of doodling or scribbling allows you to go into a meditative state. Even better colouring a mandala with a keyword or message written on the sheet is a powerful way of unlocking your unconscious. Try it and keep a pad of paper by your side, you will get lots of aha’s while you create colourful patterns.

Mandala heart 1

Read something else

I love delving into a good bit of fiction when I am writing as it allows me to explore ways in which others write. Losing myself in the art of story and fantasy is delicious, as is a bit of trying to work the plot out.  In fact, I am somewhat obsessed with reading because I want to know what happens next while guessing what the twist is. This helps as my mind is allowed to escape from what I am penning and explore.

 

Let your imagination have the freedom of your mind to connect with your reader

While cogitating on your novel challenge myself to a bit more creative meandering. Bring to mind your ideal reader – what do you know about their characters, culture, where they live, eat, do, wear, what systems and processes they have in place, how they communicate, etc. Then let go.

Be your best critic

So that’s the creative meandering over, and it’s time for some work.

When you come back to your writing piece, read, reflect and rewrite. Look for repeated words, long sentences, ways in which you can bring your writing alive. Don’t settle for what you have, know that alchemy is about transformation. When you remove the elements that don’t work, add in words that sparkle and take time to ponder, the dots will as if by magic join together. Use something like Grammarly which will cause you to stop and think about your writing with its helpful comments like ‘you have a squinting modifier’ or ‘a dangling preposition’, and it will certainly tell you that you have overused words.

You have to be your best critic because if you don’t, someone else will.

Persevere, it will be worth it. However, remember there is a time to let go of being perfect and publishing. Being a critic is one thing, letting go of critical judgement is another. Critique, do your best, publish and learn. Yes, you will miss something. Yes, the Grammar Police will spot a no-no. But here is the important thing – you wrote, you reflected, and you brought your writing alive in the best way that you could. Congratulations.

Writing is a muscle, and the more you do it, the better you get, and like those pretty yellow shoes that you fancy, not everyone will love it.

If the writing bug is calling you and you would love to be a part of a group where we cover, journaling, creative life writing, plus memoir and personal story come and join The Writing Zone. In the Writers Lounge, you will be supported and have lots of fun.

PS: There are mandalas and writing prompts galore in The Writing Zone.

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